To be sad about what was said to me today

[Luceeviejayne]

I have been lucky enough to get the keys for a new build from the council. It has a mix of private rent, council and home buyers. Some of the houses are still being built. Today I was waiting outside to get the keys and some builders went past in a car and said something along the lines of ‘…getting a house from the council’ and laughed really loud. I have been very lucky after fleeing DV with a 3 year old and I feel really upset and embarrassed

I bet those 'men' made dozens of comments today about random women because they're pathetic arseholes with no substance to them.

Congratulations on your home and I hope you have so many happy memories there ❤

Who cares what those morons think. Onwards and upwards!

Let’s change the narrative. You are a strong woman rebuilding her life and keeping her child safe.

Just remember it says everything about them and nothing about you.

And you are an amazing person to escape DV with a toddler and deserve all the happiness a new safe haven brings.

What they said doesnt say anything about you, but it says a lot about them. Have a good night's sleep and dont let them spoil it for you!

They're probably jealous, they don't know you and your situation.
To be honest most builders I've met on new build estates have been arse holes,
you won't see them once the site is finished. Also I loved my new build such low maintenance, congrats.

Tell them yes, what is the problem?
The welfare system is there to support all of us when we need it. I'm glad is there in case we need it.

Please don’t be sad, be proud of having changed your situation. I hope you settle in well and enjoy your new home.

You have been brave enough to flee a terrifying situation to protect yourself & your child. You must be protected and deserve to be safe. Please do not let the sheer ignorance of deeply unintelligent and uninformed and downright nasty scum spoil your peace of mind and your recovery. Look after yourself & your peace of mind. Xx

Thank you everyone for your lovely kind messages. I’ve read them all. My LO is very excited and can’t wait to play in the garden!

@housethatbuiltme I agree there isn’t anything embarrassing about social housing at all and I feel so very grateful after everything what’s happened. I just felt they were trying to shame me in some way. They said it quite loud with the window down right as they went past and the laugh from the passenger was over extragrated so I would hear. I know I shouldn’t have given it a second though but it was playing on my mind

You’ve escaped and created a haven for your child. You have far more to be proud of than these sad little men💐Enjoy your new house, buy some lovely scented candles and throws and curl up on YOUR sofa in YOUR safe new home. Don’t give those morons a second thought.

I’m proud to pay taxes that help people get back on their feet, and I know your taxes have done (and will do) the same for me if and when I need it. We’re all in this together.

Congratulations on your lovely new home!

Ignore the prick in the car

You didn’t actually hear the whole conversation so it could’ve been taken out of context. I hardly think they’re living the lifestyle of millionaires

Most people choose a group of people to look down on because it makes them feel better about themselves. If it wasn't "people in coucil houses" they would choose someone else. It's human nature.

You were able to get out of a DV relationship which shows you are amazing. Those van men have no clue what you have been through and they are irrelevant.

I was riding my horse years ago [in my 20's] and a bloke called out ''Lucky saddle''.

They think they are so witty...but they are just thoughtless micro~dicks.
A decent man would never say that to anyone.

Just wanted to say congrats on your new home. Don’t let that comment spoil it for you no decent person would begrudge you. And it’s none of their business anyway. Wishing you and your child many happy years together in your new home.

Are you sure they were laughing- if so that's horrible and it's their issue not yours.
I live in really nice new build flats in quite a deprived area- and half of them are bought houses and half are housing association. I've said in the past that it must be amazing getting one of them in an area that was previously all run down tenements.
Congratulations on your new home and I hope you are really happy there!

Housing is in such desperately short supply, that there is a lot of jealousy - Especially a brand new place.

They probably rent - no one who was securely housed would say anything like that.

I’m so sorry! They aren’t worth a second of mental space or energy but of course you’re upset. But you are free of the DV and you have a home for you and your little one. You have likely conquered far more than they ever have, so stand tall and don’t let them bring you down <3

Key their van being as they've taken such a special interest 🙂

It’s not nice for random people to shout anything at you from a vehicle

but what they said isn’t really offensive. Just own it, you’re in a difficult position to be eligible for a council house but it’s still a privileged position to be in - who cares if some random men don’t understand

I was about to ask whether your little one is excited.

So lovely to hear you're both looking forward to your lovely new home!

Congratulations 🥳

Since when was social housing free?

What proof do you have that members of your family have done this purposely to become tenants?

I know you're not serious, but OP is looking down upon those awful men from very much the higher ground here, and that's where she should remain. 🙂

Not in my part of the north it's not! I was raised in a home privately owned by my parents? I didn't know anyone in social housing growing up and my family were very much working class and bloody hard they worked too, they just owned a home as that was something they'd achieved prior to having kids in a time when it was easier to achieve that.
Your part of the north may be deprivation but mine certainly isn't and I'm very, very north of England!