To think is not too nosy?

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My dp thinks I’m very nosy. I think I’m inquisitive. If someone tells me something and it interests me, I will do some research on the topic later. Or if I meet someone who interests me, I’ll look them up later.

Most recent example he thought was strange is that we went on holiday and got talking to a couple. Knew first names only and the area they lived in. They mentioned they’d just sold their business and seemed like they had a LOT of money. They were also very vague about what the business was but said along the lines of “We sold carpets”.

So from that info I was able to spend about 20 mins tracking down who they were. Could see how much their business sold for and how much their house cost e t c

Does anyone else do this? I’m just interested in people. I can find out lots off little info and see it perhaps as a challenge for my detective skills.

I fail to see how this affects your partner. Perhaps keep your detective work to yourself.

I think now that we can, lots of us do. Thereby shocking the lots that don't, to whom it seems weird and slightly creepy.

I often do this. Just because I like information and knowledge and have plenty of time on my hands.

I wouldn't expect someone I met on holiday to be going through my finances, no. I wouldn't like it.

I think I'll be wary of talking to people on holiday in future!

thats creepy

Very creepy. Stalkerish.

It's not nosey.. its borderline stalkerish behaviour.

Spending 20 minutes doing some FBI research when only knowing someone's first name is most definitely a level or two above nosey! If they wanted you to know that information, they probably would have shared it.

It's different if someone mentions something you might be interested in like an artist, a new restaurant or a hobby - researching those is normal I would think. Researching the actual person themselves is the odd bit to me!

Perhaps you should get some of those cold case files you can have delivered and try to solve them?! That could feed the challenge for your detective skills and be fun.

I've been lying to people I meet on holiday for years. I used to tell them I was a vet but changed over to tax inspector when I realised the vet notion just prompted a lot of questions. Tax inspector closed it right down!

This. You sound like you weren’t interested in them as people, just in how much money they had.

I think it’s really odd behaviour.

That's 💯 nosey .. yes we all
Look people up ..but to do that from a person you have just meet .. that's not nice

A woman after my own heart….

My husband and I did this exact thing to look up one of the nct dads family business and how much the couple paid for their house …. 😅😅😅
and yes he was absolutely loaded…

we are absolutely nosey! So are most of our friends 😅

Chatting to someone who likes medieval poetry and then going away and learning more of the topic is fine.

Researching how much an acquaintance sold their business for is definitely not normal inquisitive behaviour

Reading more on a topic that's interested you it's one thing, looking into someone's finances after a brief meet on holiday is another! That's incredibly intrusive!

Absolutely something I would do. 😂

I think it’s awful actually. What is it to do with you how much money they have or how much they sold their business / house for? Get a life.

I really hadn't realised there were people like this, yikes.

It's not just nosey, it's intrusive in the extreme. I'm glad that my information is locked down.

I think there is something really wrong with people who do this and it's nothing to do with being inquisitive. I'm actually shocked that it's considered in any way normal behaviour.

It’s a bit odd, and I can’t imagine caring this much about people I’d met on holiday who I’ll never meet again. But if the information is that easily available online, fill your boots. Unless you also plan to start stalking them in person, they’ll never know about it.

I consider myself a nosey bugger and even I think you are a bit odd for digging up info on people you don't even know!

I do this all the time although I don't normally tell my dh

Also people always think that there is nothing online about them.

I think it's very odd behaviour. Definitely borderline stalking