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I'm absolutely livid and need advice - pulled over by police

146 replies

SableGrape · 14/03/2024 12:41

Just pulled over in the car with my partner (I have another thread about his shit - the idea today was he'd drop me off at work and go back to his own place, pending a more serious conversation about our relationship going forward.)

We get onto the duel carriageway and he was driving like a bit of a knob (speeding, cutting between lanes), which attracted the attention of a police car. Pulled him over and the car has no MOT, no tax and no insurance.

I am absolutely livid - I had no idea about any of it because on the surface it's really nice car (Astra, about three years old). The car has been seized.

I have a licence but don't drive currently (my car is SORN'D because I had an ankle op and haven't been able to drive) I'm worried that it's going to affect my insurance or license or something - I only passed about four years ago (lived in London before so had no need!)

Told partner to fuck off and that it's over so that's a good thing maybe but what do I do now? Do being in the car affect me in any way? I'm so angry I feel like I can't think straight!

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4leafclov3r · 15/03/2024 19:42

I'm sure you can only be in trouble in the passenger seat if the driver has no license, this is a non issue if he just had no relevant pieces of paperwork for the car. I'd also add just reading your last comment please try and call the finance company and ask in writing from them that you are nothing to do with the outstanding finance. If they only have your number on the documents let's hope he gave the correct address. You definitely don't want them turning up to you regarding outstanding balance. Even if the car is not returned by the police and is crushed the finance stays payable until all is repaid!
Once you have in writing that the number has been corrected and you are in no way a party to the finance agreement noone can bother you regarding it. I've seen it happen before.

SableGrape · 15/03/2024 19:45

BabyofMine · 15/03/2024 19:33

This is totally not the point of this but I’m so curious how do you get home from a motorway if the vehicle is seized?!! Do the police drive you to the nearest bus stop or something 🙈😂 they can’t just leave you in a lay-by or something surely?

We got dropped off at a services that was just down the road. Not sure if that's usual or not!

Had to ring a taxi from there on though!

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Sparklesocks · 15/03/2024 19:45

OP why are you still with this loser? Your other thread was about him potentially lying to you about his job and now this. What on earth is so redeeming about him?

SableGrape · 15/03/2024 19:47

Sparklesocks · 15/03/2024 19:45

OP why are you still with this loser? Your other thread was about him potentially lying to you about his job and now this. What on earth is so redeeming about him?

I'm not! He's gone from my life forever!

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Sparklesocks · 15/03/2024 19:47

Well that’s good! Onwards and upwards!

SableGrape · 15/03/2024 19:57

Thank you!

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Teledeluxe · 15/03/2024 20:17

Congratulations on getting rid of ex partner. He sounds like a real knob.

Goldieremson · 15/03/2024 21:13

Won't affect you at all but he sounds like a right loser fuck him off for good

Ohhoho · 16/03/2024 08:41

You must get an MOT for your vehicle by either: the third anniversary of its registration. the anniversary of its last MOT, if it's over 3 years old.
so if the car is only three years old hardly a massive error. The tax and insurance much more so.

themadhat · 16/03/2024 09:52

I don’t have any advice re legal perspective. I’ve had a similar situation many years ago I had a feral BF who was taking MY car to the petrol station filling it up and driving off without paying. I had a knock at the door from the police who told me and had him on the CCTV. I was absolutely shocked as had never had any run ins with the police. Anyway.. nothing ever came of it I didn’t get into trouble and he went MIA. So unsure what happened. I’m so glad you’ve got rid of him best thing you can do - learn from it and move on.

zingally · 16/03/2024 10:10

It won't have any impact on your driving in any way. You weren't behind the wheel.

Well done though on getting shot of the twat!

Itloggedmeoutagain · 16/03/2024 10:14

easylikeasundaymorn · 14/03/2024 13:05

Terrible advice.

Police officers are entitled to ask anything they want just like any other random person.

If OP had refused to give her name or show ID then the police would have had to explain why they wanted it and proceed from there (and tbh there could be a lot of reasons, a huge proportion of "wanted" people are picked up by police for other offences or it could be as simple as checking that they hadn't made a mistake and OP had insurance under her name or with the slightly wrong details).

Also if it did go to court or even just if the ex tried to dispute the points/fine, like saying she was driving but made him say it was him, or that she had told him she had sorted insurance and taken the car for an MOT, or any other stupid excuse obviously it is better for the police to be able to say "yes x was also in the car but she was in the passenger seat when we pulled them over, showed us her ID and had a visibly injured ankle so we are satisfied she wasn't driving and she knew nothing about the insurance/mot" rather than "Oh yeah there was a woman there but we didn't ask who she was or anything about her."

