to think that people who b*tch about other people's weddings are just sad, sad, sad..

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..and probably jealous, and really should just shut the f*ck up.

Can you tell I'm bored of the wedding bitching that keeps popping up on here?

she is a rubbish choice of best friend TBH

I didn't go to my best-friend's wedding because it was on the Isles of Scilly and she completely understood

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mrsshackleton - why don't you just tell her people can't afford it?

Ah, 'tis all very complicated, I don't want people to think she's a rubbish friend because she is fabulous and her story is very sad
She's been trying for kids for years and everything has failed and really it's too late now, she's 46
So I think this is her consolation prize - a huge party, it's given her something to focus on (though I worry what the focus will be once the wedding is over)
A lot of humouring is going on. I also thinks she genuinely doesn't quite realise how expensive it is for a family of four to attend something like this, as opposed to a couple. I guess there's a bit of guilt going on with most of us that we've had kids easily and she's had so much misery that we all have to bite the bullet and do what she wants
Still blinking expensive though

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To be honest it's the hen night and gift that are the final straw - I don't want to spend at least £100 on an evening in a dark room with loads of pissed women when I have to be up at six come what may to feed dd2
Do I sound like a miserable git?

mrsshackleton - last wedding I went to abroad I explained that there was no way I could do both the hen (also abroad) and the wedding. If you don't want to go, don't!!!

am expressing myself all wrong
I do want to go, because I want to support my friend after a few very difficult years. If she'd decided to have it in Argentina we would still have all gone
Just wish she'd thought a bit more about financial and practical implications and am worried lots of other people won't go because they're not as close to her as I am, was moved to add my bit after much funnier post from woman who had to go to an industrial estate to look at her bf's wedding dress, the things we do when our friends are gripped by this madness

I agree Elkat ... its quite normal - not always acceptable or in perhaps the best of taste but its what happens (admittedly it can be quite funny on occasions). Some people thrive on it, however, I know some people who do it so often and relentlessly that their company is not always to be enjoyed.Its frankly a bit tedious when they have nothing nice to say about anyone.
Yes Blokes do it too - but probably in a more subtle/less obvious way than an out and out bitch, although they can be sharp and cutting.
I dont think in general women would be scared of expressing their opinions on weddings/babies/new houses for fear of being branded - lets face it we get so absorbed within our world at times like these that we wouldnt notice anyway !
I visualise Bridezilla as some elderly bride - shall we say - parading up the aisle in a meringue ! Actually anyone in a meringue for that matter...A bit like the vision of the ever elegant (smirk-whoops look I've started now) Nancy Del Olio modelling a meringue recently (yikes!)

Mrs S can sympathise - we have friends with children who are getting married miles away over a weekend at the height of summer - so it means a weekend away and each have decided in addition to have weekends away (hen and stag parties). They cannot understand why some have said they cannot make the hen/stag weekends - (we all have children) as well as the wedding...sounding miserable but frankly
if I was going to the trouble of asking my parents to look after my precious babies for a weekend I'd rather spend it with my DH than with a bunch of women I dont know very well. We are really looking forward to the wedding though...Also very sadly am rubbish at drinking nowadays so would be wasted on me !!!

Mrss - you don't sound miserable, you sound lovely. Your friend is lucky to have you!

Ah thanks policy
And I am lucky to have her
Feel guilty for ever having moaned

MorningPaper - your 14:32 post sums it up beautifully.

I agree with original OP, and YANBU not had time to read the floods of answers. Sorry.

I know this thread is dead now but I did promise further down it to link to some statistics.

The latest analysis (released yesterday) by the Office for National Statistics says that "If current divorce rates continue around 45% of marriages will end in divorce".

www.statistics.gov.uk/pdfdir/poptrd0308.pdf

45% is higher than even the more cynical (not bitter) of us on the thread were suggesting.

lol fennel but WHEN will that 45% figure be hit? Please explain

So far 50% of my marriages have ended in divorce

I think it means that 45% of people who are currently married will divorce before their 50th wedding anniversary.

OK I am with you now

That makes sense

Seems very sensible to me

TOP thread. I am howling at the thought of a corpsezilla. Does that person sit up in the coffin and tell off uncle joe for wiping his eyes on a white hankie when the flowers denote that the code is clearly ivory?

FWIW I enjoy a good wedding. But I do feel entitled to have a moan about couples who take it all too seriously. And I agree with Cod who once posted that the more expensive and showy the wedding, the shorter the mariage tends to be. Nuff said.

Love 'meringueitude' as well.

MI, you are in great form on this thread. Respec'

That is interesting Fennel, but it does tend to assume that young people will behave the way the boomer generation did.

I think that they probably won't. Largely because so few choose to get married in the first place these days.