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To think this is outdated and needs to be removed?

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ballybean · 14/03/2024 23:49

My son's school has an all glass isolation room in the hall with three desks, children are put there as punishment? Teachers and students walking passed

OP posts:
MintyCedric · 15/03/2024 07:36

ballybean · 14/03/2024 23:59

I think it's humiliating for them. They aren't put there because they are a danger. They are put there if messing in class, distracting others etc

So the kids will know they’re in there and why, and staff will know as these things are communicated from a safeguarding pov (so we can’t make sure they have registered/not bunked off)…

A glass iso room will make no difference whatsoever to who knows.

midgetastic · 15/03/2024 07:39

It's called punishment

It needs to be not nice - if it's felt to be humiliating that's kind of the point

You can't punish someone without them having sone kind of suffering - mental , physical or emotional

The idea that you can somehow correct anyone without upsetting them is a little odd - but also I think behind a lot of antisocial behaviour/ discipline problems

CinnamonJellyBeans · 15/03/2024 07:40

ballybean · 15/03/2024 00:25

@Gymrabbit I've mentioned multiple times this is for common class misbehaviour, messing, chatting in class. Of course for violence too. I understand children in rage need to be taken somewhere safe but this isn't what it's about. The kids are left in the box with no supervision and then the students and teachers pass by looking at them

If it's for "common class behaviour", why are there only three desks.

I'm not keen on it, as humiliation and subsequent can exacerbate the antisocial behaviour, so it's not a solution in the long term.

However, if you're the parent of a well behaved kid, who has this type of behaviour inflicted upon them in every lesson due to our UK inclusionary education policy, you'll probably be happy to see this behaviour held up to account publicly.

rainydays03 · 15/03/2024 07:41

ballybean · 15/03/2024 00:02

I find it degrading and humiliating. My son hasn't been in it. I thought he was joking when he told me.

As someone who worked in a secondary school for years - The children put in there won’t find it degrading and humiliating I can bet you any money on that - they will see it as a badge of honour and a complete laugh.

caringcarer · 15/03/2024 07:44

KillerTomato7 · 15/03/2024 03:20

I have an idea, everyone. The next time this incredibly caring carer is caught speeding in his car, he should have to stand outside for a period of no less than 6 hours, wearing a dunce cap and signboard detailing his offense.

I can't see why they'd mind, since they have nothing to worry about if they just drive at the correct speed.

I'm sure the punishment for speeding is having to go on a speed awareness course in their own time with other speeders. The first thing they make you do on the course is to state your name and why you were speeding. The humiliation of having to register as a speeder. All miscreants lumped together or to avoid that pay the fine and get points on their licence.

CinnamonJellyBeans · 15/03/2024 07:45

...also means that a teacher can be 1:1 if there's only one kid in there and makes false accusations less likely

Zyq · 15/03/2024 07:45

SalviaDivinorum · 15/03/2024 00:02

So what sanctions would you suggest for misbehaviour?

The sanctions every other school uses?

Zyq · 15/03/2024 07:47

caringcarer · 15/03/2024 07:44

I'm sure the punishment for speeding is having to go on a speed awareness course in their own time with other speeders. The first thing they make you do on the course is to state your name and why you were speeding. The humiliation of having to register as a speeder. All miscreants lumped together or to avoid that pay the fine and get points on their licence.

It isn't humiliating. You're sitting in the comfort of your own house in front of a camera, the other people involved are people who have sped who are hardly going to heap shame on you, plus the instructor who doesn't honestly care and is probably grateful that you are keeping him/her in a job.

ButterflyTable · 15/03/2024 07:52

It’s probably not there to humiliate but for the teachers to be able to observe. However I can see how it is partly humiliating, however fear of that humiliation should make the kids behave!

ZebraDanios · 15/03/2024 07:55

HereBeFuckery · 15/03/2024 05:49

They are humiliated by being seen to have done wrong? That would require children to have a sense of shame. Are you sure this is correct? The children who end up with isolation or suspension at my school have notably low levels of shame.

For example: being confronted with evidence that they have destroyed a toilet bowl (shattered it) and caused sewage to leak out. Reaction: stifled laughter.

For example: having punched a member of staff because they were vaping THC, and when confronted about their choices, including evidence of their physical violence, replying "she has a stupid fucking face, deserved a good slap".

For example: having nearly been expelled (don't get me started on the 'nearly') for arson, when asked about career choices, replied thy would like to be a firefighter and laughing like a hyena.

Yes, these are delicate flowers who have a well developed sense of shame and can have their fragile egos damaged by a room made so glass. You have no clue.

I think OP said the room was for stuff like talking in class though. I was a right goody two shoes at school and even I got told off for talking in class sometimes.

With the sort of behaviour you’re talking about here, I agree a glass room wouldn’t damage them, but surely it wouldn’t do any good either?

