Sick of wasting my life because of the rain

[GoodnightAdeline]

I don’t care how many people say ‘it was always like this..’ yes it rained a lot when I was a kid but now it does nothing BUT rain.

I swear to God out of the last 30 days we have had 1 or maybe 2 where it wasn’t fucking raining. And they’re always midweek.

I feel like all we do is sit inside going stir crazy waiting for the rain to stop. I have 2 small children and while they’re desperate to go to the park/beach, even they’re not keen in a torrential downpour with everything covered in mud.

I’m sick of all my plans being cancelled, staring out of the window at depressing grey skies and trying to figure out how to pass the weekend without spending a ton of cash on expensive (and brief) indoor activities.

It’s driving me fucking crazy and not an exaggeration to say it’s sending me into some kind of low level depression. 🍷

I'm a dog walker. I spend at least 6 hours outside daily. I agree that this year has been exceptionally wet so far. I see the effects of this in saturation levels of land that I've walked on for years, increased efforts of farmers and landowners to manage and improve drainage and agricultural land seems to have been affected evidenced by usual farming routines being out of sync compared to mid March in other years.

The above worries notwithstanding I have enjoyed being outdoors despite the rain. I have decent kit, but I also don't stress about getting wet. I can't and don't let it stop me enjoying being outside. I accept some people just can't enjoy being out in the rain, but it's not a given for others.

I have missed the cold crisp proper wintery weather though. It's been noticeably warmer which is a shame and a concern.

All those things sound lovely in nice weather but my idea of hell in the rain.

A few people have asked me where I live but what difference does it make? It’s completely irrelevant if your exact part of the country has had 14% less rain than mine or whatever. As you can see, posters from all over the country are reporting the same thing.

I'm not even in the UK (elsewhere in Europe) and I'm feeling the same this year. It just seems to rain rain and rain some more.

Everyone I talk to across Northern Europe complains constantly about the weather this year. It's awful.

We love it, my 5 year old has been playing in the sea all year round. I usually have a towel and a onesie waiting in the car (in a thermal picnic bag with a hot water bottle) for a quick change afterwards, blanket over him when he's in the car, heaters on and he's soon toasty again.

He also likes to get a camping chair and umbrella and sit in the garden in the torrential rain.

I think for him it comes out of being a covid toddler where all we could do for months was go for walks so rain and a puddle were significant entertainment!

He also has adhd though so is a nightmare if he doesn't get out a couple of times a day.

The dog hates it though!

And the ground is so wet the local forest has become the local lake, we have to take the dog for a walk on the tarmac roads.

DP lives in the north in the Pennines I live near London.
We send each other morning pics.
His pics always contain some clouds or it's pissing it down. Day after day. Brief respite then rain. Temps are markedly lower in his area too.
Maybe that's why there are quite a few dams in his area.
Even he's getting pissed off with the incessant rain.

I think your expectations of the UK are a bit unreasonable! We’ve never had lovely sunny weather where you can do all the things you’d describe in the early months of the year.

However, you can go on lovely forest walks, beach walks etc when it’s raining - get a decent rain coat with a hood, waterproof trousers and waterproof walking boots. You hardly notice it’s raining in that! Obviously in an absolute downpour you might, but in general drizzle and rain you are fine. Then come in to the warm, and get cozy with a cup of tea or whatever you prefer!

I also can’t be the only one who doesn’t want to tramp around all day in ugly waterproof trousers. They’re not only hideous but sweaty and uncomfortable.

I have a sneaky suspicion that the long lists of all the wonderful things people do in the rain, and insistence that rain makes not a jot of difference, has the same provenance as the Mumsnet chicken, and the massive salad.

It is not a sign of moral superiority to be ENTIRELY unbothered by the rain.

Also I don’t believe you.

Everyone - EVERYONE- with the exception of tortured poets, would rather a perfect spring day, with blue skies and gently scudding clouds, balmy temperatures and the ability to sit on a fucking bench without soaking your arse to the bone, than this endless wet. Everyone.

It's got to be Manchester!

Move to somewhere dry and sunny?

Just pop to the beach in the rain?? But watch out for the wind blowing the sand everywhere, the sand all over the shoes getting back in the car, freezing cold wet hands, etc. doesn’t sound fun to me every week.

