Mother’s Day is supposed to be for me too?

[Lumiodes]

I don’t want to spend my day hanging out with DH’s mum and her boyfriend, who she’ll insist on bringing. It’s MY day too, why do I have to spend it with people I can’t be bothered with?

I left it till the absolute last minute to say shall we stay home and cook dinner today, because I don’t feel up to a walk and the weather forecast isn’t good. I knew if I mentioned it earlier in the week it would end up not being my dinner because DH would want to invite his mum and she’d bring her boyfriend even if he wasn’t invited.

We got up at 6am when DS1 started whinging, and I said I might pop to the shop when it opens and get a joint of meat and a cake, because I don’t fancy a walk after all. DH has started moaning it’s too late to invite his mum now. Are we not allowed to just have a nice dinner ourselves?

lol having a not so nice mil is never fun k know that for sure

Have you actually told him this OP rather than just side stepping the issue and coming up with last minute (well planned) changes?

And he can go and visit his mum and do something for her. The OP has the right to choose what she wants to do with her day.

What you want is not unreasonable. The way you go about it is. The issue is you don't want to spend time with MIL on Mother's Day and your DH does. Work it out and compromise, instead of being petty and deceitful.

Exactly right. Then talk it all through and start planning Christmas away.

Why not just communicate with your husband. Little hints or thinking he should know, just because he should know you, doesn't cut it. Many men won't think that way. Just say to him, "I'd like to spend mother's day with just you and the kids this year please." Tell him early and clearly. He can then set expectations with his Mum etc...

Fingers crossed your dc and their partner are not having the same argument
but if they are, you will have to accept that it is learned behaviour