Neighbour using my drop kerb!

[mykerb]

A new family have moved in next door - not attached we are a row of two semi's each and so on..
I have a driveway and a dropped kerb. So it goes my drive, pavement and then the dropped kerb.

My next door neighbours have a make shift drive (from previous tenants) but NO dropped kerb, it doesn't help that their neighbours have 4 cars and two permanently parked outside their garden so the new neighbours have nowhere to park except down the road because of it but again not my problem!

They have started driving over my drop kerb to park in the make shift drive, I have started parking on my dropped kerb to make a point of it and I did block them in, to which the woman politely asked if I could move my car so she could reverse out, I told her I don't appreciate her using the kerb to park in, to which she replied that she is going to be getting the curb outside hers dropped but it will take a while due to getting planning permission etc and it's hard to walk down the road with 3 kids and a newborn so it's just been more convenient, but she won't do it again if it bothers me.

Tbh she hasn't had a chance to park there again as I have started parking in front of my drive, on my dropped kerb but my sister has said I'm being petty for no reason and making her life harder and it's not a big deal! And it's really irked me because now I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not!

Gosh, you sound like a lovely neighbour, bet she feels very welcomed 🙄... Petty and vile.

I know someone petty like you. She gets angry if someone stays at a hotel she mentioned, as ‘she did the research’. She is also small/minded and stingy. She thinks nobody knows she is like this but everyone can see how mean-spirited she is. Take a good look at yourself and think how you could be a better person.

I genuinely dislike people like you OP. You make the world that bit more unpleasant, that bit less co-operative, that bit less considerate, that bit less collegiate.

And when someone is really up against it in their life, coming against someone like you, who shows that they really don’t give a shit about that person or how much harder you are making their life, it can really be the final straw that breaks someone.

The world works by us helping each other out in small ways.

This thread is definitely a wind up!

I think you should go and knock on their door and say sorry I was having a bad day. Please feel free to drive up the kerb which I don’t own!

As has been pointed out, OP paid for the dropped kerb and reinforced pavement to access her own driveway - the council don’t just install it for free. The OP only has the neighbours word for it that they are doing the same for their own driveway, so if she doesn’t voice her objections they may just continue to use hers.

The neighbour will be damaging the pavement by driving across it because it hasn’t been reinforced to take the weight of a vehicle. I’ve just had a look at our own situation and if my neighbour accessed their driveway via my dropped kerb they would have to drive at an angle across practically the whole of the pavement in front of the two houses, damaging the pavement in the process - in what world would that not have an impact on me ?

OP may not own the dropped kerb, or the pavement, but she paid for them to be modified for her own use - one dropped kerb and one reinforced pavement, to access one driveway directly adjacent. I’m amazed people here think it’s just fine for these CF’s to just rock up and use a facility bought and paid for by someone else, for their own convenience.

Op I think she was being sarcastic 🙄🤦‍♀️

You'd hate to live on my road, we all have to park in front of each others houses. It's part of life. You don't own the dropped kerb. Driving over the pavement isn't that big a deal

She can't. You can park on your own drive's dropped kerb. You can't park if it's been dropped for wheelchair/mobility access for the public, but the OP's has been dropped to access her drive.

Presumably you will be living next door to these people for quite some time. Also, it benefits your property value if the surrounding properties are up to date and well maintained. Those are the reasons you should stop being so petty. Those, and just not being an arse.

To clarify on dropped kerb costs - you didn't buy the kerb, your money paid for the council work and admin.

The dropped kerb CANNOT belong to the resident as its on public. You pay for permission and to have one installed as a service but you dont own it. It wont appear on house deeds. Its not yours.

This is possibly the meanest and pettiest thread I have ever read on Mumsnet. You come across as the sort of person who would pop a child’s ball that went over the fence instead of returning it and would rather throw things than donate or offer them out. You are exactly the sort of mean-spirited, selfish person the term ‘be kind’ should be aimed at. It would cost you nothing to let this woman use your kerb and it would make her life easier and have a positive impact. The world needs more positivity, not more negative people trying to make life harder for others. Why would anybody not want to send kindness out into the world and want to make someone’s life harder instead? Do you have no empathy or regard to other people? Does your world solely revolve around you?

Ah, took a while but pennys dropped. This is a 100% pisstake post. Well done op 👏👏👏👏

The family with four cars is the real issue here.

This

having good relationships with your neighbours is priceless

@mykerb you’re getting a lot of pushback here, and some of it is unfair. It would have been far better if your neighbour had approached you first before taking advantage of the dropped kerb outside your property.

irrespective of who owns the dropped kerb, you paid for it, applied for permission etc. My fear would be that given it’s a few £000’s to have installed, if you make it too easy for your neighbour to access her ‘driveway’ she may never bother to proceed with the application to extend the existing dropped kerb and using the dropped kerb you paid for will become the norm/default.

However, with kids and a baby, and being a new neighbour, I’d show some humility and goodwill for the time being.

So when people use your dripped kerb to do a turn around in the road does that irk you? You are being insane, the neighbour must think you’re crazy. She has a baby and you’re making her walk ? Bitchy as hell.

If the surface broke up would you have to pay to have it repaired or would the council pay for it? My guess is the latter as it’s not within your property line and therefore you don’t own it. I assume people probably walk over it all the time (as it’s part of the footpath) my guess is that although you do have to pay to have a dropped curb installed the council actually own the land are therefore responsible for the upkeep. In which case you don’t own it, which is a good thing as tarmac is pricey!

😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂😂"gottcha"
Definitely a comedy moment op. Well done.

If it’s genuinely a temporary thing I would let her do it, good relations with neighbours are worth a lot. Go round, say you’ve had a rethink and of course she can use it until she gets her own done, but maybe ask that visitors, tradesmen etc don’t. That should keep the amount it affects you to a minimum.

Good relations with neighbours are priceless. Sometimes it’s worth sucking up niggles for the long term gain. You’ve started this new relationship by being a bit of a twat.
She’s got kids and a baby to lug around FFS. Help a sister out.

Oh my god you horrible petty selfish person!

seriously, what is your problem???

You are a really mean person. How does it affect you if she used your dropped kerb yo get into her drive.

This is brilliant, yes you're being unreasonable. Poor neighbour, but this thread has been great 😊

Your sister is right, I'd apologise and say she can do this until her dropped kerb is in place.
She has three children and a baby her life is hard enough. I know that's not your problem.