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To blame DH for ringworm and jock itch?

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Lello452 · 11/03/2024 19:23

For some time now DH has had the most god awful smelly and sweaty feet, he won't see a professional about it but in the absence of a diagnosis it's highly likely to be athlete's foot as he has all of the symptoms.

He washes them daily which does jot all and he hasn't committed to a proper treatment regime. He has used some powder he bought online inconsistently, a few times here and there. The problem persists. He has to keep his sock laundry seperate to everybody else's clothes.. it's that bad. I have insisted he wears crocs around the house as the smell of his socks when he's not wearing shoes is just too much.

He's very embarrassed about it he says, but only where professionals are concerned. He's happy for me and DC to deal with the smell which he's almost nose blind to now so he thinks we're exaggerating. I will say, this aside, he's a clean person who showers daily.

A couple of weeks ago I developed what I'm now fairly certain was sodding jock itch on the skin around my groin, inner thigh crease. I'll spare you further details.

Now, today, I received a call from my child's teacher who thinks he's developing ringworm.

Unfamiliar with ringworm, I had to look it up, low and behold it's the same thing that causes athlete's foot and jock itch.

AIBU to think his feet are the source. He doesn't think so, of course.

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Faranth · 11/03/2024 20:17

Get him to use this, it's a one application thing. https://online-pharmacy4u.co.uk/products/lamisil-once-1-cutaneous-solution?variant=41668695720088&currency=GBP&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw17qvBhBrEiwA1rU9w6hWSuD8YcN7-nvJbGDuAoX7SpmAy6n8jgx_n75JstyAKnV-3vnfYhoC8AcQAvD_BwE

I recently managed to give myself jock itch from athletes foot that wouldn't go away, and then the jock itch wouldn't go away. Absolutely fucking awful.

I used the lamisil once on my feet, as directed, bought halo clothes wash for a small fortune and washed everyone's clothes in it exclusively until I'd used up the whole bottle, and I'll admit that in desperation I also used the lamisil once, contrary to the instructions, on my groin. On the basis it's the same active ingredient as the jock itch cream.
I hit the bloody ceiling, it burned like I've never experienced before for about 10 seconds, but it did get rid of it, so I regret nothing! 😂

Lamisil Once 1% - Cutaneous Solution 4g

Lamisil Once 1% cutaneous solution is a single dose treatment for athlete’s foot. The clear solution is applied only once.

https://online-pharmacy4u.co.uk/products/lamisil-once-1-cutaneous-solution?currency=GBP&gad_source=1&gclid=CjwKCAjw17qvBhBrEiwA1rU9w6hWSuD8YcN7-nvJbGDuAoX7SpmAy6n8jgx_n75JstyAKnV-3vnfYhoC8AcQAvD_BwE&variant=41668695720088

StopGo · 11/03/2024 20:17

He is a 'leper' by his own poor choices. Is he always so lax with his personal hygiene?

Fruitystones · 11/03/2024 20:19

Do you have a decent relationship with your MIL? Can you tell her and get her to shame him into doing something about his feet?

Alternately, do you live near any family? I'd seriously consider moving out until he is willing to stop infecting you and your son. Well to be honest, I'd be filing for divorce on the grounds of unreasonable behaviour, but I'm trying to be less LTB.

gamerchick · 11/03/2024 20:23

Chuck half a cup of epsom salts in your washer. It'll sterilise your machine. Put some in when you wash your clothes.

Unfortunately if he doesn't treat it, it'll keep reinfecting your washer over and over.

coldcallerbaiter · 11/03/2024 20:25

tea tree oil in the wash

FlabMonsterIsDietingAgain · 11/03/2024 20:29

Obviously he SHOULD just go to the chemist and get the cream but he obviously isn't going to, so next time you're in the supermarket pick up some of the readily available cream/powder, hand it to him and tell him to use it. Some only needs to be applied once so there is no ongoing regime, most need to be done twice a day for a few days so its not an intensive regime, just apply after shower and then again at the other end of the day.

Ihatethenewlook · 11/03/2024 20:35

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Couldntgiveafunk · 11/03/2024 20:44

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It’s a fungus, not a bacteria.

FlabMonsterIsDietingAgain · 11/03/2024 20:49

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No it isn't, or if some people are classing it as an STD then by the same argument you could class almost any virus or bacteria as an STD. Ringworm is a fungal infection and it's contagious so it's spread by touch, like Ebola, Scabies, leprosy, staph infections, impetigo.......... but that doesn't make it an STD,

I agree that OPs husband should just treat the itch but there's no need for hyperbole.

JustVillainous · 11/03/2024 20:51

Our family have just got rid of ringworm after catching it from our cat. It was hell.

You need an anti fungal cream that contains miconazole and apply it twice a day. Clothes/bedding/towels need to be changed everyday and washed every day as well as having a shower straight after work and school. It's easily spread and you can be reinfected. You also need to do a deep clean of your house.

Lello452 · 11/03/2024 20:53

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The mark on DS is tiny and I genuinely didn't notice it, not even when bathing him.

