Page 27 | Neighbour using my drop kerb!

mykerb · 2024-03-12T20:54:16+00:00

A new family have moved in next door - not attached we are a row of two semi's each and so on.. I have a driveway and a dropped kerb. So it goes my drive, pavement and then the dropped kerb. My next door neighbours have a make shift drive (from previous tenants) but NO dropped kerb, it doesn't help that their neighbours have 4 cars and two permanently parked outside their garden so the new neighbours have nowhere to park except down the road because of it but again not my problem! They have started driving over my drop kerb to park in the make shift drive, I have started parking on my dropped kerb to make a point of it and I did block them in, to which the woman politely asked if I could move my car so she could reverse out, I told her I don't appreciate her using the kerb to park in, to which she replied that she is going to be getting the curb outside hers dropped but it will take a while due to getting planning permission etc and it's hard to walk down the road with 3 kids and a newborn so it's just been more convenient, but she won't do it again if it bothers me. Tbh she hasn't had a chance to park there again as I have started parking in front of my drive, on my dropped kerb but my sister has said I'm being petty for no reason and making her life harder and it's not a big deal! And it's really irked me because now I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not!

MikeRafone · 13/03/2024 15:53

Testina · 12/03/2024 21:12

It simply isn’t “your” dropped kerb.

People think they own the road, the pavement outside their house and now the kerb stones between them. This is how some car drivers think, it really is

Rosscameasdoody · 13/03/2024 15:53

Moonfishstar · 13/03/2024 15:45

OP

Do you want to ridiculed and despised by your neighbours, and generally considered a mean-spirited pathetic human being?

Is that a price worth paying for preventing a car from temporarily going over a dropped kerb for what must be all of 5 seconds a couple of times a day. If you had a life, you wouldn’t even have noticed!

You’re simply a latter day Scrooge…

The real point is that the neighbour is illegally accessing their own driveway from OPs dropped kerb because they haven’t paid for their own. This involves
driving on pavement that hasn’t been reinforced to take the weight of a car - which is part of what you pay for to access your own driveway. Soooooo many people trying to justify it when they know it’s wrong.

RayofSunshine18 · 13/03/2024 15:54

This might just be, to date, the most pathetic thing that I have read on this site. Are people just not kind and helpful to each other any more?

DiscoBeat · 13/03/2024 15:54

I'm glad I don't live next door to you. She's explained that she's waiting for her kerb to be dropped and you could help her park safely with her newborn and children but you'd rather be 'irked' and make it difficult. Wait until you need good neighbourly relations to work in reverse!

queenofthedryshampoo · 13/03/2024 15:57

I would do anything for my lovely neighbours..and they would do anything for me. I can't imagine being such a horrible, mean-spirited person to make life difficult for another woman where it costs me absolutely nothing to help. I'm so, so glad I don't live next door to you.

Rosscameasdoody · 13/03/2024 16:02

Do all the contributors to the thread really not understand that it’s your own responsibility to sort out a dropped kerb and reinforced pavement for access to your own driveway. And that for a neighbour to just use it to access their own property because basically they can’t be arsed to pay for one themselves is just being a CF ? OP only has the neighbours’ word for it that they’re in the process of obtaining their own, so l think being irked that they used it initially without asking is fair enough. But now OP knows the situation I don’t think it’s unreasonable to allow access until they get their own sorted out - provided it doesn’t turn into a permanent arrangement.

pam290358 · 13/03/2024 16:07

MikeRafone · 13/03/2024 15:53

People think they own the road, the pavement outside their house and now the kerb stones between them. This is how some car drivers think, it really is

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So if you paid £2500 to have your kerb dropped and pavement reinforced so that you could have access to your own drive from the road, you really wouldn’t be bothered that your neighbour was using it illegally to access their own property on the cheap ? Bullshit. Absolutely fine temporarily, to help out, but not on a permanent basis. OP has only the neighbours’ word that they are applying for their own.

