To be sad about what was said to me today

[Luceeviejayne]

I have been lucky enough to get the keys for a new build from the council. It has a mix of private rent, council and home buyers. Some of the houses are still being built. Today I was waiting outside to get the keys and some builders went past in a car and said something along the lines of ‘…getting a house from the council’ and laughed really loud. I have been very lucky after fleeing DV with a 3 year old and I feel really upset and embarrassed

Private rent is for profit not a service, yawn to the range rovers big TVs.the rent for council housing is collated then split into sections for upkeep, improvements,so it's not tax payers money.

Builders aren't known for shouting the nicest things at women in the street are they?

Just ignore the ignorant twats op.

That's brilliant news congratulations! Wishing you all the happiness in your new home 💐💐💐

Exactly!

Just embrace it. You have a new home. Who cares what the builders say?

They’re twats and you should feel nothing but happiness about your new home.

I can almost guarantee that you weren’t the only one they shouted something at that day.

Congratulations on getting your new home.
I hope you will be very happy there 💐

They are dickheads. You are a fighter and survivor.

I know which one I'd rather be and which I'd rather be friends with.

Stand tall, OP.

Congratulations, that's so exciting. Ignore them they are idiots

Enjoy your new home,new beginnings,choosing how to decorate as money allows.those men are just fuckwits.

Congratulations OP !!!!

Fuck them. Today is a day for celebrating, HUGE congratulations!
(I would, as others have mentioned, put a complaint in.)

Men, weren’t they. No idea. I remember the joy and relief when I moved into an almshouse flat. No furniture, no carpet, all soon remedied though.
I was in my late sixties, the relief of getting away from the evil ex h was immense. Let nobody spoil that for you, you have done brilliantly. It will be wonderful! 💐

Ignorant twats. Rise above it.
The housing situation is this country is a disgrace, you need a decent roof over your head so don't be embarrassed by a bunch of tossers.

Please do not let ignorant comments steal your joy - especially some laddish builders who obviously get a kick out of attempting to feel superior to someone. As to those yabbering rubbish about “ free houses” they might want to educate themselves about council house rents - I lived in a mixed housing estate for my first house and my neighbour who had a council home was paying nearly double my mortgage for a far less lovely property!!

Some people are pathetic. Hold your head high. If you caught their company name I'd report them if you feel able 💕

I guess she is referring to her family members who get their rent paid for them. So happy for you to get a council house, there are so few around. I had to move hundreds of miles from my home to be able to buy a home, as my local authority would not even allow me to go on to the housing list.

Luceeviejayne Good luck to you in your new home. Hope this gives you the new start you need. People still think they can be judgemental without knowing the facts - you would not have got the home unless a) you were high enough on the waiting list - therefore most in need b) they felt that you were able and willing to look after a new property, and c) possibly in time be in a position to purchase. So give yourself a pat on the back and never mind the louts of the world, you are obviously strong enough to deal with them.

There is sometimes jealousy from neighbours in such areas who have mortgages to manage.

That is absolutely amazing about your lovely new house enjoy every minute, and don’t listen to arseholes x

@Luceeviejayne congratulations on your new life and your new home. Hope you and your little one will be very happy there.

You say, understandably, that you're upset and you also say you're embarrassed.
I'm going to give you a small bit of advice. Someone once gave me a brilliant piece of advice that I've never forgotten and have acted on it a few times, so if possible, I'd like you to take this on board and teach your child too.

Never let yourself be affected by the opinions of people who have no value to you, or people you don't respect.

Blokes, mob handed yelling out of a moving vehicle at a woman they know nothing about? Naah.

Whether you decide to lodge a complaint or not, they're not worth the steam off your tea.

I've had a group of young men (early 20s I'd say) bark at me out of their car windows today, as they drove past.

Despite my username, I'm not actually dog faced, incidentally.

Anyway, my point is that this is a weird intimidation ritual done by neanderthal men. They target lone women, and only strike when in a pack, as they're actually complete wimps and wouldn't have the guts to say anything one on one. It makes them feel powerful and manly to do/say something to make the woman feel scared or ugly or stupid or whatever, but actually it is an outward expression of their own inadequacies. Any normal, kind human who is alright in themselves doesn't need to behave in this way.

Ignore them. They're stuck being themselves for the rest of their lives - imagine how grim that must be. You, on the other hand, have a lovely brand new home and safety for you and your child.

Ah don't let these dicks rain on your parade.
Social housing is there for a reason, I also fled DV, it's tough, well done for getting out. Enjoy your lovely new safe home x

Ignore it. I own my own home and sometimes wish it was a council home. The repair and maintenance bills are extortionate. God luck in your new home. x

What you are doing is nothing short of heroic. To come through DV and to have the will to start a new life is wonderful, yet there can be No underestimating what you’ve had to do to get here! Be so very proud of yourself and don’t let anyone take one more ounce of your self worth. I’ve no words I can type here about those builders. I’d be banned!!! Enjoy your new home and make every bit of it your very own. You deserve it so much.

Absolutely ignore the ignorant comments. Enjoy your moment and wipe those low lives from your memory. Well done on the bravery it must have taken to move on to where you are 💪 Todsy is a good day ❤️

Years ago, after five long years of fighting, and being evicted several times from private rentals I could never afford, I finally got offered a council house.

Just a two bed terrace on a well-known rough estate. It was a wreck and dated. An absolute shithole. But when I got that offer, I genuinely felt like I'd won the lottery.

I spent a long time doing it up, bit-by-bit and made it home.

Lots of people berated me for this home. A 'friend' actually referred to me as council scum. A guy I dated dumped me when he discovered I lived on a council estate.

Some people are just arseholes. Don't let arseholes spoil what is a fresh start for you.

Congratulations and wishing you many years of happiness in your lovely new home ❤️

It might sound weird, but I always try and invert these comments. So ignoring the negative implication behind their words, just think of it as a narrator from The Universe describing your current situation and just using some bellends as a mouthpiece: "Getting a house from the council- hahahahaha". Because it is a joyous occasion and laughter would be a great way to depict that joy.