to think that people who b*tch about other people's weddings are just sad, sad, sad..

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..and probably jealous, and really should just shut the f*ck up.

Can you tell I'm bored of the wedding bitching that keeps popping up on here?

And we shall be requesting no presents or gift whatsoever...

I would be insulted if anyone ever chose Riverdance over being in my company

Quite. And she didn't have her tickets booked already. She was travelling to my wedding, saw Riverdance was on and decided to book tickets for the evening of the wedding.

I would never get close enough to someone who would go to riverdance to invite them to my wedding

Good point carmen

But Saveme that is incredibly rude, why on earth did you try to stop her? If someone said that to me, after I had stopped laughing I would just tell her that it was not a problem and not want to have much to do with her ever again.

(madly scrubs Michael Flately's name of the invite list)

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Your napkins??????

Nobody said inviting people to a wedding was selfish. What's selfish is getting all controlling about HOW people attend one's wedding, and wanting everyone to shine a big spotlight on one and getting into a rage because a guest doesn't wear the right coloured outfit or whatever one's pet peeve is.

And there is also moral issue re. spending 40K on wedding. for me.

Exactly Hedgewitch

You see this is why I can't get married. Napkins mean nothing to me. And I cannot, simply cannot, envisage the father of my children encased in a cummerbund.

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If you choose to have a big wedding, great, but why think that puts expectations on your guests? Apart from bhving themselves (more or less) that is. And expected presents because of your choice of wedding is just rude.

Am such a slow typist no-one will even know what I am referring to!

"forking out all that to make sure they had a good time" - this is the type of thing that irritates.

Reminds me of being on a boat trip once, on holiday, and seeing a father on his knees in front of his little girl. He was puce in the face and wagging his finger in her face and roaring "Every other child on this boat is having a good time! You start having a good time RIGHT THIS MINUTE!"

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wasn;t there a thread recently which mentioned sending guests swatches so they could co-ordinate outfits with the wedding party?

I went to a wedding once of a very nice couple, not short of cash, paid for it themselves etc. Dh and I bought them a piece of art we thought they'd like. We heard through the grapevine that they didn't like it and were upset we'd bought it for them!

I wouldn't snigger at MI's dp not wanting to wear a cummerbund...but seemingly she would at My DP wearing one...(but he wears them often at formal events anyway so it's no big deal for him)

Who's being nasty there?

Spending 40K on wedding, yes, in RL.

Guest wearing wrong coloured outfit that didn't match bridesmaid's dress (after a swatch of material had been supplied) was a thread on here a couple of days ago, so haven't experienced in RL but unless thread was a wind-up (which I thought at the time), does happen. Poster was wondering whether guest's own wedding would be an opportunity to retaliate!

You see for me the money thing is a problem. I feel that commerce in general takes advantage of the poor deluded bridezilla by selling them the idea that if evrything isn't matching(sorry Hedgewitch) then the neighbours will think less of them and that to have everything matching costs an extra 20k.
THERE IS A TAX OF AT LEAST 50 PERCENT ON BRIDES. And as has been pointed out already it is usually the brides who are organising the wedding machine.

It is just a big party and I am 100 per cent sure that I could throw an amazing party for 5k but that if I called it a wedding it would cost 10.