If they demanded she provide info without a reason and threatened her with arrest or similar if she refused perhaps then OP could complain - but asking is completely fine. How do you think police carry out any investigations at all if you think they can only speak to the person who is suspected of carrying out a crime and not any potential witnesses?

Edited

Agree with this totally

Ukrainebaby23 · 16/03/2024 11:05

Maybe cops wanted to make sure

a: you weren't a criminal, lots of criminals use uninsured vehicles
And didn't have any warrants outstanding..
B, you weren't at risk
C you weren't vulnerable especially if you were having to make your own way home.
D. It wasn't your car, since then you would be commiting an offence
E. You weren't supervising an unlicensed driver

F nor a paying passenger etcetcetc

I'm not sure if being in an uninsured, untaxed vehicle gives them the right to demand/enforce your details, but they sure do have the right to ask.

trainboundfornowhere · 16/03/2024 12:57

SableGrape · 15/03/2024 19:45

We got dropped off at a services that was just down the road. Not sure if that's usual or not!

Had to ring a taxi from there on though!

That is usual. The police have a duty to drop you off at the nearest place of safety which on the motorway would be the first services after they have stopped you.

I’m pleased you have got rid of him now.

blueandsad · 18/03/2024 09:54

Get the car back , and GET OVER IT and tax-insure the thing .. it's only a chunk of metal after all ...No need to go overboard ; no need to stress too much .....no-one got hurt . Far worse things happen , and don't be afraid or embarrassed by the police .. they are not God

TheTimeIsNowMaybeNow · 18/03/2024 13:34

blueandsad · 18/03/2024 09:54

Get the car back , and GET OVER IT and tax-insure the thing .. it's only a chunk of metal after all ...No need to go overboard ; no need to stress too much .....no-one got hurt . Far worse things happen , and don't be afraid or embarrassed by the police .. they are not God

Edited

Why would the op do that? It's not her car ?

blueandsad · 18/03/2024 14:26

I was stopped by ANPR checks on Chippenham bypass , 3 weeks after the MOT had expired ... fessed up / apologised - and I paid a £80 FPN . Big deal ... none of my all female crew gave a t*ss....... Whole thing took 4 minutes.... and yes of course it's " wrong " / careless

blueandsad · 18/03/2024 14:34

excessive speeding / red lights and tailgating are as dangerous or worse ... Almost everyone seems to tailgate in Lane Two and Three at 10 metres doing 60- 90 mph ... wommin in HUGE , unneccessary SUV s schoolruns seem the most arrogant and road ragey . / super bright LED headlights ... not ALWAYS men to blame

OneMoreTime23 · 18/03/2024 14:36

blueandsad · 18/03/2024 14:34

excessive speeding / red lights and tailgating are as dangerous or worse ... Almost everyone seems to tailgate in Lane Two and Three at 10 metres doing 60- 90 mph ... wommin in HUGE , unneccessary SUV s schoolruns seem the most arrogant and road ragey . / super bright LED headlights ... not ALWAYS men to blame

Edited

Why are 80% of the people on local roads doing 2/3rds id the speed limit? Usually with a great gaping hole to the left of them that they should be in, and apparently only realise when someone flashes them. My time isn’t theirs to steal.

SableGrape · 19/03/2024 09:10

blueandsad · 18/03/2024 09:54

Get the car back , and GET OVER IT and tax-insure the thing .. it's only a chunk of metal after all ...No need to go overboard ; no need to stress too much .....no-one got hurt . Far worse things happen , and don't be afraid or embarrassed by the police .. they are not God

Edited

It's not my car and is currently sitting in a yard somewhere still or whatever the police do with them. Oh and I can't drive due to my ankle at the moment!

Maybe you should read my post again?

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SableGrape · 19/03/2024 09:11

blueandsad · 18/03/2024 14:34

excessive speeding / red lights and tailgating are as dangerous or worse ... Almost everyone seems to tailgate in Lane Two and Three at 10 metres doing 60- 90 mph ... wommin in HUGE , unneccessary SUV s schoolruns seem the most arrogant and road ragey . / super bright LED headlights ... not ALWAYS men to blame

Edited

Well in this case it was absolutely a man to blame.

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