Who folds up your sofa throws at the end of the night?

[Opol]

We have invested in 2 gorgeous velvet sofas from Loaf. They look gorgeous when the cushions are plumped and the throw blankets are folded.

I often go up first and ask DH and kids to tidy away blankets and arrange throw cushions (2 on each sofa) before coming up. 9/10 they don’t which just makes the room look crap. So it falls to me every morning. Tbh I’m the only one that cares.

What happens in your house?

I agree with this.

A messy living room is quickly tidied up but I HATE coming down to a messy kitchen. Ruins my mood.

Sometimes my teens make beans on toast or something in the night and make a mess. Drives me insane.

Tell them not to use them.

If they want to use them, they have to fold them.

I think I'd rather sit on the floor than be forced to fold blankets and plump pillows every single night.

Just me, apparently no-one else in my house thinks they need too 🙃

I fold mine every night. But then, it's my blanket and nobody else really uses. The rest of the living room is a bomb site 😆

If you care then you do it that's what I've accepted. Whole heap of stress and resentment gone.

Plus a load of other stuff I've now decided not to care about too

I do sometimes, but generally I have given up because the kids/DH just come along again and leave them scrunched up on the sofa or on the floor. The dog also grabs them and nests in them.

No one, the cats need somewhere to sleep.

You’d lose the plot in our house.

We eat late and don’t tidy the kitchen the same night. I prefer to do it first thing in the morning when I have energy.

I actually find people who jump up from a meal to tidy up kind of annoying. You’re just relaxing into the social part of the evening and they break the mood.

We close the kitchen door and go and watch TV with a second glass of wine.

Me. And dh does it if we are having visitors but only ever then.

This isn’t something that would cross my mind. Who cares?

No amount of throws or cushions are going to make our sofas look fancy. Both are probably nearly old as me.

Sometimes I think that I would like fancy sofas with scatter cushions and throws but then remember that I can’t have nice things because my dogs are dicks.

DH does it because he cares. I don't care or notice I honestly don't. If I lived alone I would never fold a blanket.

Are these sofa throws part of the sofa set or are they just blankets you snuggle under? I'm confused.

Me. Mainly because my DP wouldn't even consider it a "job" but really because I have OCD about things being tidy and straight. We do leave a throw on one couch for the dogs though which gets put away in the morning before we all leave the house.

There are certain jobs round the house (cooking, cleaning, washing, bins out etc) which are essential and we split everything pretty much 50/50 but I've accepted that cushions and throws are just something my DP (and probably most men!) doesn't understand and so therefore he'll never think to straighten them which is fine! He often goes to get the filler / screwdriver / hammer to sort something out that I have ignored / not noticed so works both ways.

Oh FFS get a grip.

What makes you think she doesn't mean "invested"? https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Boots_theory

It's because your the only one who cares what it looks like in the morning.

As an aside, how often do you fluff your sodas? We have a sofa from loaf and although I love it I'm finding it to be quite....labour intense....

Whoever can be bothered, which is usually none of us.

I'm all up for a tidy room. I'm not up for nagging member of my family to stage the front room like a show home to maintain a certain aesthetic.

I want to vote YANBU but I've essentially learned over the years that I'm the one who brings things like throws and cushions into the house, and I'm the one who cares how they look, so I need to be the one putting them away. So it is unreasonable to expect others to do it for me. Not with everything, but there has to be line somewhere and in this house it's cushions and throws!

We've recently introduced ADJ's (after dinner jobs) where we spend 20 minutes as a family doing a house reset after dinner, in an attempt to show everyone what it takes to keep the house nice. But after that anything that I want done in time for me to come down in the morning I do for myself.

I can't find any energy to be bothered about things like this. I think it starts to get really petty and breeds resentment if you look at such small things as a "job". It's only folding some blankets in a manner you personally prefer.

Our living room is covered in blankets. They get flung/folded/draped/dismantled from their toddler fort, by whoever thinks to do it.

If I were to list such small things as "jobs" we would be moaning about each other not binning toilet roll tubes (him) and never remembering to feed the cat (me). Instead, we work as a team. I throw some toilet roll tubes in the bin and he keeps the cat alive!

As long as the big chores are equally split in a way you're happy with (laundry, cooking, shopping, dishes, bins, cleaning, hoovering and dusting), then you need to let little things like this go. It doesn't matter.

This is why I won't ever have a Loaf sofa. You constantly have to 'put them back together' to make them look nice

I don't do that.

We take turns of an evening. 6 in the house, youngest 14.

So everyone has a night where they do the kitchen.

And it's done several hours after dinner as we all sit and watch TV or play video games after.

If its my eldest sons turn it will probably get done at 3am.

As long as its tidy in the morning I don't care.

The cats are usually asleep on them so nothing. I’ll fold them if they aren’t but otherwise they don’t get folded.

Life is too short to worry about that though.