To be sad about what was said to me today

[Luceeviejayne]

I have been lucky enough to get the keys for a new build from the council. It has a mix of private rent, council and home buyers. Some of the houses are still being built. Today I was waiting outside to get the keys and some builders went past in a car and said something along the lines of ‘…getting a house from the council’ and laughed really loud. I have been very lucky after fleeing DV with a 3 year old and I feel really upset and embarrassed

I'm sorry you had to hear that. Some people are too stupid for words. Can you complain to the company? Lots of building firms these days belong to some sort of considerate builder scheme and that behaviour is not on their code of conduct.

My daughter was in a similar situation to you and lives in a lovely council house in a nice area. Don't let a couple of ignorant idiots spoil your enjoyment of your lovely new home.

Don’t let them spoil this special moment, and congratulations.

Congratulations - this is a big deal for you.

These appear to be ignorant Daily Fail readers who can't understand the hardship some people face. Though it might be hard, I would try to ignore.

Enjoy your home!

Just ignore and move on! I remember years ago starting jogging and obviously 🙄 van man drives past (always 'lads' in a van isn't it) and shouts speed up fatty. I stopped, cried, walked home and never jogged again. I look back at myself now and I'm annoyed at myself - people just blurt out nonsense. Our job is to take it on the chin, ignore and move on. Hold your head up high lovely and just completely ignore. If you're feeling more confident in a day or so then go to the sales office and complain- you might get some extra bits done in your house for the rudeness of these horrible builders you never know.

How exciting, I remember getting my keys after leaving a DV situation.

Ignore those tossers, and get excited about your lovely, safe home.

Have you got any plans for decorating yet?

Congratulations on your new house and your new life. 💐
You are indeed lucky to get a house from the council, and I couldn't be more delighted for you.
Try and disregard the weird and nasty attitudes that some people display about council homes. They are possibly jealous and undoubtedly unpleasant, and the views of people like that do not count.

You have nothing to be embarrassed about. The van men otoh...

Enjoy your new home and congrats on your new start.

Don't let a total stranger's dopey, under-informed prejudices spoil a well-earned new start for you. Best wishes for your new home and new life.

Urgh.

Men in vans should only be allowed out at certain times of the day so women can avoid them.

And I know it’s not ALL men in vans, yadda yadda. But it’s enough of them.

Hey that is amazing getting a lovely new property.

I understand you were hurt hearing that but please don't give those dickheads a 2nd thought.

Whatever your background to getting a council house has, this action by these people was so stupid it's just not even worth giving it time.
Put it out of your head and get settled in

Good luck to you in your new home. Its exciting isnt it. Most people have lived in a council house and once they buy their own home they get really snobby. This white van man is nothing. You dont know him he dosnt know you. Forget about it he is a slug.

Getting a house from the council... and my word you deserve it after going through DA.

Enjoy your moment knowing that not only do you not have to live with a violent bastard, but you don't even have to endure the kind of idiot you encountered today when you're cosy in your new home.

They sound like a standup group of gentlemen. I'm sure they're declaring all their income and paying for their children rather than shouting things out of windows on the way to a pub on a Friday afternoon. (Massive stereotype but they deserve it)

Says more about them. Congratulations on your new life.

You have a whole new life and a new house! I hope you won’t give their nastiness any more space in your head. Well done and congratulations! 💐🥳

Congratulations on securing a safe home for you and your child. 💐

I can almost guarantee you that those men will be living in a shithole.

It’s like the Daily Mail fans who love it because they’re slagging off a female celebrity’s looks or berating Kate Middletons mum for being middle class. You know these people are less attractive and could only dream of having a Middletons life.

People like the men who said this, behave this way because it makes them feel better about their own shitty looks, life, house etc. Secure people wouldn’t do this.

Enjoy your new home!

Unfortunately, in some areas, many of those lucky enough to receive housing from the council do so because they chose a lifestyle that ensured they would get a free home. I'm speak from experience of having this within my family. For this reason, there are people who resent this, especially during times like these when many are struggling and not receiving any help from the gov.

Those builders would have no idea of what you've been through personally, and I'm sure they wouldn't have said that if they did, I'm sorry to hear about how it made you feel.

Xx

Congratulations on the house! My grandparents generation were so proud of their council houses. Social housing is a wonderful thing and there ought to be much more of it... my dearest friend got a council house last year after facing a difficult situation as a single mum and it's so much better for her now. I hope you're very happy in your new home

Where are these "free" houses you speak of?

I want one. I have to pay for my social house.

Congratulations on your new home and good for you! I bet anyone of those men would take one if offered! They are probably feeling pissed off and jealous. That’s their problem. Hold your head up high and be proud! There’s nothing wrong with a council house. And a brand new one too! Enjoy this new chapter in your life. X

As you say in your post, you are lucky to be getting Council accommodation. Those men are not giving you a second thought right now. Other than thinking they were rude, they would not be taking up my mental space.

Unfortunately, in some areas, many of those lucky enough to receive housing from the council do so because they chose a lifestyle that ensured they would get a free home

@Westsussex

How do I get a "free" home?

You know that council/social housing tenants pay rent right?

And bills, and council tax.

Pretty sure they don't get housed for free.

I've made some horrendous life choices, and I have a council house.

Its still not free though.

Where can I apply for one of these free houses that you definitely have experience of within your family?

After what you’ve gone through, today will be a very emotional day I’m sure. Well done for getting away from the abusive relationship - it is not an easy thing to do and you should be feeling so proud of yourself today. Do NOT let those idiots spoil it for you. Do not give them another thought.