I’ve reported this TikTok psycho to his employer?

[DolceGoldie]

I’m not sure if I should’ve done this and I’m having some regrets now. Last night, got into a bit of a spat on TikTok my first ever and I’m embarrassed.

Saw a video of a man building a “titanic” slide for his kids where he got them to slide and then pretend they were dying. Lots of comments, and in my wine and emotional (period) state I commented that it wasn’t really funny as over 2000 people died in the titanic including children. That was it.

Two hours later check my phone and he’s sent me a barrage of abuse, including saying I should shut my mouth, get my face to take a shit? And then he hopes I die in a fatal car crash and that I get raped and murdered and that I’ve made a “fatal mistake”. Truly vile in comparison to my comments about the titanic. He had blocked me so I couldn’t respond, not that I would’ve wanted to instigate it or bothered.

So I go onto his page to have a nosy, and he’s got his full pics and videos of him playing with kids, and videos of him working for his employer including a badge and their name- so in my fury I emailed his employer telling them that this kind of person is saying these things and representing their brand and that violence against women even suggestive isn’t on. I attached a screenshot of some of the comments.

Now I feel a bit stupid and nervous this morning as it was only a TikTok spat and I’ve escalated it, at the same time why do men get away with speaking to you like that? I didn’t have anything identifying in my email or TikTok to my name or location.

They posted it in bad taste, I agree with you. He shouldn't have messaged you threatening you. He deserves to be reported to his employer. Good for you.

And if he hadn't sent a barrage of insane misogynistic abuse to a woman for commenting on his public, bad taste content, he wouldn't be potentially facing a work disciplinary.

Maybe something to think of next time.

I've not been on there, so I don't know. You tell me, do women wish rape and murder on other women on TikTok? Because abuse runs a broad spectrum and this thread is about abuse that's as serious and threatening as it gets, from a man to a woman in a way that is uniquely male.

You did the right thing.
Good on you got calling out such vile behaviour.

I'd have reported him to the police. What was the end goal of reporting to his employer? If he loses his job then his children (poor sods being his offspring!) will suffer and he's likely to spend a period of time on Jobseekers. Also I'd be worried about 'retribution' given he is clearly off his rocker.

And there we go, you minimise what he said whilst insisting women are just as bad (so is it bad or not?) 🙄

What drives you to respond to a thread like this in that way you did, defending these vile men who speak like this online and trying to distract us from their actions?

You did the right thing. Imagine what he's like at home if that's how he responds to a bit of mild criticism. What an absolute knob.

He is pure scum and deserves everything he gets from his actions.

But now the op is potentially on this idiots radar who obviously has issues.

How do you or anyone on here congratulating the op for her actions know that the employer won't share the ops screenshots and name or email address with the psycho.

Someone who says they would like to see someone raped and murdered etc is NOT NORMAL.

What does this mean ?
I wanna be down wid da kidz

YABU.

Engaging with a random stranger on the net to police their content in a clear provocation.

No justification for what he said.

Him potentially losing his source of income and compromising his children's livelihood seems disproportionate to me.

Its just the Internet

Well done! You did the right thing, he private messaged abuse and threats to you. What a disgusting person! I hope he loses his job.

You did the right thing. If you have his name I’d look him up on any social media you have and block him on everything, just in case he gets pulled in at work and puts 2 and 2 together

Are you always this feeble that you shy away from calling people out? I can't imagine being so passive and cowardly

The male on TikTok said he "hoped" she would be raped, that isn"t a specific threat

Oh, that's all right then.

That’s up to his employers, they may not want to work with someone who tells women he’d like to see them raped, and that is a perfectly reasonable stance. He needs to learn how to behave like a proper evolved human, and that in turn will serve his children well.

Nope, Op told us what he said and it’s fucking awful, your response was “women are bad too”. It’s pathetic.

Great nit picking - I meant to say the OP said "why do men get away with speaking to you like that?"

And I'll say it as it's true - many, many feel it's ok to speak to and threaten women like this.

Fuck me

On a thread where OP is upset at a nasty misogynistic prick threatening her we have several posters obsessing over women sometimes being vile too

Would you not consider a wish list of rape and violent death coupled with telling her she'd made a 'fatal' mistake in critising him to be threatening?

Saying she had made a fatal mistake, is threatening actually.