Neighbour using my drop kerb!

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A new family have moved in next door - not attached we are a row of two semi's each and so on..
I have a driveway and a dropped kerb. So it goes my drive, pavement and then the dropped kerb.

My next door neighbours have a make shift drive (from previous tenants) but NO dropped kerb, it doesn't help that their neighbours have 4 cars and two permanently parked outside their garden so the new neighbours have nowhere to park except down the road because of it but again not my problem!

They have started driving over my drop kerb to park in the make shift drive, I have started parking on my dropped kerb to make a point of it and I did block them in, to which the woman politely asked if I could move my car so she could reverse out, I told her I don't appreciate her using the kerb to park in, to which she replied that she is going to be getting the curb outside hers dropped but it will take a while due to getting planning permission etc and it's hard to walk down the road with 3 kids and a newborn so it's just been more convenient, but she won't do it again if it bothers me.

Tbh she hasn't had a chance to park there again as I have started parking in front of my drive, on my dropped kerb but my sister has said I'm being petty for no reason and making her life harder and it's not a big deal! And it's really irked me because now I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not!

Well done for admitting you were wrong. You really did come over as unnecessarily nasty when helping a neighbour with kids to transport was costing you nothing, and won't go on for ever. Thank goodness you can see it now. Maybe you could apologise to her for being so mean and tell her it's fine to use the dropped kerb?

It’s not “your” dropped kerb. You paid for the council to make an alteration to their property because it suited you for the kerb to be dropped there - it remains council property.

You sound absolutely vile and I am very glad you aren’t my neighbour - nothing about what they are doing has inconvenienced you at all. Just really, really selfish and nasty.

Seriously.....those kids balls could get very annoying if you carry on like this. Why are you being so horrible not to mention risking devaluing your house with neighbours disputes.

How do pedestrians, wheelchair users and people with buggies use the pavement if people are parking on the dropped kerb? There is not much point in having a pavements if people do this.

I really think when you live in a community you have to be tolerant and give a little.

I think you should consider why something that doesn’t negatively impact you, bothers you so much so you can respond differently next time!

You're really mean. You never know when you might need a hand from your neighbours and you haven't exactly engraciated yourself to them.

Also you didn't buy the curb, you just paid for the work to be done. It's still a public kerb.

Honestly just let it go. Is it really worth falling out with what sounds like a nice neighbour over this? This isn't harming you and is probably temporary until she gets her kerb dropped. Like others I think you are being really petty and talking about reporting her makes you sound like an absolute fucking whopper tbh.

If I’m understanding this right, you’re making a woman with 3 kids including a newborn baby park halfway down the street/away from her house and trudge the kids/shopping/bags etc in all weathers presumably because you won’t let her do something that has no impact on you whatsoever? Wow, you win the arsehole of the day. Let’s hope you never need a helping hand from a neighbour because I imagine they’d take great pleasure in telling you to fuck right off.

If I’m understanding this right, you’re making a woman with 3 kids including a newborn baby park halfway down the street/away from her house and trudge the kids/shopping/bags etc in all weathers presumably because you won’t let her do something that has no impact on you whatsoever

Neighbour could’ve asked - introduced herself, she knew what she was buying and knew they was no dropped kerb to her own property - she probably also knew parking was limited and there were multiple cars the next door had.

Yoi don’t impose on other people without asking if they mind and she has as much right to ensure neighbourly relations as OP does.

Neighbour could’ve asked
It must take you forever to get anywhere if you ask at every house if you can use the pavement outside their house.

And the OP could have accepted her apology and not behaved like a petty arse afterwards.

You are fucking nuts.

You can't own a dropped curb. The only way blocking one is lawful is if the local council allow it.

You’re unbelievable. Whether she should be doing it or not, given that she doesn’t actually have a driveway, does it matter? She has a bunch of kids and it doesn’t matter. She isn’t hurting anyone.

You are. By blocking the dropped kerb you are preventing wheelchair users and buggies from using it to safely cross, and she has a newborn so you’re blocking her car but you’re also making it harder to cross the road.

What’s wrong with you? Seriously. What is wrong in your life that you think this is appropriate?

Yes, unless she’s damaging the dropped curb in the process of using it you are being very petty.

Remember, one day you might need a favour from her. Making her walk halfway down the road with 4 kids for no good reason, I can’t imagine there’s going to be much goodwill there.

Gosh it's really is true that some oeople are spiteful for no reason.
If you resent it, you resent it but it doesn't say much about you as a person .
She'll have her own dropped kerb soon but will think you're a total bitch for ever .

You're being really petty, and coming across quite snobbish. Let them use the dropped kerb until theirs is dropped, is there really a problem here? Honestly, some people!

I agree, petty childish.

This. Please being so petty. If these people have just moved in why would you want to create annomosity with your neighbours? The woman is struggling because another neighbour is making it impossible for her to park.

blimey, i thought i was petty. This is a whole new level of petty that even I wouldn't aspire too.

If i were your neighbour, tho, being as petty as i am, I'd report your car for blocking a dropped kerb. Every time.

The op isn’t being imposed upon.

Struggling? Her choice to have that many children and then buy a house that didn't come with a dropped kerb. It's an inconvenience for her to have to wait until it's done thats all. Most people would just get on with it, woukdnt even occur to me to use a dropped kerb that wasn't for my driveway and if I wanted to I'd ask my neighbour first because being neighbourly goes both ways.

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Do you charge pedestrians for walking across the pavement between your dropped kerb and drive?

woukdnt even occur to me to use a dropped kerb that wasn't for my driveway and if I wanted to I'd ask my neighbour first because being neighbourly goes both ways.

Sounds like a difficult lifestyle choice.

What do you do if you are walking somewhere on the pavement?

Do you step in to the road or cross over to the other side each time there is a dropped curb?