To be sad about what was said to me today

[Luceeviejayne]

I have been lucky enough to get the keys for a new build from the council. It has a mix of private rent, council and home buyers. Some of the houses are still being built. Today I was waiting outside to get the keys and some builders went past in a car and said something along the lines of ‘…getting a house from the council’ and laughed really loud. I have been very lucky after fleeing DV with a 3 year old and I feel really upset and embarrassed

How long did it take you, Lovely? I'm in the same situation, trying to do up my outdated council home and some days just want to give up and swap with a more expensive housing association place, but trying to keep going.

Congratulations!
if you can complain, but otherwise try and ignore them. They are ignorant and pathetic.

I'm so glad to hear you've moved on from a DV situation with your young child.

These ignorant men are not worth a second thought x

owning a property isn’t mandatory, nor should it be. People deserve decent housing whether they own or rent.

1. You are lucky, there are plenty who are DV victims who are worse off.
2. You shouldn’t feel bad about it, vote to improve life for all.
3. to be explicit, don’t vote for hateful right wing parties.

Report them absolutely outrageous and needs dealing with.

I'm not sure why you assume what you overhead was about you. Live your life according to your own values.

Thoughtless pricks.

Congratulations on your new home! Don’t let them take the joy away! Xx

Really well done @Luceeviejayne on having the courage to leave a DV situation and start a new life with your children.

Ignore the builders in the van - people who are content with their lives don't feel the need to put down others. It says more about them. But I am sorry they upset you xx

Focus on yourself and your new home - so exciting, and I wish you and your family every happiness in your new house. I hope you have a vase for these ... :)

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You have a new life and home, you just have to feel sorry for the ignorant people. Good luck with your new life and home.

Ignore the silly builders, we live in a council house and they shouldn't shame people. People don't know others situations

Sounds an odd thing to say and even odder to laugh about it.

Hey, to hell with them. Just be safe xx

Congratulations on your new home!
Ignore idiot comments!
I remember getting the keys to my first home from the council 25 years ago and I'm still here now. I got the house as I was homeless and my ds is still living here.
It's a good house, much cheaper rent and it's ours to do (mostly) as we wish with!
Enjoy it!

Twats. Anyone can end up in a council property, no matter how safe they think they are. We had a deposit and were putting offers in on houses less than two years ago- now living in a housing association house. No fault of our own, nothing we could avoid. Shit happens. Life happens. Unless you’re Mystic Meg, don’t ever take anything for granted.
Congratulations on your HOME and all the best for the future. Try and ignore the Daily Fail reading prats, I know it’s hard but there’s no cure for ignorance x

I'm so sorry you had to hear this nonsense on what should have been a very special day for you - it makes me so mad that so many people seem to think that those living in social housing or in receipt of benefits are all a bunch of scroungers or worse.
Why does paying off a mortgage ( you don't own your house either until it's paid off , by the way ) or paying rent to a private landlord makes you in any way superior ?
You've come along way , you have your 3 year old ( sorry you didn't say son or daughter) so, hold your head up , ignore the vacuous, pea brained idiots and enjoy your new home.

The world would be a much better place if blokes in vans could just be quietly and painlessly vaporised

I too live in a housing association house, I'm a parent carer and with just my husband's salary coming in, it was never an option for us to buy our own home.
Such is life, no one is better than you or I just because they own their own home!

Enjoy your freedom and your home, you absolutely deserve some happiness, so please don't let a couple of hapless fools rob you of that joy..

Best Wishes to you both.

These people are scum. Bet they were thick brick layers or plasterers on £300 a day, on their way to Wetherspoons to talk shit with the other lowlifes that also shouldn't be allowed to vote. (Reform or National Front or whatever they call themselves this week)

About 3 yrs to get it replastered, carpeted/lino'd, decorated and fully furnished. And that was with help from a grandparent and reliant in charity shops and cheap stuff from places like Wilko et al. It was a long process. And unfortunately, I could never afford a stairs carpet, so I painted them with wood paint instead.

I moved out about 6 yrs later when I moved in with DP (now my DH). And I never got that stairs carpet! But in all honesty, I didn't care. I felt secure. It was affordable, and a landlord wasn't going to sell it from underneath me (something else I'd endured with private rentals). That security was worth the lack.of stairs carpet all day long.

When I left to move in with DP, I had a major wobble handing back the keys to the council. I felt like I was handing over my winning lottery ticket for someone else to benefit from the security it had given me. My grandmother even said "are you absolutely SURE you're doing the right thing, because you'll never get another council house again" ...it was that big of a deal to be council housed and she was worried I'd done something I'd deeply regret.

And they would too of they could, don't let jealously bother you

No it isn't. And they still wouldn't have known she was the future tenant.

You’re being over sensitive because you’re tired and worn out. This is the start of a new adventure - their comment doesn’t belong in it. (It belongs to the last chapter of your old story.)
Ignore them. Put the kettle on. Enjoy your Happy New Home!

They are the ones who should be embarrassed and this incident says more about them than about you. They’re probably pissed off that they’re no longer allowed to sexually harass every passing female so they’re looking for new ways to intimidate women to boost their fragile
egos.

You’ve been through a lot and deserve a nice home and a new start. I would feel upset as well as I take things like that to heart, but I hope you can forget those idiots and get on with your new life.

Stuff them, make your new home exactly as you want it, gradually get everything you want to be comfortable & happy. When I got my council house after leaving due to DV like you, the first night ds & I snuggled up on the sofa with cheap pizzas to watch TV in peace, the feeling was amazing. I gradually bought stuff to personalise it to my tastes, lots from B & M, Home Bargains & The Range, I found lots of dupes of things from White Company, Next etc. That house was a haven for us, I was skint most of the time but being safe & away from the crap I had been through with exh was what we needed. Making that house a home helped me to heal from what exh had done to me (he raped me)