To think for £100 a week to live at home I can have a shower every day?

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I live at home, I work f/t and I'm doing an online course. I pay £100 a week contribution and I am moaned at for spending about 15 minutes a day in the shower.
Admittedly one day I was in there half an hour and accepted that I was in there a long time, I was asked to be more considerate and I did, but, I have reduced it to 15 minutes a day and that's still too long.
Apparently it's not necessary to be in there that long and the rest of the family make sacrifices and go without only showering every other day and using sink and flannel in between, I hate this.

My parents don't have a lot of money but they do have 4 children and my mum chooses to stay at home meaning she chooses that we make sacrifices.
As the oldest, I'm the only one paying my way and don't feel it's unreasonable to shower for 15 minutes a day.
I get my parents choose not to so they can save money but I pay them a lot.
Do I stand my ground on this one and shower away or is 15 minutes ott for £100 a week.

Like a pp suggestion of signing up to a local leisure centre.

I guess I'd be 10 minutes in the shower unless it was a quickie.

I’m going against the grain here- 15 mins isn’t that long- maybe 30 minutes once a week to wash hair and shave and 10 mins or so rest of the time.

If the OP moved out of her parents home- it’s unlikely the bills would go down by £400 a month! Ridiculous.

Unless they downsized or took in a lodger.

It does seem like the OP is subsiding the mother to not work.

If the OPs parents are low-income with 3 kids, they’ll be getting a very generous amount of Universal Crefit, which the taxes of the OP will be subsidising!

If parents are doing the cooking, cleaning and laundry then another £25 per week might go towards showing how grateful you are. Meanwhile meet them halfway with the showering? Eg, under 10 minutes in the week, longer at weekends? If you have never lived away from home I appreciate it's hard to understand the cost of living.

OP is an adult though… she’s not a little girl anymore. She earns 24k a year and pays £100 a week. She gets an evening meal and picked to buy her own lunch.
Im sure she eats other meals at home too. Probably gets her washing done. £100 a week wouldn’t cover shit in the real world.

What is her contribution to the family then?!

Thank goodness someone else thinks this.
I bet OP parents would sorely miss the £100 a week if she did move out.

So why did you bring it up implying it was rare to not have an unlimited supply of hot water.

it is not an unreasonable assumption to think one of the reasons OP has been asked to cut short her shower time is hot water supply. We’ve had to make plenty of assumptions on OP mums reasoning but we can all see that there are plenty of obvious reasons OP could be asked to limit shower time. Like getting everyone in the household through the bathroom in the morning, cost of water if they’re on a water meter, cost of heating the water itself etc. They would all be be valid reasons in and of themselves.

i wonder who cleans the shower in OPs household, and washes the towels.

They'd be quids in if they let out the room.

But she’s not living alone, she’s living at home, which is supposed to be cheaper. If living alone was cheaper than living at home, we wouldn’t have a generation of kids who’ve been financially shafted stuck in the box room of a suburban semi in their 20s.

A 15 minute shower once a day really isn’t a luxury and it’s not on that she’s being told to wash her pits and bits at the sink every other day instead. The parents have chosen to make financial sacrifices to fund four children and a stay at home mum. OP hasn’t chosen to make those sacrifices.

Sorry but if your parents are hard up then I can understand how is grating for them to hear money being washed away. To bring up the fact your mum is not in paid employment despite looking after a large household is ignorant in the extreme. I always remember a work trip I did away for 2 weeks many years ago, despite working full time, it was like a holiday to start and finish the work day with no one to take care of but myself.

So your parents are taking 25% of your take home pay? That seems a lot to me and they’ll be running a profit unless you eat like a horse. Well done for working full time and doing your course too, personally I think you deserve your long showers!

I bet they wouldn’t. £100 for water, electricity, gas and food and all the other household consumables apart from the five lunches a week that OP graciously buys herself?

Would you live in a room in a family house where your shower time is restricted? And pay £100 pw.?

For £100 quid a week, they'd have a queue.

Most water boards have a cheaper tariff for those on low incomes or if there are 3 children in the house. It may be worth speaking to your parents to check they are on this.

I also think 15 mins is quite long, but its worth checking they are in the best tariff for the household.

In our area they cap the water bill if its metered. If its not metered then there are reduced rates, if the family income falls below a certain amount based on the amount of people in the home. Disability and housing benefit/element are not included in the calculation for income.

25% of your pay for a roof over your head, all household bills including council tax and utilities, all food apart from weekday lunches, cleaning, laundry…? Bloody bargain.

£100pw is a lot less than uni students pay for their rooms, and they have food etc on top

15 minutes is too long! You can shower in 5 minutes.

Quite. I was just thinking that...you don't live in York, do you, op? Do you think you could hang on for another year?

With a household of six I find it very unlikely that OP's DM doesn't work! She may not be in paid employment but I'd hazard a guess she's doing more of the cooking, cleaning, shopping, school runs for younger kids, general household management etc than the other adults in the house. As a lodger in another home or in a house share OP's bills would be higher but it may well be that she would need to work harder herself around the household chores that the SAHM is doing to benefit everyone.

You're being quite unreasonable. 15 mins in the shower, what on earth are you doing??

Op

I have to agree, you are paying a lot.
We had our daughter stay with us for years after she bough her apartment and we did not ask for anything but she insisted she paid something and the tv and phone/landline package inc broadband was about 80 at the time, ie a month - we'd buy all the food etc and she took baths, its a big bath and filled it right to the brim as the water used run for a long time and we warned her a few times watch the levels as may over-flow as she walked around doing other stuff.

IMO, your parents are a bit mean but having said that, its much cheaper for you than renting a room in a house full of people you don't know.

Offer a bit more money if that will help and remind parents at least you are having a daily shower/bath and keeping clean unlike some people you know

Good luck

This.

Though your showering habits are positively amateurish op compared to my DD who regularly takes lengthy showers up to an hour at a time - annoys me no end 🙈

My bathroom becomes a mouldy mess when she comes to stay - she's very fortunate that I love her!

Because it really isn't that common these days. So before people jump on the OP about using up all the hot water, maybe check that's actually the case beforehand.

£100 to cover everything ?!? Food, gas electric, broadband, council tax?

Those bills alone (not including mortgage) is £980 for 2 people

Pay more money