Neighbour using my drop kerb!

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A new family have moved in next door - not attached we are a row of two semi's each and so on..
I have a driveway and a dropped kerb. So it goes my drive, pavement and then the dropped kerb.

My next door neighbours have a make shift drive (from previous tenants) but NO dropped kerb, it doesn't help that their neighbours have 4 cars and two permanently parked outside their garden so the new neighbours have nowhere to park except down the road because of it but again not my problem!

They have started driving over my drop kerb to park in the make shift drive, I have started parking on my dropped kerb to make a point of it and I did block them in, to which the woman politely asked if I could move my car so she could reverse out, I told her I don't appreciate her using the kerb to park in, to which she replied that she is going to be getting the curb outside hers dropped but it will take a while due to getting planning permission etc and it's hard to walk down the road with 3 kids and a newborn so it's just been more convenient, but she won't do it again if it bothers me.

Tbh she hasn't had a chance to park there again as I have started parking in front of my drive, on my dropped kerb but my sister has said I'm being petty for no reason and making her life harder and it's not a big deal! And it's really irked me because now I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not!

Yep, this is the kind of thing this breeds- you won’t let me park, I’ll report your car- so you refuse my kids trick or treating so I refuse to take in your parcels, so you report me for attaching something to the boundary fence, so I report you for having garden fireworks in the back lane, so you refuse to return my kids ball and on and on.

Why would anyone start this over a kerb?!

I'm walk on the pavement part I don't walk on the dropped kerb bit, why would you specifically walk that close to passing cars 🤔 I don't know anyone but kids who are mucking about walk on a kerb

How do people like this cope when they have real problems??? You must be constantly enraged by one thing or another. Life is short. Get a grip.

I'm walk on the pavement part I don't walk on the dropped kerb bit, why would you specifically walk that close to passing cars 🤔 I don't know anyone but kids who are mucking about walk on a kerb

My dropped curb leads to a lowered pavement before you get to the drive. All of it was lowered so you would absolutely need to ask me before walking on it - according to your own rules of course.

Wow OP. You’re the type to start a fight in an empty room because you always HAVE to be right and everyone else needs to know this.

I feel really sorry for your poor neighbour moving in and then discovering she’s living next to the mad batshit lady on the street.

If you really want to learn something from posting here, learn to be humble and go around and take her some chocs, apologise and tell her you were having a very bad week at work.

@Spectre8 it's not just the curb stone that is a part of a dropped curb. It's the whole shebang.

Try and ignore the pile on, OP, most of those posters won’t have their own parking, let alone a dropped kerb that they paid for, which isn’t peanuts.

You do have a point, it was presumptuous of her to use it without asking, you don’t know this woman yet, she might well turn out to be a CF in other ways, who knows?

However, she does have a big problem because of her other fuckwit neighbours and it would be kind of you to let her use your dropped kerb until she can organise her own.

I think by now you’ve realised you were being unreasonable. I’d recommend that you buy a bunch of daffodils and drop them off at your neighbours with a note that says:

“I’m sorry, I over-reacted about the drop kerb and realise it was unneighbourly. You are welcome to use our kerb until your own planning comes through, if that helps you. I’d like to make a fresh start, if you are willing? Please do pop over sometime for a cup of tea if you’d like to! My number is: xxxxx”

She agreed that she was being petty hours ago. It always helps to RTFT - or at least all POP’s posts.

Where does it say I haven’t RTFT? The OP agreed she was being petty, I’m saying she did have a point, but she handled it badly. OK?

But she says she doesn’t have a point. She’s agreed that she’s being ridiculous.

Sometimes people amaze me. Personally, if it makes life easier for my neighbour I wouldn’t object…. I wouldn’t object at all to be honest for anyone to use it

And the only way to have one is if the council allow it. Surely this is the point ? One dropped kerb, leading to one driveway. OP has one, neighbour doesn’t. According to some posters it’s fine to share and have people driving all over the pavement to get to their own driveways !! And it’d be these people who’d be the first to complain to the council if they or their kids were injured tripping on a damaged pavement - which happens if you drive on one that’s not reinforced for the weight of a vehicle. Which is why you pay the council to drop the kerb and reinforce the pavement if you want access to your own driveway from the road. MN is bonkers.

Yes, you are being very petty and unreasonable. Most of the people on here have said the same so the people have spoken!

Get a life.

Not much point in having pavements at all, if you’re going to damage them by driving all over them because you’re too tight to pay for your own dropped kerb !

A "dropped kerb" covers the entire area marked in red here. You can see where they dug up the pavement and resurfaced it.

How do you not walk on that?

You can park over a dropped kerb if you have permission from the person whose drive it allows access to (or if it's your own dropped kerb).

How are you keeping the property well maintained if you’re damaging a pavement by driving repeatedly over it, because you won’t pay for your own dropped kerb ?

OK well you seem to realise how unreasonable you are being.

But she isn't blocking your drive she is using the kerb to reverse onto her property YABU beyond doubt

The rule for parking across a dropped kerb - which is what l assume you mean by ‘over’ it - is that you can only do this if there is no vehicle parked on the drive. It’s illegal to block an exit.

It's not your kerb. It's a public road. Your property starts at the bottom of your drive.

She’s using a pavement that hasn’t been reinforced to reverse on to her property. That will damage the pavement. Reinforcement to take the weight of a car is part of the works for which you pay the council when they drop the kerb. OP has done that. Neighbour has not. Neighbour is taking advantage of work OP has paid for to illegally access her own driveway. That’s not OK, no matter how many times people say it is.

OP has realised she's BU and that's great.

But it is really daft that so many people are so petty about something that in their own lives wouldn't cause them one iota of problem. For OP, if there was damage that needed to be repaired that was caused either by the neighbour or just lots of use, the normal thing would be to have it fixed and prior to that speak to the neighbour. Maybe about sharing the repair costs.
The neighbour has said they're applying for a dropped kerb. The neighbourly thing would be to say "oh that's great, we spoke to X at the town hall" or "oh it took ages, i found it necessary to ask once a fortnight to remind them about the work being done" or even "oh yes, we did that it was expensive but really worth it"

But in a land where people don't even open their doors or answer the phone, i don'tk now why I'm surprised.

I feel sorry for your neighbour having to live next to someone like you

Did she pay to do the research ? OP paid for the dropped kerb the neighbour is illegally using. So not the same thing.