Neighbour using my drop kerb!

[mykerb]

A new family have moved in next door - not attached we are a row of two semi's each and so on..
I have a driveway and a dropped kerb. So it goes my drive, pavement and then the dropped kerb.

My next door neighbours have a make shift drive (from previous tenants) but NO dropped kerb, it doesn't help that their neighbours have 4 cars and two permanently parked outside their garden so the new neighbours have nowhere to park except down the road because of it but again not my problem!

They have started driving over my drop kerb to park in the make shift drive, I have started parking on my dropped kerb to make a point of it and I did block them in, to which the woman politely asked if I could move my car so she could reverse out, I told her I don't appreciate her using the kerb to park in, to which she replied that she is going to be getting the curb outside hers dropped but it will take a while due to getting planning permission etc and it's hard to walk down the road with 3 kids and a newborn so it's just been more convenient, but she won't do it again if it bothers me.

Tbh she hasn't had a chance to park there again as I have started parking in front of my drive, on my dropped kerb but my sister has said I'm being petty for no reason and making her life harder and it's not a big deal! And it's really irked me because now I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not!

I do get why it bugs you, but you are also being extremely petty, if she was doing it and planning on carrying on with no intention of getting her own kerb dropped thenaybe it would be taking the pee, but like she said it takes time and your aware she can't park near her house with her kids in tow. Just grin and bear it till her dropped kerb is installed.

Worse case scenario is one of your kerbs cracks, your report to the council and they repair/replace at no cost to you as not on your land.

Your actions have made you look like a bit of a jobs worth neighbour and if I was your neighbour I would be concerned about who I've just moved in next to.

Wow, imagine being that petty over a bit of pavement.

Get a grip on yourself. The woman is juggling 2 kids and a newborn and you can’t give an inch of grace?
You admit it doesn’t actually affect you at all - so have a long hard think about why you’re being so petty. Sounds like you have issues elsewhere and you’re taking it out on her.

Presumably this is an n between them going to park their cars on the road to stop the neighbour using "their" dropped kerbs?

An access protection marking (white H bar) is only advisory and is non- enforceable, but nobody has mentioned these anyway. In any case, it is illegal to park over a dropped kerb.

And you can claim to own your dropped kerb all you like but the fact is the council own it, not you, and you have no say whatsoever in who can use it.

Why is it bothering you THAT much that she is using your drop kerb to park on her drive? Like she has said she is applying to have hers done but it does take a long time to sort with the council. If she was blocking your driveway by parking over the drop kerb then yes you would have cause to complain. You've already stated her other neighbours have made it difficult for her to park due to all their vehicles so why can't you just let her get on with it and be the nice neighbour? 🙄

I think the other neighbours could move some of their cars so the new neighbour can park outside their property

You sound so petty I call reverse. But in case it’s real: you are going to live next to this person for the next how many years or decades, a little grace now will go a long way when you inevitably need something from her. Don’t make it tit for tat. The woman has a newborn fgs!

FFS is this thread still getting attention!!

It is now!

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Ummm that dropped kerb is actually just access for you to get onto your driveway. Unless you have a white line painted in front of your driveway anyone can park in front of it legally. You're also not legally allowed to park on that dropped kerb. You're in the wrong big time

that dropped kerb is actually just access for you to get onto your driveway.

And the neighbour surely according to many posters?

But you can trust them, "bud". That's a poster that 100% doesn't just wander about different parts of this shite positing unmitigated bollocks presented as fact

This is quite possibly the most petty thing I’ve read on Mumsnet. You don’t own the pavement. You’d get a lot more out of life if you tried being nice to people, particularly the ones who live next door to you.

Also, it’s ‘dropped’ kerb.

Exactly! ⬆️

Jesus Christ, this poor woman has 4 kids to safely get in & out of the car, including a NEWBORN! Through no fault of her own, getting onto the safety of her own driveway is almost impossible. She politely apologised & told you it was temporary until she can sort out her own dropped kerb & you want to be a dick about it? Seriously??
You don't own the effing kerb, road, pavement etc! Get a life!!

I'm a wheelchair user too. Perhaps the 101 operator that you spoke to doesnt actually know the law? It may be that it isnt a bylaw in your council area? In my area they would to let the car causing an obstruction

Christ guys I think Op got the picture one page in. 🤯🤯🤯35 later of people repeating the same thing and it shows ironically how petty everyone else is by them having to say they their bit no matter how pointless. What do you want her to do lie in bed crying in self loathing? Most people find their neighbours or similarly collegaues annoying in some way at some point even when they're not really doing anything - that's life living in close proximity to people. It doesn't define them as a person or are Mumsnetters that shallow that to them it does?!

So is google wrong?

I'm with you op on this one. Surely the issue here is the lack of asking permission beforehand? You've paid to drop the kerb for access to your driveway, not for others to invade your privacy by driving across part of your property.

I get your neighbour's difficult situation with a young family etc. and maybe you would not have been annoyed if she'd explained she was working on a solution and asked permission for the short term.

I wouldn't dream of driving across someone's property.

There’s petty then there’s this. In my opinion I’m afraid you’re being unreasonable @mykerb

Wow OP you sound like a complete A hole.

How does it effect you in anyway if they use your dropped kerb? Way to be a complete jerk to a mother who is just trying not to wreck their car whilst they wait fornplanning permission and isn't impacting you in anyway.

I seriously can't believe this is a genuine post. If it is, as you keep saying, you need to give your head a wobble. Your poor neighbour!

Neighbour isn't parking there she's occasionally going across it

She isn't driving across anyone's property. You don't own a drop kerb !!!!

Neither would OPs neighbour, so all good!

How do you drive into your property using next door's kerb without crossing their property?