To think DH cant come to this

[KatieBr]

So I am working away in London for a few nights (never had to before so don't really understand the rules)

DH said as neither of us have been to London, he could join me (obviously pay for his own transport) but surely he wont be able to stay in my hotel room?

Bollocks.

(In over 20 years as a senior HR professional and manager this has never ever been an issue. (It was sold as a perk at my last job!))

I can assure you there's nothing scary about getting the tube in central London on your own. What on earth does he think will happen?

I work in London 3 days a week and stay in hotels. (Live in Wales.)

why on earth wouldn’t you be able to deal with the tube??

There's two issues here. The first is what your company travel policy says, which you will need to check because none of us know. But it's not unreasonable for you to ask your work the question.

The other is why your husband assumes you're not competent to travel in London by yourself, especially as he's never been! On the face of it, he is being very patronising, but only you will know if he's being unreasonable.

I am floored that adults born and living in the UK have never visited London

I wouldn't be thrilled by his almost deliberately trying to scare you about the 'big bad tube in big bad London'. It's really not that big a deal.

What do you mean by that? Most people that go into London use the underground at some point. Your update on your DH’s comment about it, is really very strange. Are you not normally allowed to go places on your own?

The going with you is one thing but the implication you can't do it alone is concerning. Is he often negative about your abilities? I'd tell him it was against company policy and go and enjoy. Its London, not Mars (although I'd go to Mars alone too if I could)

I think it depends - are other people from your work going too, or just you? If other colleagues are also travelling there then you’ll probably hang out with them in the evening/afterwards, so it would be a bit weird for your DH to tag along too.

If you’re going alone it shouldn’t be an issue.

I’m wandering around all sorts of parts of London late at night when travelling. Honestly can’t understand what your OP’s issue is. I’ve never had a single issue.

where are you travelling from?

Do you mean for work?

I worked for a large insurance company and travelled from Glasgow to London every week.

If I couldn't get a hotel within walking distance to my office, I would book a hotel that was on the underground line my office was on so I was only getting one train and not having to change. Just for ease, no other reason.

I travelled all over the UK for work on my own and was absolutely fine ☺️

It will be fine for him to go.

But central London and the Tube are very easy to get around, probably one of the easiest cities in the world. Download a free Tube app to find out which line to take

Check your company's travel policy, I have never worked somewhere this has been an issue but if you'd rather be as transparent as possible you can also check with your manager if the room has been reserved with a single occupancy rate/if there is a fee you'd need to pay to add on.

Though separately, your DH sounds like a bit of an idiot. Children use the tube, and since he's never been who is he to "recommend" it? On what basis is he acting like the use of public transport in (assuming here) the country you live in beyond you?

Same.

Why is your DH treating you like a child?

Why would your DH say that? I travelled to central London alone as a 22 year old. Kids get the tube there from a young age for school etc.

My pals husband used to stay away on business regularly. Depending where it was she often went as he always had a double room. His company were fine with it so long as they paid for her food & drink themselves.

If youre happy for your husband to go there's no harm in checking your company's policy.

London is just a place?? Why would you not want to go to work on your own?

but it’s a Premier In , they’ll neither know nor care who is in the room, so let him tag along! X

OP, I promised that the tube is not a scary as your husband thinks it is. My kids have been getting it since they were 12. If you are prepared to share rough locations, I am sure some of us here can give you tips on navigating it.

It is okay to be apprehensive if you have never been to a big city like London before. But I have every confidence that you can manage it.

Do you normally suffer from anxiety? Is that why your husband is being so ‘protective’? His comment would make me want to go alone!

My BiL goes all over the world for work conferences and my sister, whose job doesn't involve travel, almost always goes with him, paying for her own flights etc. One of my daughters and her husband are career academics and they often tag along on one another's work trips if their own commitments permit.

I echo PPs, though. Getting around London on public transport isn't difficult.

I travel in the city regularly with my son. Tubes are so easy. Download TFL GO app for help with what stations & lines you need etc

This. Why would he want to put you off? Wanker behaviour IMO.

Amazing how confidently people post absolute bollocks. You don’t know this, you don’t know the policy. You don’t know the company!

No one would even bat an eyelid at this at any of the places I've worked at.

Recently, I went to a 2 day training event in London in half term, a man I was on a table with had brought his wife and child so that they could explore during the day and still have meals together in the evening.

As long as you cover the difference, I can't re anyone thinking anything of it at all.

You only pay for the room, not the people in it. Anyone can stay with you. Don't put them on your dinner bill. Breakfast will come too if it's in with the room. Otherwise charge separately. Don't cheat on your expenses.