Neighbour using my drop kerb!

[mykerb]

A new family have moved in next door - not attached we are a row of two semi's each and so on..
I have a driveway and a dropped kerb. So it goes my drive, pavement and then the dropped kerb.

My next door neighbours have a make shift drive (from previous tenants) but NO dropped kerb, it doesn't help that their neighbours have 4 cars and two permanently parked outside their garden so the new neighbours have nowhere to park except down the road because of it but again not my problem!

They have started driving over my drop kerb to park in the make shift drive, I have started parking on my dropped kerb to make a point of it and I did block them in, to which the woman politely asked if I could move my car so she could reverse out, I told her I don't appreciate her using the kerb to park in, to which she replied that she is going to be getting the curb outside hers dropped but it will take a while due to getting planning permission etc and it's hard to walk down the road with 3 kids and a newborn so it's just been more convenient, but she won't do it again if it bothers me.

Tbh she hasn't had a chance to park there again as I have started parking in front of my drive, on my dropped kerb but my sister has said I'm being petty for no reason and making her life harder and it's not a big deal! And it's really irked me because now I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not!

If OP’s has bought and paid for a single dropped kerb facility to allow access to her property from the road, how is that not meant for her own exclusive use ? If she then parks on the dropped kerb she’s not blocking anyone else’s’ access or exit because it was only meant for access to her driveway, not the whole bloody street !

lt’s illegal for the neighbours to do what they are doing. They’re damaging the pavement by driving across it. They should be waiting until they have purchased their own facility to access their own driveway. So how is it that on MN somehow they are right and the OP is wrong ? It’s not about being petty, or making the world that little bit better. It’s about having a bit of respect for the environment in which they live and for the laws protecting it. Or do we only think about that when our council tax bills are inflated because people keep suing the council after tripping and falling on pavements damaged by entitled twats who think the rules don’t apply to them ?

I’m glad you’re not my neighbour.

The other neighbours sound like a nightmare too. They know full well she has a driveway which she needs but the kerb just hasn’t been dropped yet. Yet they are parking there and blocking her access anyway.

Have you looked at it from
her pov? She’s got a newborn and that’s a tough time, and it would be really kind to help her out.
Have you stopped and thought about why it bothers you? Like, really thought about it? Because there must be a reason.

This. You sound vile tbh. Being nasty for the sake of it and making somebodies life harder for no reason.

Driving over the pavement isn't that big a deal

Well clearly the council don’t agree - but then they’re the ones who get sued if a pedestrian trips on a damaged pavement. Our council are issuing fines to motorists who park on pavements - for blocking pedestrian access and damaging pavements not reinforced to take the weight of a car.

Society runs on rules, but also natural courtesy

Usually, I'd be annoyed that someone is driving over the public pavement, without paying for a dropped kerb, like they're meant to, so I get why you're annoyed to some extent BUT

I'd be f---ing fuming on her behalf that her asshole neighbours don't even leave her one parking space on the road, which would be a much bigger deal.

On balance, I'd let her use it.

Let me get this straight she’s using your dropped kerb to enter her driveway? That’s fine isn’t it? She’s applying for hers to be done at some point. I’m not sure I could be bothered getting wound up about all of this. You’re neighbours and it literally doesn’t affect you. A bit off tbh OP.

Have you thought about what’s triggering this anger, feeling of unfairness? It’s not right. Maybe you should have a think about why it makes you feel the way it does, because honestly it shouldn’t.

The op could make a fuss about this to the council… but since she is parking illegally by completely blocking a dropped curb she probably won’t get far.

@mykerb you don’t own the curb- if you park blocking it you might end up with a lot of tickets.

lt’s illegal for the neighbours to do what they are doing.

It’s not.

I get you, OP. We paid an extortionate amount of money to get the kerb dropped outside our business premises, but can rarely use it ourselves as it's on a busy road and people use it as a pull in - blocking our parking while they do so. I've reported UPS, DPD etc repeatedly as it's not a bloody pull in.... we actually said we wish we hadn't bothered. When you pay money to make your own life easier in a tiny way, you can bet that someone rocks up and abuses it. However for a neighbour, I think I'd have said I don't mind on a temporary basis. You've made the relationship with them difficult from the outset.

“You can’t use it, it’s mine and only mine!” I thought we got over that kind of shitty behaviour after young childhood?

It’s not illegal. You can’t block someone in on their own land if they don’t have access to it ie their own dropped kerb.

Of course you can.

Are you new to MN? It's a peasiatric bear-pit here

Hopefully you’ll get a ticket for parking over a dropped kerb. I’ve never heard anything so petty, and certainly no one to admit to it. You’re a very mean spirited person.

Op sounds like a right dick.

If the dropped kerb was for shared access then the council would of told her neighbour and bot be dropping the kerb outside of the nieghbours house.

It's clearly not a shared dropped kerb. Ops set up is same as mine and my neighbour and I have dropped kerbs even though our driveways are next to each other. Our dropped kerbs were done when the housed were built but they clearly designed it that way for a reason they easily could of just created one long dropped kerb we both used but they have their reasons for why it's done thebwaybit is.

You paid for a council-approved contractor to alter a council-owned asset for your convenience. You have no right to restrict access to something which you don't own.

She's got three kids and a new born. Have a bit of humanity.

YABVU. Your sister is right, you are being awkward and mean

I'm trying to work out why it makes you so annoyed, OP. I assume that her using your dropped curb doesn't inconvenience you, doesn't prevent you from accessing your driveway etc. it's simply because you paid for it so you don't want her to use it?

She's allowed to use it, though. The curb isn't legally yours.

So yes, you're being really petty and quite mean. Your neighbour will remember this. Will it be worth it?

I use a mobility scooter and travel up and down dropped kerbs all over the town, as do hundreds of other people with baby buggies etc. It’s never crossed my mind that the kerbs belong to the home owners. Surely they are council owned as shown on the land registry. You are being totally unreasonable in my opinion.

Unless you used to park on the dropped kerb or she is, your being unreasonable. Why does it bother you?

I hope this is a "joke" because if not you're one of he biggest A-holes on God's green earth.

Nobody "owns" a dropped kerb. It may be outside your house, and opposite your drive, but it isn't yours.

Do you own the pavement, too? The lamppost? The manhole cover giving access to the sewer? The drain?