To think is not too nosy?

[azureazure]

My dp thinks I’m very nosy. I think I’m inquisitive. If someone tells me something and it interests me, I will do some research on the topic later. Or if I meet someone who interests me, I’ll look them up later.

Most recent example he thought was strange is that we went on holiday and got talking to a couple. Knew first names only and the area they lived in. They mentioned they’d just sold their business and seemed like they had a LOT of money. They were also very vague about what the business was but said along the lines of “We sold carpets”.

So from that info I was able to spend about 20 mins tracking down who they were. Could see how much their business sold for and how much their house cost e t c

Does anyone else do this? I’m just interested in people. I can find out lots off little info and see it perhaps as a challenge for my detective skills.

I would imagine that you would do just that, if you didn't have to pay for them.

It can sometimes also be helpful to know more about people you don't know well. I know that my apprently childless neighbours lost their only child in an accident long before we moved in, thanks to a snoop on her Facebook page (we're not Facebook friends but it was open to all). It means I am careful not say the wrong thing / put my foot in it

I LOOOOVE people. Internet people are maddening but the ones you meet outside??? ❤️! I want to know everything about you because I am deeply interested and I find other people fascinating.

My previous projects include:

1. Learning about how to communicate effectively with autistic people.
2. How to educate children and how their brains work.
3. How the human heart functions.
4. Reasons why men find it hard to tell you how they feel and how to talk to them properly.
5. The life experience of trans and non-binary people.
6. How to reassure anxious people when you are hosting.
7. What being “selectively mute” means.
8. How do white people view racism and why they are often not open to you discussing it.

I love it - stay curious OP.

Blimey. Are you not capable of just not, you know, saying the wrong thing? Asking pointed questions that are absolutely none of your business? So if somebody doesn't feel the need to put personal information accessible to nosey parkers then they're fair game to be quizzed and grilled?

Tact and diplomacy never goes out of fashion, it hopefully never will.

I would do this if a neighbours house sold as I’d be interested in local house prices, but googling someone I met on holiday to find out how much money they had I find really creepy and stalkerish. Well past nosey.

I'm with you Op . I am also curious / nosy and love looking at property online / prices etc .
I entirely disagree with those that say it is stalkerish behaviour / bordering on stalkerish behaviour .

I think it would only be so that if you used the information to make further contact / unwelcome contact in the future .

I do it when I am bored and if I remember someone e.g I used to work with I will check to see what they are up to now . I wouldn't contact them .

If someone mentions a topic I am interested in I would absolutely look it up later - something like if they said they had read a particular book, or had a particular hobby that sounded interesting, or had bought an item that sounded useful.

What you are describing is not that, it is creepy. It adds no value to your life, just lets you garner information about someone you met briefly in passing to gossip/judge them about. Do you not feel grimy after you have done it, if you feel pleased with yourself it isn't normal. You need to get a better hobby.

Yeah, that's a bit creepy.

You sound like my kind of person. This is exactly what I would do.

If you’re ’interested In people’ have you thought about simply asking them when you talk to them? Maybe say oh nice to meet you! Yes hi Jane, my name is Laura. Yes ohh you’ve just moved? Where did you live before? How much did you sell the house for? How much equity did you have in it? How much was the new house? How much do you get paid? Oh ! You sold a business? How much did you sell it for? What will you do with the money? Do you have a will? How will you share it out? Have you got other financial investments? How much is in each of those?
Oh thanks! Was so good talking to you.

Not going to happen is it, because you know it’s not normal to speak like this in daily life and it’s not normal to stalk people for the information either.

What do you do with the info?

My God😳. People actually do this. So creepy

But why do you do it and what do you do with info? Gossip? I find it really crass and undignified.

How can you think that’s not nosy?? I mean, do it if you want but yes you’re nosy so just own it

My ilk? 😀 what is google for if not to look up information?

And why would anyone put things on the internet that they wouldn’t tell a stranger in a bar? Because that is what publishing your information on the internet is akin to- you are telling the entire world- you can’t then complain that people find out about you.

Agree. OP the couple on holiday DID think you were nosy and they did not want to entertain it. They were vague because you were being overbearing and asking questions that were none of your business. So you stalk them instead. Really odd behaviour. I can not believe this is something that adult people do. Bizarre

I do this it all the time.
I should perhaps add that I find it rather warming, @azureazure, that a quick Google appears to show that you, yourself, also spend your time crocheting tea-cosies and doilies whilst letting down tyres of those you regarding as 'unsavoury types' and throwing stones at pigeons in the park. Good for you!

I've done similar from time to time, although a few times I've found out things I'd rather not know, such as criminal records etc.

Agree with this. It's a bit creepy.

yes I definitely do this and so do most of my friends! Its all public information, I don’t see what’s weird or intrusive about looking up information that is legally, publicly available. Yes, it is nosy but its really not that deep. I wouldn’t give a monkeys if someone wanted to Google the same stuff about me

Creepy and stalkerish.

It's nosy but I'll admit I do it haha Nothing bloody wrong with it so long as you don't use the information for ill intent

I don't. I'm not interested enough in anyone to want to know about them, especially other holidaymakers.

Most people haven't really consented to a lot of their personal info being readily available for any busybody who wants to look - I don't remember being asked if I wanted the world to know how much I bought my house for!
Just because something is a matter of public record, that doesn't make it right to go searching things out which are none of your business.