Neighbours keep asking for favours!

[Popcornlassie28]

My husband and I live in a village around 15 minutes from the local shops etc. We currently have two children and I’m pregnant with our third. We both work (I work shifts) and I’m also studying at uni so I’m always constantly busy being a mother, at work or as a student.

My neighbours are middle aged with no children. One drives and the other doesn’t. Recently due to medical reasons the one who drives has had to stop driving until a health clear.

Since then, I will be home with the children before/after school, getting ready for work or coming off a night shift that morning and SO ready to sleep and my neighbour will come knocking asking to be taken to work often because she’s ’missed the bus’, ‘bus doesn’t run at this time’ etc. They do not take no for an answer and she will return two, three times plus until I answer as she knows I’m home as my car is in the driveway. She is very forceful.

I haven’t minded up until this point helping where we can but it’s getting a bit much. There is never any offer for fuel money either and it’s a 30 minute round trip to drop her to where she needs to go.

In the warmer weather, they will put their heads over the fence while I’m relaxing in my garden to ask for things and ask my children ‘Go and grab Mummy/Daddy’ so they can ask for more lifts/favours. My garden should be a safe haven where my children can play and we should relax without being bothered? Or am I wrong here? I would knock the front door and if they don’t answer I wouldn’t dream of being that pushy.

I have been polite to keep the peace but they are now asking my husband to give lifts at 8am into work on Sunday morning as ‘bus isn’t running’ and even though I’m pregnant ‘Can you pick up the 2 litre bottles of water from the shop for me? They are heavy for me to carry on the bus’. My husband is saying it’s going too far and to start pushing back and being forceful with her.

How can I be forceful but polite? Am I being unreasonable? I am terrified when the baby comes she will be banging the door down to be taken out when I’ve just got them settled and I don’t want to fall out but I know I will lose my temper at this point.

FFS! Who does that!? Good for you, she sounds like a monster.

Fucking hell she was actually ignoring you completely. She'd decided you were driving her at 8am Sunday regardless.

At this point I would pay you to just open your door and say no. Just keep standing there and saying no.
What will she do? Drag you to your car?

You might be right 🤣

I cannot believe the brass neck of the woman!! Well done for standing firm OP - keep saying no and she'll get the message, eventually!

"We are never giving you lifts again. Now off you fuck, cuntychops!"

(I am a loss to the diplomatic services.)

You know what, I'd be very tempted to throw down what they used to use in Tudor times. The OP should get a large potty, open the bedroom window, wait until you clearly see the top of her head......then up-end!

Or...how much does boiling oil cost these days?😃

The mothers’ day wakening would mark my last lift ever.

it is a good reason for stopping.

Anway, a permanent‘ no’ is easier to explain and enforce - over time .

Well done you for finding your big girls pants, make sure you are always wearing them!

Omg this woman is cheeky fuckery personified! Get this from amazon and put her name under the welcome!

Even worse! There ARE buses - she just can't be bothered to walk to the bus stop. I think you need to print her out a map to the bus stops... Next time you see her say "oh, I know you hate relying on me so I found out what buses run and printed off the timetable and map for you!" Obtuse kindness. Keep being "helpful" but not in the way she wants you to be.

Well done for standing up to her OP, keep standing firm! ... and if you have to fall out with her so be it. I'd rather have hostile neighbours than what you have been putting up with. She has the height of entitlement.

oh my god, she is taking the piss! good on y0u for saying no but to hammer on your door at 8am on any Sunday let alone Mothers Day is unbelievable.

tbf if there was more straight talking by diplomats, the world would be a better place

No from now on for everything...give an inch take a mile....I think

Print this and laminate it …., add in …
you do not respect any boundary. I am not your friend. I am not your cared, family or taxi service. No means no. If you knock, come around, or contact us again you will reported to the police. No means no. …and stick it to your front door and if she ever bangs on your door open it and say you have three just three fucking seconds to leave before I report you to the police for harassment - three, two, one - not going .,, ok then
slam the door and report to the police

harassment ceases today

Well done for sticking to your guns, OP.

Your neighbour is too weird for words - double check indeed!

I really want to know what the OP is going to do and what the nutter next door says!

She’s harassing you. Can you write to her or something saying it’s considered harassment and she shouldn’t trespass your property

Big up OP well done

FFS!

You said 'no' to her on Saturday night and she still came round at 8am on Sunday!!!

I would have absolutely gone bloody ballistic at her. I do think that you will have to lose your rag, she is just not getting the message.

Well done @Popcornlassie28 !

Now you have done it once it will be easier next time.

Well done OP.

I cannot believe this absolute cheeky fucker has the temerity to bang you door down on Sunday morning at that time. It just beggars belief. I think I'd be very clear "you DO NOT EVER disturb us again"

Absolutely.
I actually think I would put it in writing to her now.
That is completely beyond the bounds of any sane person.
I would write to her and say she has completely crossed the line of any reasonableness and, as a result you will not be giving her any lifts anywhere, ever again. Say that you are formalising the situation because she is harassing you now.

She’s nuts. This is bordering on harassment in my view.

You really need to put in cameras at your doors. Capture the entitled cheeky fucker in all her raging glory demanding that you chauffeur her about for free. you'll need the footage for the police down the line no doubt...