To think DH cant come to this

[KatieBr]

So I am working away in London for a few nights (never had to before so don't really understand the rules)

DH said as neither of us have been to London, he could join me (obviously pay for his own transport) but surely he wont be able to stay in my hotel room?

i dont think it is like that, it is a training event the following day thats all.

Just read your update. Is your DH usually like this? He sounds slightly controlling, wanting to come on your work trip and putting you off going into London on your own.

I have travelled a lot with work, as has DH and we both have had colleagues that have also travelled a lot. We have never joined each other’s trips and I would say it is rare to see anybody do this, but it happens sometimes. I have never known it to be against any rules, but I think you should find out if there is are any plans for evening dinner and drinks with your colleagues whilst on the trip, it would not be appropriate to bring anyone along if so and it is generally a good idea to show your face if there is something on.

Does he usually question your competence as an adult in this way?

Even London School kids get the tube. It is perfectly fine.

What an odd post. You don't know where op works.

My company has a forum every year and partners are allowed to go.

Would be fine at my work and my husband’s work too - so long as any additional costs are paid by you personally and you meet all the work commitments including (if appropriate) dinners and networking in the evenings. If there is nothing required outside 9-2 then sounds like a nice chance for you both to see London either side of what you need to do workwise. But agree with others, read the policy / ask you manager for advice if there isn’t a written one, just in case.

Look up your companies travel policy. It will state in there. Personally most places I have worked would not see an issue as long as the fee for the hotel room does not increase with an extra person staying and any costs incurred by your DH such as breakfast, are settled up separately.

The tube is easy once you know how. There are a number of videos on YouTube that can give you the basics.

Just ask, it should be fine as long as you attend meetings alone and pay for his breakfast and transport. One of the perks of travel has always been tacking an extra day or two on around a trip and using it for sightseeing.

Why would you want to take your DH to a work event? It would be an unnecessary distraction surely. Plus in my role, if travelling early you would be expected to log on remotely and work, not do a leisurely tour of the museums

Seems very controlling. I wouldn’t want someone accompanying me on a work trip.
If he wants you to experience London together then book a leisure trip.
London transport is well signposted and easy to use, you’ll be fine.

Absolutely ok in both mine and dh’s Jobs. I’m public sector he’s private. As long as he pays his own expenses.

How do you think naughty people manage to have a one night stand on a work trip?

Ohhhh good point, I take you're one of the naughty ones! hahah Joke

Where are you from that London is this huge scary adventure that you have never done before? You sound quite sheltered!

you should be able to do this on your own
he is being unfair

I travel with work and I would be expected to log on remotely the day I arrive and work and also afternoon post conference, or even be in the bar to network after.

@JustMarriedBecca - that's lovely for you, but what has it remotely got to do with OP? She's specifically said she doesn't have to work the day she arrives

I’ve just seen your update and seen that he is suggesting this to “help” you. Honestly if you don’t want to add on a bit of sightseeing where you want his company, don’t bring him. The tube is really easy to use and the city is very safe - lots of it is walkable too if staying central.

Why wouldn't he recommend it? Given he's never been to London.

What does anyone’s personal experience have to do with the OP unless by some fluke they work at the same company? Yet she’s asked.

The hotel is paid for so doesn't really matter if there are one or two people in it but just to keep yourself right, ask your company if it's okay.

Providing you're not claiming expenses for DH's meals, drinks or travel I think you'd be fine.

However, I worked in London a couple of days a week for years and I was absolutely fine on the tube, and in the city, by myself.

Have you ever caught a train or tram before? It's exactly like that. Find the right tube and get in it. If you get the wrong one, just get on another one going back the way you came.
London is full of tourists all using the tube. Most Londoners are very happy to help. We may have a reputation for not wanting to engage in chitchat with strangers, but we are generally good with telling you where the Victoria line goes.
If it really bothers you, we have buses too. They run really late at night si you wint get stranded. Google maps will tell you which bus you need and when to get off.

You will probably be fine with having your DH with you, but don't do it out of fear.

Post which Premier Inn you're staying in somewhere - here or Travel - and people will have lots of suggestions of things to di.

Is your DH going to be your bodyguard on the tube, and make sure you arrive safely at work? That's somewhat insulting to your abilities as an adult.

Can I ask what you did?

We did this on occasion (childcare permitting) and even left Friday evening for a Monday start so we had the weekend together. We paid the extras but nobody was too bothered.