EmilyTjP · 13/03/2024 16:09

Rosscameasdoody · 13/03/2024 16:02

Do all the contributors to the thread really not understand that it’s your own responsibility to sort out a dropped kerb and reinforced pavement for access to your own driveway. And that for a neighbour to just use it to access their own property because basically they can’t be arsed to pay for one themselves is just being a CF ? OP only has the neighbours’ word for it that they’re in the process of obtaining their own, so l think being irked that they used it initially without asking is fair enough. But now OP knows the situation I don’t think it’s unreasonable to allow access until they get their own sorted out - provided it doesn’t turn into a permanent arrangement.

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But what harm is it doing to OP to drive across her dropped kerb? It’s literally seconds, if that. Why would you even allow this to bother you? Is OP standing at her window, waiting and watching?

DagenhamDanny · 13/03/2024 16:10

Rosscameasdoody · 13/03/2024 16:02

Do all the contributors to the thread really not understand that it’s your own responsibility to sort out a dropped kerb and reinforced pavement for access to your own driveway. And that for a neighbour to just use it to access their own property because basically they can’t be arsed to pay for one themselves is just being a CF ? OP only has the neighbours’ word for it that they’re in the process of obtaining their own, so l think being irked that they used it initially without asking is fair enough. But now OP knows the situation I don’t think it’s unreasonable to allow access until they get their own sorted out - provided it doesn’t turn into a permanent arrangement.

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It has been correctly stated many times by various posters in this thread that the OP does NOT own the dropped kerb. It is part of a public highway therefore is owned by the local council. The OP has no say whatsoever in who can or cannot use it. Why is that so difficult to understand?

SoupDragon · 13/03/2024 16:10

pam290358 · 13/03/2024 16:07

So if you paid £2500 to have your kerb dropped and pavement reinforced so that you could have access to your own drive from the road, you really wouldn’t be bothered that your neighbour was using it illegally to access their own property on the cheap ? Bullshit. Absolutely fine temporarily, to help out, but not on a permanent basis. OP has only the neighbours’ word that they are applying for their own.

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If it didn't inconvenience me it wouldn't bother me. Life is far less stressful if you stop getting wound up about things that don't actually inconvenience you.

This makes life easier for the neighbour whilst waiting for the work to be done and in no way inconveniences the OP.

yourenottgebossoofme · 13/03/2024 16:17

pam290358 · 13/03/2024 16:07

So if you paid £2500 to have your kerb dropped and pavement reinforced so that you could have access to your own drive from the road, you really wouldn’t be bothered that your neighbour was using it illegally to access their own property on the cheap ? Bullshit. Absolutely fine temporarily, to help out, but not on a permanent basis. OP has only the neighbours’ word that they are applying for their own.

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I can not think of a single reason why any normal person would give even the tiniest shit about this. It has absolutely no impact on the op.

puzzledout · 13/03/2024 16:28

Rosscameasdoody · 13/03/2024 16:02

Do all the contributors to the thread really not understand that it’s your own responsibility to sort out a dropped kerb and reinforced pavement for access to your own driveway. And that for a neighbour to just use it to access their own property because basically they can’t be arsed to pay for one themselves is just being a CF ? OP only has the neighbours’ word for it that they’re in the process of obtaining their own, so l think being irked that they used it initially without asking is fair enough. But now OP knows the situation I don’t think it’s unreasonable to allow access until they get their own sorted out - provided it doesn’t turn into a permanent arrangement.

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You still don't own it! You are paying for the convenience of having the drop, it does not become your property and people can still cross it!

Next you'll be saying that you don't want pushchairs or mobility scooters to go across it because it's.............miiiiiiinnnnnereee!!

Brin1977 · 13/03/2024 16:30

I've read some things on here over the years but this!! Wow!

puzzledout · 13/03/2024 16:30

DiscoBeat · 13/03/2024 15:54

I'm glad I don't live next door to you. She's explained that she's waiting for her kerb to be dropped and you could help her park safely with her newborn and children but you'd rather be 'irked' and make it difficult. Wait until you need good neighbourly relations to work in reverse!

