I’ve reported this TikTok psycho to his employer?

[DolceGoldie]

I’m not sure if I should’ve done this and I’m having some regrets now. Last night, got into a bit of a spat on TikTok my first ever and I’m embarrassed.

Saw a video of a man building a “titanic” slide for his kids where he got them to slide and then pretend they were dying. Lots of comments, and in my wine and emotional (period) state I commented that it wasn’t really funny as over 2000 people died in the titanic including children. That was it.

Two hours later check my phone and he’s sent me a barrage of abuse, including saying I should shut my mouth, get my face to take a shit? And then he hopes I die in a fatal car crash and that I get raped and murdered and that I’ve made a “fatal mistake”. Truly vile in comparison to my comments about the titanic. He had blocked me so I couldn’t respond, not that I would’ve wanted to instigate it or bothered.

So I go onto his page to have a nosy, and he’s got his full pics and videos of him playing with kids, and videos of him working for his employer including a badge and their name- so in my fury I emailed his employer telling them that this kind of person is saying these things and representing their brand and that violence against women even suggestive isn’t on. I attached a screenshot of some of the comments.

Now I feel a bit stupid and nervous this morning as it was only a TikTok spat and I’ve escalated it, at the same time why do men get away with speaking to you like that? I didn’t have anything identifying in my email or TikTok to my name or location.

Yes. Well done. Men like this who think they can fire verbal abuse with zero consequences need a short sharp shock, and if it comes from his employer, so much the better. I would love to know who he is ...

How horrible for you. Sounds like a pretty direct threat (even though he couldn’t actually find you). I’d report him to the police too. Those poor children, having a father like that.

Why are men like this? I think they really, really fucking hate us.

"Two hours later check my phone and he’s sent me a barrage of abuse, including saying I should shut my mouth, get my face to take a shit? And then he hopes I die in a fatal car crash and that I get raped and murdered and that I’ve made a “fatal mistake”. "

For the 'fatal mistake' alone, I'd be reporting him to the police. That's a direct threat, in my opinion.

Yes they can! You’re very naive to think they can’t! Depends on his workplace, he had his company logo/name visible, therefore he can, and probably will, deservedly lose his job.

Having a policy doesn't mean you can take action when someone says something online you don't like, a policy won't cover you at tribunal, you can't take action because you disapprove of someone's behaviour, you'd need to be able to prove his actions have damaged your business 🤷‍♀️

Well done, you did the right thing. What a disgusting man he is.

Is this a joke? When did we start blaming the victim? If he looses his job it's all on him it's not OPs problem.

And this is why you don’t engage with psychopaths, not your fault of course OP, and he should be arrested for his disgusting threats.

Hope you are not too shaken by now, it sounds horrific.

Careful now as lots of women are vile online too so lets not just pick on the menz

If he does it'll be because he has said to a woman he hopes she dies in a fatal car crash and that she get raped and murdered and that she's made a “fatal mistake”. Would you like to work with someone who wished that on a woman who made a comment about the Titanic? I wouldn't. I'd want to know.
The kids' mother would probably want to know too.

I would also report to the police.
i would also report the messages to tiktok, as these are against guidelines.
you’ve not done anything wrong, that is despicable. He deserves reporting to his employer and the police. That is shameful.

Report to police and make your account private as he sounds dangerous.
id prob also change my name on there so he couldn’t find me.

If it contravenes company code of conduct, which often includes behaviour outside of the workplace and on social media now, then that is grounds for dismissal.

Do you work in HR? What you’re saying goes against all HR/legal guidance I’ve seen.

Saying he hopes she gets RAPED, is not abusive? Saying she made a 'fatal mistake' is a DEATH THREAT. Wtf is wrong with you, if you are so desensitised to such malicious threats that it's meaningless to you?

Wtf is wrong with you? So a woman shouldn't report abuse? Maybe HE should have thought about that BEFORE he made his vile death threat and rape threat, and you should stop victim-blaming women. I hope to goodness you are not truly actually a parent.

Well done for reporting. If he gets this angry and abusive online I hate to think how he acts around his children.

YANBU.

if I were you I'd shut down that account though and start another, just in case there's any linking back to you personally.

if someone has kids we should turn a blind eye? It’s very sad for them but it’s not op’s problem, nor should we ignore bad behaviour or abuse because of it.

Many employers have a social media policy whereby if the company is linked to vile behaviour from an employee, the employee can be terminated. Many employees sign Social Media contracts as part of their employment.

Many employers have a social media policy whereby if the company is linked to vile behaviour from an employee, the employee can be terminated. Many employees sign Social Media contracts as part of their employment.

Your response was unnecessary. At the same time, his response was OTT. Reporting to his employers was not on - what on earth are they supposed to do about it? You should have, and still should, report to police.

Not true at all. Many employers have a social media policy whereby if the company is linked to vile behaviour from an employee, the employee can be terminated. Many employees sign Social Media contracts as part of their employment.

NOT op’s problem. Maybe he should have thought Before he threatened a woman?