Page 19 | To think DH cant come to this

DinnaeFashYersel · 19/03/2024 15:39

ProperDeep · 19/03/2024 15:05

Because I don’t know why it follows that because of all the arts and culture etc, that all adults in the UK are expected to go at least once in their lives. That’s what seems quasi religious about the posters being baffled that an adult in the UK has never been to London - like, maybe they’re happy with the arts and culture available where they are??

Goodness.

It is London’s constitutional importance that makes it a draw for people from all across the world. The seat of government of an at least historically globally powerful state; centre of legislation and justice, trade and cultural heritage. That’s why London has the huge multinational population, which generates all the other stuff.

Perhaps education has changed? Certainly when I was at school, trips to London were seen as a vital part of one’s understanding of English heritage. How could you study British history without visiting the Houses of Parliament, 10 Downing Street, Whitehall, The Tower of London? And of course it may not be crucial to your sense of yourself if you feel your heritage to be wholly outside England and its colonial history - but what could be the harm in setting eyes on the capital of the country you currently reside in?

We are not all in Englandshire.

My school trips were to Edinburgh - our capital.

We studied Scottish history, not English history.

We learned about Scottish heritage, not English heritage.

Thedance · 19/03/2024 15:40

araiwa · 18/03/2024 08:02

No he definitely can't go.

Against company policy

Gross misconduct

How do you know what company policy is at OPs company. Many places would allow it as long as he paid any extra costs.

BlowDryRat · 19/03/2024 15:44

It's allowed at my company and makes travel a lot nicer for the person working too. It does take some common sense though. One of my recent trips involved meetings and working into the early hours every day, with a 7am start the next morning. Definitely not one for a tag-along! Ditto if it's a schmoozing trip with dinners and other evening activities. It changes the dynamic.

If it's just going to a conference/office during the day, then kicking your heels in your hotel room then bringing your DH is fine IMO.

queenmeadhbh · 19/03/2024 18:10

MarkWithaC · 19/03/2024 15:13

Who said 'expected'? It's more that people find it surprising.
Some of my Midlands family, who are certainly not 'cultured' in a Donmar Theatre/Royal Academy way, and who pretty much stick to their home area most of the time, nonetheless come to London on coach trips to see West End musicals and the like. Lots of people come for shopping too. And big sports events.
I think a lot of French people probably do visit Paris, and not just for the Louvre. But you seem to like an argument based on reductio ad absurdum.

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my whole point is I find it surprising that they are “flummoxed” that an adult residing in the UK hasnt visited London, and then when people point out that this is a perfectly understandable and not surprising fact, start talking at length about the arts and culture. That explains why people want to visit London but it doesn’t explain why they are so completely floored when someone hasn’t. If my arguments seem exaggerated it’s to mirror the exaggerated nature of their surprise.

queenmeadhbh · 19/03/2024 18:15

ProperDeep · 19/03/2024 15:05

Because I don’t know why it follows that because of all the arts and culture etc, that all adults in the UK are expected to go at least once in their lives. That’s what seems quasi religious about the posters being baffled that an adult in the UK has never been to London - like, maybe they’re happy with the arts and culture available where they are??

Goodness.

It is London’s constitutional importance that makes it a draw for people from all across the world. The seat of government of an at least historically globally powerful state; centre of legislation and justice, trade and cultural heritage. That’s why London has the huge multinational population, which generates all the other stuff.

Perhaps education has changed? Certainly when I was at school, trips to London were seen as a vital part of one’s understanding of English heritage. How could you study British history without visiting the Houses of Parliament, 10 Downing Street, Whitehall, The Tower of London? And of course it may not be crucial to your sense of yourself if you feel your heritage to be wholly outside England and its colonial history - but what could be the harm in setting eyes on the capital of the country you currently reside in?

i never said there was any harm.
im trying to point out all the reasons I think it is strange and unreasonable to be “flummoxed” than an adult residing in the UK has never been to London.

I would be flummoxed if an adult had never been to a supermarket or a park. Not a huge expensive city that could be a long train journey or even a plane journey away.

norfolkbeaches · 19/03/2024 21:04

araiwa that's absolutely ridiculous. Why do you think company policy applies outside working hours? Op can go to work and sleep with whoever she likes in her hotel room, same as every evening she's at home. Work are simply paying for the room to ensure she can be at work at the requested hours, if it has no impact on cost, the rest is none of their business.

BirthdayRainbow · 19/03/2024 21:16

Edited as wrong thread

LBFseBrom · 01/08/2024 01:35

KatieBr · 18/03/2024 07:59

So I am working away in London for a few nights (never had to before so don't really understand the rules)

DH said as neither of us have been to London, he could join me (obviously pay for his own transport) but surely he wont be able to stay in my hotel room?

I don't see why not, I expect it's a double. As long as he pays for any meals he consumes it should be fine.

masterblaster · 02/08/2024 22:24

KatieBr · 18/03/2024 07:59

So I am working away in London for a few nights (never had to before so don't really understand the rules)

DH said as neither of us have been to London, he could join me (obviously pay for his own transport) but surely he wont be able to stay in my hotel room?

Strictly he’s supposed to pay half but I’ve never enforced this on my staff.

itsmylife7 · 02/08/2024 22:30

thought OP had updated the thread then.

Strawberrycheesecake7 · 02/08/2024 22:34

I’ve joined my husband on work trips before. It’s never been an issue. I just stayed in the hotel room or went round the shops while he worked. I don’t think anyone even really knew I was there but if they did I can’t imagine why they would care.

Valeriekat · 03/08/2024 03:22

If the company doesn't like it you should consider if you want to work for them.
It doesn't cost them anything and you are away from your family.
A good company should encourage it.

OlderGlaswegianLivingInDevon · 03/08/2024 09:48

This is over 6 months old, pretty sure it's been resolved by now...