I’ve reported this TikTok psycho to his employer?

[DolceGoldie]

I’m not sure if I should’ve done this and I’m having some regrets now. Last night, got into a bit of a spat on TikTok my first ever and I’m embarrassed.

Saw a video of a man building a “titanic” slide for his kids where he got them to slide and then pretend they were dying. Lots of comments, and in my wine and emotional (period) state I commented that it wasn’t really funny as over 2000 people died in the titanic including children. That was it.

Two hours later check my phone and he’s sent me a barrage of abuse, including saying I should shut my mouth, get my face to take a shit? And then he hopes I die in a fatal car crash and that I get raped and murdered and that I’ve made a “fatal mistake”. Truly vile in comparison to my comments about the titanic. He had blocked me so I couldn’t respond, not that I would’ve wanted to instigate it or bothered.

So I go onto his page to have a nosy, and he’s got his full pics and videos of him playing with kids, and videos of him working for his employer including a badge and their name- so in my fury I emailed his employer telling them that this kind of person is saying these things and representing their brand and that violence against women even suggestive isn’t on. I attached a screenshot of some of the comments.

Now I feel a bit stupid and nervous this morning as it was only a TikTok spat and I’ve escalated it, at the same time why do men get away with speaking to you like that? I didn’t have anything identifying in my email or TikTok to my name or location.

The only even vaguely unreasonable thing you are doing, @DolceGoldie, is to describe this as a little TikTok spat. I agree it was a little spat from your side (and I agree that this slide sounds very inappropriate and in poor taste, so you were right to make the comment), but his comments were abusive and violent, and should be described accurately as such.

I hope his employer throws the book at him. I'd throw the entire library.

As kids say nowadays

FAFO

Thanks all, I guess this morning in the light of day I just felt like I’d instigated it with my comment about it being inappropriate and made a rod for my own back but his comments were truly disgusting. No word from his employer yet.

i do have the screenshots from this whole thing if anyone wanted to see them privately but they have my first name in (as it’s in my user) and his full name so hesitant to post them.

You should definitely report him to police. His employers are probably builders or something and won't give a shit.

I agree with your original comment for what it's worth

Congratulations for making zero point with your quote. OPs experience was with a man, so to ask that question is entirely contextually relevant. It does not preclude the acceptance that sometimes women can be abusive at all, but that is irrelevant to her post.

You absolutely did the right thing @DolceGoldie! The scumbag wished you raped and dead. He deserves to be outed and shamed.

Have you checked his page this morning? If the video has been removed, I'd put money on his employer now dealing with it.

If we don't call people out for bad behaviour, then they will continue to get away with it. She had every right to give her opinion on the video. He had no right to give her that kind of abuse. He should be called out. That will give him something to think about.

I don't see the problem with making this specific to men at all. It is only men who wish rape on women who annoy them. It is only men who weild the threat of it to control women. Why would you feel the need to pretend women do this too?

Good for you. I expect he is a delightful , charming , much loved family man when he isn’t hiding behind his keyboard, but the fact that this foul mouthed abusive personality sprang out fully formed when a woman dared to challenge him is something his employers need to know before he does the same to their customers and ruins their company reputation.

OP, send screenshots to the employer if you haven't already.

@Notwhatyouwanttohear If he had just swiped away from her comment rather than send her a litany of foul abuse, she wouldn't have had to take the time to report him to his employer and now potentially be looking at losing his job.

Maybe something to think of next time.

If his wife is in the TikTok's I'd send them to her as well. You definitely did the right thing.

Frankly I can't imagine his wife being much different to him. Birds of a feather and all that.

I find it more disturbing that he was getting his kids to play dead for strangers on the internet for likes.

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Absolutely this

Absolutely. OP just asked why do men get away with it? Yes, women may do this and also get away with it but a rape threat is 100% a truly exclusively male threat.

So actually it is just men

Victim blaming. OP did nothing wrong.

@CrashyTime o don't think OP or anyone ever said women don't dish out shit?

OP was talking about an interaction with a man who talked about rape threats. And is wondering why men feel it's ok to say things like this?

Don't doubt yourself. Women shouldn't have to stop sharing their opinions on public content due to fear of reprisals. Don't share the screenshots with anyone here even privately if they have your name on them. This forum is not always a safe space, it's frequently targeted by MRAs.

Good for you op.
What a vile specimen he is.

You should post his, he’s a psycho as you say and it would save others from buying into his public image.

He sounds unhinged and you should be careful to make sure there’s nothing online that can be linked to you. Is he in the same country as you?

Shame you have your first name in your profile - do you have a picture up of you too? As he could reverse image it and come up with your LinkedIn or whatever.

Also go through your old posts (if you have any) and see if there’s any information about you he might be able to pick up on - identifying monuments in your home town if you’ve filmed there regularly, kids school uniform with logo showing, things like that.

I’d also log this all with the police - if he does try fucking with you further you need it already registered otherwise they won’t have anything historic to go on.

And don’t wine and TikTok from now on!

Just wanted to add you did the right thing reporting to his employer. Fuck people who think they can behave like this and get away with it. He doesn’t deserve anything and unless his employer is also randomly evil too then they don’t deserve to have an awful person representing them in that light.

The man this thread is about clearly thought it was ok, as do all the men who have said similar online and they aren’t short in supply; so can you try focusing on them rather than imaginary women who apparently also threaten other women with rape?