To think DH cant come to this

[KatieBr]

So I am working away in London for a few nights (never had to before so don't really understand the rules)

DH said as neither of us have been to London, he could join me (obviously pay for his own transport) but surely he wont be able to stay in my hotel room?

You'll be ok

As long as it's not costing your company any money then it will be absolutely fine I'm sure. I wouldn't even bother telling them.

My DH used to go away during the week quite a bit, and often we'd keep the hotel room on over the weekend and I'd fly out to wherever he was. The company was happy because 2 extra nights in a hotel were cheaper than the flights, and I/we got cheap weekends away.

HR bursts into your room at 3am, to search it for men.

I've never been. Not really had any reason to go!

Hmm. He’s trying to make you anxious and undermine you. He’s trying to generate negative feelings about the trip. Then he’s suggesting he comes too.

Seems a bit….controlling.

Eh? What a bizarre response. This isn’t misconduct in any of the companies I’ve worked for.

Depends but my company are very happy with this. My husband is joining me on a trip to the US as it will only cost his flights and we can spend evenings seeing the city and he can do his own thing in the day. Doesn't cost my company any extra.

We've travelled a lot for work and often do this. As a result, we've had some amazing trips to Alaska and other parts of the US, Brazil, Germany, Portugal and more. It's completely normal and even expected as long as it doesn't cost the employer (or rather the funding body) any additional money. No-one would bat an eyelid at a partner joining an employee for a couple of nights in London.

I'm just staggered that there is a man doubting a grown woman's ability to get herself from A to B in a city with excellent transport links. I presume you manage to get yourself dressed in the morning? Get to work? Run the house (hopefully in conjunction with him doing his fair share)?
You're not a child.

I have lived in the UK all my life (50) and have never been to London and don't have any inclination to either

Really depends on the reason for going surely. I won't be, or very rarely, working in the evening so it's nice to have dinner with someone. If it's a networky thing with a dinner it's unlikely I'll have DH with me. But sometimes I will or I'll accompany him. And either do my own thing or go along if appropriate. And vice versa.

He's come along to posh EU dinners in European countries with me - and, honestly, networked better than I have!

I've gone along to business dinners in the States with him and had a whale of a time....

DP has just been on a training course for work. He absolutely was not allowed guests in his room. Someone got fired in their first week of work for breaking the rule (granted, it was a prostitute but the hotel only knew that becuase they knew her).

I would at the very least check with work.

Good grief, is he normally so anxious?

Don't be daft

My DH sometimes works away and if it's in a large city Manchester, Bristol or such he'll always book a Premier Inn as near to the town as possible so that I can join him and have a stroll out and about and return to the room at my leisure.

In a Premier Inn although you put the amount of people per room a double room is still the same price as stated so may as well make use.

My husband works away often and I’ve gone with him before. I’ve even done it since we’ve had kids and DH asks his boss to book a family room instead (we pay the difference). One of the times my husband submitted his evening meal receipt and they knowingly paid for mine and our sons meal as well (he’d highlighted what was his) as they said they understand the upheaval of having someone working away so it was their treat. We didn’t used to tell his boss when it was just me staying but now we need a family room we have to. His boss says as long as he’s doing his usual hours at work he’s not bothered.

I think he’s controlling. He doesn’t like his ‘woman’ going down to the big smoke, so he’s creating negativity and muscling in to ‘keep her safe’. Gross.

Or more likely, he hates the idea of her being in a hotel away from him, with colleagues.

My DP has worked away most of his career (17 years). I don’t go with him as once there he has to start work immediately in hotel or go and meet work colleagues. You will have to do the same as that’s how it is when you are away.

I have only once gone in all of that time as was different than normal as at that point worked on customer sites so I was in the car for the journey but we paid for our room (not the company paying)….it was a disaster and I ended up going to family as room was dire so never again! 🤣

Would be totally fine where I work.

Probably correct.

I wonder why he said he wouldn't recommend the tube? He isn't in a position to recommend, since he hasn't been on it himself.

Your DH sounds controlling by the way so I’d rather go alone than have him adding to my anxiety. Enjoy your break alone in the evening and working away it’s great to do these things alone I used to.

How would he know if he's never been? 😅 It's fine! Is he trying to scare you into bringing him along??

Lots of people catch the tube ! It is busy obv, but not too scary. Either way OK. Maybe if he's never been he feels anxious