It's shameful isn't it!! Rather see a parent walking up and down the road with four children rather than let them cross a piece of pavement that you don't even own.

Some people deserves never to be spoken to ever again by their neighbours!!

puzzledout · 13/03/2024 16:36

@pam290358 @Rosscameasdoody

From one council!

Rebeldiamond1 · 13/03/2024 16:38

TheFormidableMrsC · 13/03/2024 13:11

You sound utterly vile. What is wrong with you?

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Its not even this persons property. She didnt buy the pavement she paid to have it made into a drop kerb to get to her property but its not her kerb so god knows what this nutters banging on about

Thisisthecorrectresponse · 13/03/2024 16:39

Poor woman will no doubt have been in tears about the awful neighbourhood she's moved into and her rude and mean neighbours. What a welcome!!!!!

Rebeldiamond1 · 13/03/2024 16:40

pam290358 · 13/03/2024 16:07

So if you paid £2500 to have your kerb dropped and pavement reinforced so that you could have access to your own drive from the road, you really wouldn’t be bothered that your neighbour was using it illegally to access their own property on the cheap ? Bullshit. Absolutely fine temporarily, to help out, but not on a permanent basis. OP has only the neighbours’ word that they are applying for their own.

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You can be as bothered as you like, doesnt make the kerb hers and it doesnt make it reasonable. I hate people parking outside my house but its not illegal so I have to suck it up

Rebeldiamond1 · 13/03/2024 16:41

puzzledout · 13/03/2024 16:36

@pam290358 @Rosscameasdoody

From one council!

This 100%.

Emotionalsupportviper · 13/03/2024 16:42

yourenottgebossoofme · 13/03/2024 15:15

No. not sure what he did… he wore a boiler suit!

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Different neighbour.

The Rev Kev* would never have lowered himself to.a boiler suit. Even in retirement he wore his dog collar all the time - putting th bins out, mowing the lawn.

You know the type - grade A, ocean-going arsehole. And Mrs Kev was WORSE, if you can imagine that.

*Not his real name. Wouldn't lower himself to an abbreviated Christian name, either.

Emotionalsupportviper · 13/03/2024 16:46

Rosscameasdoody · 13/03/2024 16:02

Do all the contributors to the thread really not understand that it’s your own responsibility to sort out a dropped kerb and reinforced pavement for access to your own driveway. And that for a neighbour to just use it to access their own property because basically they can’t be arsed to pay for one themselves is just being a CF ? OP only has the neighbours’ word for it that they’re in the process of obtaining their own, so l think being irked that they used it initially without asking is fair enough. But now OP knows the situation I don’t think it’s unreasonable to allow access until they get their own sorted out - provided it doesn’t turn into a permanent arrangement.

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OP only has the neighbours’ word for it that they’re in the process of obtaining their own

We only have the IOP's word that she paid for the dropped kerb.

The council might have put it ind for the benefit of wheelchair users and OP got lucky; or the person they bought their house from might have put it in,

ladygindiva · 13/03/2024 16:46

You are being extremely unreasonable and petty as fuck. Hope that helps.

puzzledout · 13/03/2024 16:47

Has anyone reminded the OP that if she's told her insurance company that she's parking off street and it's a lie, as it currently is! That if there is an accident she may not be able to claim!

Hands up, who would like to see that?

🙋‍♀️

ladygindiva · 13/03/2024 16:49

queenofthedryshampoo · 13/03/2024 15:57

I would do anything for my lovely neighbours..and they would do anything for me. I can't imagine being such a horrible, mean-spirited person to make life difficult for another woman where it costs me absolutely nothing to help. I'm so, so glad I don't live next door to you.

I echo this. I'm speechless.

Rubyupbeat · 13/03/2024 16:54

Gosh, you are so petty. Let her use it, she will have her own soon enough.