BeyondMyWits · 15/03/2024 07:56

When you have no extra staff, timeouts need to be "unmanned" I guess. This seems the same as sitting in the corridor outside the heads office so everyone passing can tut and shake their head. At least they can get on with work if there's a desk.

BobbyBiscuits · 15/03/2024 07:59

It would feel more claustrophobic and 'isolating' if they were in a stuffy room in a basement or something. I'd rather be in a glass box. I guess I could try and speak to my mates as they walked past. I guess it's meant to 'display' them to others, so it will be known that X kid was in there. I don't know whether that encourages or discourages bad behaviour. It is not meant to be really fun in there as obviously it's a punishment.

Caerulea · 15/03/2024 08:00

This whole thing of humiliating students, that's suddenly very popular again, blows my mind!

No, it's not ok. It's never ok. It's not ok for parents or family to humiliate their kids as punishment & neither is it for schools.

Why not just put them in stocks in the playground with a ready supply of rotten tomatoes?

ThisOldThang · 15/03/2024 08:05

At my school I had to suffer constant disruption in class from a group of idiots. I just used to sit there and read the textbooks for 15+ minutes each lesson as they fucked around causing trouble for the teacher.

There's far too much indulgence given to children that ruin things for everybody else.

Stick 'em in the box.

Snowpatrolling · 15/03/2024 08:07

Yep we have one in my DD school, she hates going there, she is there quite often, if she behaved she wouldn’t be there! I’ve got no problem with it. 🤷‍♀️

colourfulchinadolls · 15/03/2024 08:10

Why should teachers and well behaved kids who want to learn have these spoiled arseholes in their classrooms though? Presumably they all have ADHD or some other similar 'mental health issue' which makes them behave poorly when in reality they're just entitled little shits who think the world owes them a living. Stick them in isolation.

Caerulea · 15/03/2024 08:10

Rollinroller · 15/03/2024 06:25

There is research which shows that internal isolation in secondary school is ineffective and disproportionately used for boys with SEN so I’m not sure this will help, more likely make it worse.

I can tell you, from experience, it absolutely breaks these boys. To the point of being hospitalised - twice.

Chanxex · 15/03/2024 08:12

ballybean · 14/03/2024 23:59

I think it's humiliating for them. They aren't put there because they are a danger. They are put there if messing in class, distracting others etc

Then I suggest if they don’t like it they behave and they won’t have to go in there.

Malvasylvestris · 15/03/2024 08:13

If we are seeking to form empathetic and resilient citizens this does not seem the way to go....

Rosscameasdoody · 15/03/2024 08:16

Gymrabbit · 15/03/2024 00:00

ballybean

I know this is a radical thought but if they don’t like the thought of being humiliated they could behave.

Don’t be so silly. Actions don’t have consequences these days. There’s always something or someone else to blame for abdicating personal responsibility for anything, and always a professional on hand to validate that blame.

Chanxex · 15/03/2024 08:17

ballybean · 15/03/2024 00:25

@Gymrabbit I've mentioned multiple times this is for common class misbehaviour, messing, chatting in class. Of course for violence too. I understand children in rage need to be taken somewhere safe but this isn't what it's about. The kids are left in the box with no supervision and then the students and teachers pass by looking at them

Kids who are a pain in the arse do need to be removed from the classroom. I have one who isn’t at all naughty in the sense he’s not rude or violent and he gets outstanding grades but he’s a royal pain in the backside and whatever the teachers say he won’t stop chatting and being silly. To be honest I would be delighted for him to be put in a box if it meant he stopped the constant chat. If he can’t show respect to the teacher trying to teach the class why should they respect him.

Ponoka7 · 15/03/2024 08:20

They have them in police stations for vulnerable/teenage offenders, it's a observation tool when staffing can't be what it needs to be.
There's not a lot of answers for some young people. Removing from activities is as bad for MH/isolating, detentions can't be given in some cases.

"If we are seeking to form empathetic and resilient citizens this does not seem the way to go...."

Unfortunately that ship has sailed by this age and they aren't in school enough for a high school to turn things around. We need better intervention at primary level.

cerisepanther73 · 15/03/2024 08:24

@HereBeFuckery

What kinds of consequences did seriously disruptive pupils in your post recieve then?
are they send speacial needs pupils then?

Is there 🤔 support for teachers dealing with disruptive pupils that is as bad as that sounds like their behaviours is out of control?

I hope this kind of disruptive behaviours doesn't get swept away under the carpet or dismissed by their parents in anyway?

I really think these disruptive kinds of pupils should be reported to the local social services and even reported to the police

The parents should have to actively get involved with the school to change their behaviours too...

SeasideRock · 15/03/2024 08:24

As an ex-headteacher myself I am nt in favour of this type of intervention at all. It massively discriminates against children with SEND and is not effective. We wouldn't do this to adults, so why would we do it to children?

Characterbuilding · 15/03/2024 08:26

I’m not sure there is much time for reflection or knuckling down to work with people walking past all the time, mates possibly knocking on the glass and making a joke out of things. Seems counterproductive to me.