Yes!!!! 👏🏻

When it’s pissing with rain here literally nobody is out frolicking in waterproofs with a bunch of delighted children. You get the odd resigned looking dog walker and that’s it. These people are mostly fictional in my experience.

Well you can’t have your cake and eat it.. either wear the appropriate clothes to go out in or complain about not being able to leave the house - your choice

Everyone except the parent of an autistic child who savours an empty park 🙋‍♀️😂

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"I love the beach in the rain.

You can so much better sand castles and it's easier to dig wet sand.

No one around.

They getting into the car, changing into dry warm clothes and having a hot chocolate"

Only in the UK!

Everywhere else in the world when the sun comes out people flock to the beach, sunbathing, swimming, laughter, smiling etc.

Nah - in the UK let's wait until it's absolutely pissing it down. We can then dig wet sand to build sandcastles that then get washed away in the rain - all the while getting soaked through and cold on a wet windswept beach with nobody else around because you're the only one mad enough to be out there.

Then the real pleasure of quickly leaving the wet windswept beach to sit in your car drying out and trying to stave off mild hypothermia with a Cadbury's hot chocolate and trying to forget the trauma of your beach trip in the rain vowing never to do it again.

It's still miserable though isn't it?
Drive there, come home soggy in a steamed up car. Spend ages finding somewhere for your wet stuff to dry because you can't afford the heating on more and the place is now damp and soggy with wet stuff everywhere
Same shit, different day the next day except now your stuff is wet still

If you've got a decent porch, ability to afford heating and multiple outdoor clothes and live close to a beach/wood then yeah it's probably quite nice
Carrying dripping wet stuff into my hall because I can't leave my boots outside and then having to dry it over the bath isn't quite the same

YANBU at all OP. I am fcking fed up of it too and I even quite like rain. But this is taking the piss now for real- it's not stopping. It just goes on and on and on.

Today the sun came out for an hour and I felt suddenly inexplicably happy and so much lighter and then it was like Mother Nature just snatched it away again as if to say Cant have you feeling all happy and shit, now have some more bloody rain. I just want to go running in the fields behind our house without slipping around in mud or go to the beach to watch the waves without getting soaked. Even our dog is starting to look a little depressed by it.

Its just not on.

I don't think it's raining that much, not here at least. Been lovely all weekend for starters

Absolutely. They're all bullshitting and competing in the World's Biggest Stiff Upper Lip competition.

Of course it's fucking shite. I'm adding to my tally list "move to another country". At least ten of those already on the thread.

My teenager simply wuvs stomping around in puddles in his wellies and puddle suit.
When we had record floods in October, I simply got out my wetsuit, fins and snorkle and had delighful swims in the sewerage and oily floodwaters. There's no such thing as bad weather, you just need the right clothes 😉 Alas the free museum was shut for a few months afterwards while repairs were made and there were many millions of pounds of damage to the local economy.

YANBU. The vast majority of the past 12 months have been lousy and the wettest on record. May had a blanket of chilly cloud off the North Sea. June had some hot weather but punctuated with intense thunderstorms that blew the storm drains, and it's pissed down near constantly since July. I'm not afraid of mud or rain, but any open ground has just been impassable for over 5 months. The lawn needs mowing, but I can't do it while my feet sink into it. Last week at our outdoor sports club, everyone was looking dejected by the ongoing combination of mud and rain. We've stoically kept going all winter despite it, but it's just not warming up and drying out like it normally is by now. It's also been a rough winter for cough/ cold type illneses, and the ongoing cool, damp weather isn't helping to shift that either.

I cannot remember a winter that's been as wet. Maybe its just coincidence but it's been almost everytime we've left the house since December has been wet. And I'm not even including the school runs.

Every swimming lesson for months it's been raining. Same with every other hobby. And every party and every visit to friends and family and every lunch / coffee. We don't have a car at the moment so even our indoor plans have involved us being wet to get there!! It's been relentless.

Paying £20 for a cab down the road on Mothers day to see Inlaws (15 minutes walk usually, no buses or public transport) was a particularly low point. I was tempted to miss a family lunch as I couldn't face another walk in the fucking rain!

I will caveat and say my DC is just back from a 5 day residential and they had only one morning and one afternoon of rain.

That’s a rubbish saying
Of course bad weather exists! It’s hardly enjoyable being outside when it rains

I do live in one of the wettest cities
Apparently it rained for 127 days which sounds about right