AIBU to throttle my fh? So.....

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Will keep it short as possible. Getting married on a budget, had discussion before Christmas about centrepieces, see image attached for the agreed idea. We would be doing similar to attached in a light pink and possibly white on 4 or 5 tables. Table we are on will have lantern with a wreath. Orderedthe wreath from florist as would only need to order that.

Rest of flowers for submerged flowers to order online. Now have everything else to do centrepieces...only for him to say he thinks it looks tacky and we should buy supermarket flowers the day before the wedding and just put them in a vase on each of the other tables. Doesn't matter that they may not have enough or the correct colours. Open to any ideas. I suggested artificial as that's what I'm using for bouquets but he insisted on real. The submerged idea lowered cost by not needing loads. Now his on about changing it. Surely changing would need a florist to get the correct colours and quantity needed?

YABU His correct it looks shit.
YANBU It looks fine and his being a twit.

Ps good job I bloody love him as this wedding budget is stressing me enough.

To be honest I think they would look better with just the pebbles in the bottom and the candle at the top, not a fan of the single flower look.

They aren't really my cup of tea op.

Honestly, if the budget is tight, don't worry about table pieces. I guarantee in years to come, you won't remember them.

What about just petals on the table. I think a bunch of flowers in the centre would look nice too.

I agree, no one will notice if you don’t have them, they just get in the way of the wine bottles 😂. Spend on food and drink-that’s what people remember, not on decorative shite on the tables

No one gives a shit about your centre pieces apart from the bride and groom. Honestly spend the money on something else.

Agree with others. Waste of effort and money. And it does look shit.

I’m not a fan of the look, I agree with your husband that look a bit tacky. I wouldn’t do the bunches of flowers either. Anything taller than a bottle of wine will get moved off the table as guests can’t see each other. Don’t think I’ve ever been to a wedding where the centrepiece has stayed on the table, or one I’ve ever remembered the look of!

Sorry op I’m not a professional florist but have done many wedding flowers and arrangements and I really do not like those centrepieces.

I attended two weddings last year, I did the bridal bouquet for one. First bride had little jam jars with a piece of thick crochet lace tied round the top with a little wooden heart attached and some very simple daisies interspersed with blue ribbon picks and little butterflies she had bought very cheaply on Amazon.

The other had bought just small clear glass vases and put some dried ornamental grasses in them with a ribbon tied round the outside.

Step away from the centerpieces. Move on to something else.

I wonder if he's being completely honest with you - if really, he's thinking what others on the thread have said, that your centrepieces are a waste of time and money?

Centrepieces are a waste of money and your time and after the wedding they are just more rubbish to get rid of. If you're on a budget you don't need anything at all. A nicely laid out table looks great.

I'm sorry, but I don't like them at all. They make me think of death.

you really don't 'need' table centres or favours, but if you really want them why not a White pilar candle 🕯️ or get very narrow vase & pretty dyed grasses?

They aren’t to my taste. But what jumps out is that they aren’t done ‘on a budget’ especially if couple with wreaths from florists.

Not to everyone’s taste but with a spring wedding on a budget we did jam jars with lace ribbon and then daffodils. Cheap and looked pretty and I love daffodils. But I agree not something worth spending loads on in general- food and drink far more important!

Not my sort of thing and I don’t think centrepieces are worth spending a lot of money on. We had potted jasmine plants for ours - the plants cost a few pounds each and I bought nice ceramic pots from ikea (also cheap as chips) to put them in. Gave them away to friends at the end of the night.

I like centrepieces and think they finish off the look of the table.

I don't think fake or real will change the look of those at all. Real will be more of a faff though so I'd go for fake.

I'm glad my DH didn't care about decorations and was happy for me to sort them out 😁

I'm think it looks very dated, sorry OP.

Go for something simpler, whatever will be in bloom at that time.

If it's nearer Christmas why don't you just do one vase per table with holly, ivy, loads of Christmas greenery, it will look fab. Possibly add in one or two little mini Christmas baubles.

Well I think they look really pretty.

Ditch them all together, I can’t remember any centre pieces from any wedding I’ve been too, leaves more room for wine!

I think bunches of flowers, nice and simple, look lovely. Personally I’d prefer that to the submerged look as I find it a bit styled, and I just like the simplicity of fresh flowers.

What time of year are you getting married? For just 4-5 tables it should be ok to find something in a supermarket BUT I would be wanting to allow an hour or so to drive around and find the nicest. It depends how much time you can spare sourcing things the day before, and how much the exact colours matter to you. Realistically you could turn up to any supermarket and buy nice flowers to put in vases, but not necessarily ones that go with any scheme. Who would be arranging them, etc - it all takes time. We had a big box of roses and foliage and lavender etc delivered from our florists and my MIL got them all trimmed and into vases, but it does all take a little bit of time.

It's not to my taste, but it might suit the rest of your wedding. I'm not keen on the floating candles, fresh flowers, mirror look, I do think it's a bit tacky. But if that's to your taste, go for it. We had amber glass, dried flower and dinner candles in a barn venue (and I loved it), but if you have a stately home venue for example our decor would look out of place, and I'm aware it's not to everyone's taste.

I hate those centre pieces, they always take up room and don't look particularly nice.

I'm there to chat to people and enjoy my meal not be distracted by having to move around some piece of tatty crap.

They all go in the bin at the end of the night so it's a complete waste of money.

Less is always more.

If you feel you have to dress the table then a simple bit of greenery is more than enough.

If this helps, I had submerged flowers 20 odd years ago, and I’d forgotten MY OWN CENTREPIECES till I saw this!
A friend got married recently and went to M and S the night before and bought everything with a yellow sticker on. Saved a fortune, added some lace ribbons, and everyone had fun pitching in. Gorgeous arrangements and bouquets.

Sorry OP I think it's horrible and tacky looking. Why would you put a flower fully submerged in a vase with a floating candle? I agree with PP it looks a bit "deathly"

No, I don't like it, it looks a bit 1980's tacky nightclub to me.

Oooooh no this is awful 😩. Fresh petals and some greenery would honestly be 100 percent better.
Not worth worrying about and spending a lot of money on. People remember the fun and love at weddings not what’s on the table.