To think DH cant come to this

[KatieBr]

So I am working away in London for a few nights (never had to before so don't really understand the rules)

DH said as neither of us have been to London, he could join me (obviously pay for his own transport) but surely he wont be able to stay in my hotel room?

Why? Not everyone is interested in going.

It's really dependent on your companies policy. Do you feel comfortable to ask?

Don't let your dh pressure you though. If your happy for him to come and work say it's ok than that's fine.

i think it would be a far better experience for you on your own

I used to do with this with DH when he stayed in Edinburgh as they expected him to be there for a week and arrive the day before so we used to have lovely weekends exploring. I just paid for my travel, meals and grabbed a crossaint from a coffee shop!

I'm not sure it's any if their business who shares your bed, whst if you were single and fancied a one night stand

Does anyone else not get the feeling that @araiwa was posting this tongue in cheek?

I think it’s fine. I have even known of people meeting people on work trips and taking them back to their rooms. It’s your room - as long as no extra costs incurred you should be able to have who you like in it

I never hang out with other people I travel for work with, I've never been told I should and no one's ever not invited me again. You spend all day with them, unless you genuinely enjoy their company I can't imagine wanting to spend the evening with them.

OP take your husband if you want to, if you don't want to then say you don't want him there, but don't let him pressure you into it because he thinks you're not capable of getting the tube. You'll be fine.

Hmm …

Your first time working away in London? That’s a big event in your work life - so I would be concentrating on that. Surely there’s some prep you ought to be doing on the first afternoon to be ready for the next day?

If your husband wanted to join you wouldn’t that be better after the work event is over?

It does seem depressing that he thinks you’re incapable of traversing the city by yourself. 10 million other people do every day - many of them newly arrived, often with little English. If you’re intelligent enough to have a job that involves work away from home, I’m pretty sure your employers assume you’re capable of travelling around London without a minder. Perhaps your husband is lovely - but if you’re moving up in your work hierarchy just be watchful for any signs of his wanting to hold you back …

@nfkl Why? 😅 Why would London been seen differently to any major UK city?

Don't be ridiculous.

My company wouldn't have a problem with this

It's fine him joining you, I used to join my DH, but him making out that there's risk involved in you going on your own is strange. I'm nearly 60, I go on my own to go to the theatre. I used to take my DD's and her friends. Fortnum and Mason's is worth a visit, Harrods isn't what it was, there's loads of little 'to do's' depending on were you are. Camden Market is another then there's the smaller churches, some in ruins, but still interesting.

Why would London been seen differently to any major UK city?

Don’t be daft …

My SIL goes all over the world with my brother and just pays for her flight and meals. She uses the hotel gym and pool, and goes sightseeing.

Covering the difference should be a given, to the point I am not even sure why people are mentioning it as it is so obvious. Nobody needs to be told not to cheat on expenses surely?

But nobody bat an eyelid? I have been regularly travelling with work since 1992, within multinationals and many colleagues have travelled a lot as well. I can only recall a handful of occasions when somebody has brought a spouse on a work trip. I have never known it to be banned but it is far from normal and I think in some circumstances it could look unprofessional and can sometimes provoke comments about people wanting subsidised holidays.

Using the tube is easy. Central London is a city centre full of shops and people not the Wild West. You will be fine. School children manage it so I have no doubt an adult can.
If you want your DH to come then speak to your work, they may be fine as long as you cover any additional costs. However, don’t let him pressurise you to agreeing to him coming along by undermining your confidence either.

Yes, I have been to many places but London isn't somewhere I have put the effort in to go and see. Now is my opportunity.

I suppose because when you are younger you do different cities on nights out, then there's concents/theatre etc. Once you have children you do historical places and then there's the interest in visiting different places. I haven't been to Whitby, but it's on my list. It's cheaper to go to Belfast though.

I thought you said he's never been to London?

I hate London and I hate tubes. They are not the same as trains with a train I can see the world. I can see the exits and I'm not trapped underground. When I travel by train there are usually 2 or 4 options but it London their seems to be endless options. I get lost in the city I have lived next to for 30+ years and worked on for 7 years. I get lost finding my way out of a paper bag

But and a big but London and the tubes aren't that bad. I do hate them but you know it's not outside of what I can do. I have a plan A and a plan B for stations & tubes, which was needed on one trip when there was an issue with tubes out of my nearest station but the next nearest as a few minutes walk away and got me where I needed to go. I don't like being underground but it's not for long and actually sometimes the walk isn't too bad so I do that instead. The issue I have in my nearest city is I only have one station to find and whilst I can get to most places in the country from this station if I'm trying to find my way back to that station from an unknown pub after work I have only one place to aim for and can end up far away from it. In London if you get lost you will come to a train or tube station soon enough and there will be options to get where you need.

I struggle with Google maps when it moves to point in the direction I'm walking and do better if it's fixed to north.

I am very much of the belief that you take a deep breath and the do the scary thing anyway because you might just surprise yourself and not find it as scary as you feared!

Um, maybe Not-London?
Lots of us are Not from London.
London is a long and expensive way away from lots of people.
Hth.

Expensive enough to never have been there in your life, not once?
Always staggered at the lack of curiosity!

Bloody hell, most of our trips away years were based on DH’s work trips in the UK and free hotel stays!

DH would go to meetings and I would have his lazy breakfast and then swim in the pool and then DH would finish early and we’d go out.

I travel for work but have to fly so DH doesn’t join.

Very strange post. It's definitely allowed in my law firm and many take their partners on work trips.