He was complaining of itching at school and its the first I've heard of it so it has to be a new infection. He has special needs and I deal with every bit of his personal care and there is no way I would miss a longstanding issue. No way.

I absolutely refute your implication that he's abused. Too far.

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Fibble · 11/03/2024 20:54

what a lazy grotbags. can't imagine you have much sexual desire for this smelly man.

Lello452 · 11/03/2024 20:55

Fibble · 11/03/2024 20:54

what a lazy grotbags. can't imagine you have much sexual desire for this smelly man.

None whatsoever. I won't even share a bed with him.

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Justwingingit2005 · 11/03/2024 20:55

My son got AF. We used lamasil, washed his bedding and any shoes he wore recently.
I didn't boil wash anything. Kept towels seperate and he worn socks in the house for a few days.
Washed everything as normal.
Was gone within a few weeks.

IDontWantToBeAPieIDontLikeGravy · 11/03/2024 20:56

The lamisil once gel is the stuff he needs (I keep getting reinfected with athletes foot from our local swimming pool 🤢). You can get it on Amazon and it’s literally one application after a shower. I can’t really understand why he wouldn’t get it treated, doesn’t the itching drive him mad?

grinandslothit · 11/03/2024 20:56

Good grief, why the hell are you putting up with this minger?

I wouldn't be able to have him in the same bed with me at night, let alone have relations with him.

You said he takes a shower in the morning, so is he coming home and going to bed filthy from his job?

Ihatethenewlook · 11/03/2024 20:57

FlabMonsterIsDietingAgain · 11/03/2024 20:49

No it isn't, or if some people are classing it as an STD then by the same argument you could class almost any virus or bacteria as an STD. Ringworm is a fungal infection and it's contagious so it's spread by touch, like Ebola, Scabies, leprosy, staph infections, impetigo.......... but that doesn't make it an STD,

I agree that OPs husband should just treat the itch but there's no need for hyperbole.

@Couldntgiveafunk yes, fungus sorry, not bacteria. @FlabMonsterIsDietingAgain well yes. Any of them could be an std, the first thing that popped up is that it can be transmitted sexually. And there’s no need for hyperbole because it couldn’t get much worse imo. The op has a fucking fungal infection in her genital area, she doesn’t even say where her poor child has become infected. All because her husband is too lazy to get rid of a fucking literally stinking infection. How could I make this anymore hyperbolic. It’s absolutely disgusting, him and the ops lackadaisical attitude to cracking down on him treating it. She has to make him put shoes on so the smell of him doesn’t make her too sick to eat ffs. How are they living like this??

BoobyDazzler · 11/03/2024 20:57

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ringworm, athletes foot and jock itch are fungal, not bacterial, and definitely not an STD.

Bumblebeeinatree · 11/03/2024 20:57

Sounds much worse than athletes foot, if he washes daily and it's still really smelly, he needs to see a doctor.

Cicciabella · 11/03/2024 20:59

Urgh grim. Do you share abed and have sex? Does the smell make you boke?
Christs I'd be telling him to move out
What a selfish prick !!

Lello452 · 11/03/2024 21:00

I've ordered the lamisil on amazon. Thank you for the pointer. Let's see how he gets out of it now he doesn't have to be "embarrassed" by talking to the GP or pharmacist.

We've had a horrible argument 😔 He tried to deflect and distract me by blaming me for the fact he has back problems fgs. It's my fault he can't sleep in the bed apparently. The feet are only half the problem, the other issue is that he snores so loudly. Another thing he would never go and speak to somebody about.. but yes, its my fault of course.

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Lello452 · 11/03/2024 21:02

Cicciabella · 11/03/2024 20:59

Urgh grim. Do you share abed and have sex? Does the smell make you boke?
Christs I'd be telling him to move out
What a selfish prick !!

Nope, neither.

I haven't had sex with him in for a very long time.

The smell does make me boke. It's horrible, then he moans and whinges when I tell him to cover his feet.

It's my birthday tomorrow and I expect tonight's argument to drag on in the form of silent treatment for days now.

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moonfacer · 11/03/2024 21:03

Lello452 · 11/03/2024 21:02

Nope, neither.

I haven't had sex with him in for a very long time.

The smell does make me boke. It's horrible, then he moans and whinges when I tell him to cover his feet.

It's my birthday tomorrow and I expect tonight's argument to drag on in the form of silent treatment for days now.

Urgh, so unattractive. Can you divorce him?

Ihatethenewlook · 11/03/2024 21:06

BoobyDazzler · 11/03/2024 20:57

ringworm, athletes foot and jock itch are fungal, not bacterial, and definitely not an STD.

Yes. I typed quickly and put bacterial when it’s fungal. It’s still classed as an std as it passed from skin to skin contact, whether it’s during sexual contact or not. And the grotty twat has actually managed to infect his wifes genitals. Weird that. I’m sure it was much more innocent contact how one or both of them have spread it to their child. Doesn’t change the fact he basically caught a potential sex fungus from his dad. Lovely

Ihatethenewlook · 11/03/2024 21:07

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