AIBU to throttle my fh? So.....

[JustAnotherManicMomday]

Will keep it short as possible. Getting married on a budget, had discussion before Christmas about centrepieces, see image attached for the agreed idea. We would be doing similar to attached in a light pink and possibly white on 4 or 5 tables. Table we are on will have lantern with a wreath. Orderedthe wreath from florist as would only need to order that.

Rest of flowers for submerged flowers to order online. Now have everything else to do centrepieces...only for him to say he thinks it looks tacky and we should buy supermarket flowers the day before the wedding and just put them in a vase on each of the other tables. Doesn't matter that they may not have enough or the correct colours. Open to any ideas. I suggested artificial as that's what I'm using for bouquets but he insisted on real. The submerged idea lowered cost by not needing loads. Now his on about changing it. Surely changing would need a florist to get the correct colours and quantity needed?

YABU His correct it looks shit.
YANBU It looks fine and his being a twit.

Ps good job I bloody love him as this wedding budget is stressing me enough.

I read the first few replies and thought of course you/people remember centrepieces then turned to dh and asked what our centrepieces were, he replied ‘absolutely no idea’ and laughed. I said ‘I have no clue either’ and joined him laughing but in all honestly I’m going to look at our pictures later on to satisfy my curiosity because I need to know now! We had a very small budget and I’m trying to think whether we even had any?!

I remember my mum’s wedding centrepieces but I planned the whole thing and made a lot of the decorations, they were stunning. I also remember another friend’s wedding where I made all the decor. Other than that I don’t remember a single other friend’s wedding centrepieces. I can remember which weddings I walked in and thought ‘Wow, this looks beautiful’ but still no specific details spring to mind and I am very into all that stuff.

I agree with pps about simplicity is always best and the most timeless.

@JustAnotherManicMomday I went to a wedding last year that had these, I saw a guest drink from one, it took them a while to realise even after the candle hit them in the lips.

Save your money op. We washed stones from the garden and put them in a pile with a candle in the middle and a bit of greenery. Cost £30 for 20 tables and everyone loved the fact DH has made them all whilst I was getting my hair done.

I don’t think it looks shit OP, just a tad out of fashion now. Reminds me of early 2000s. I would look at Pinterest for budget friendly ideas.

Sorry OP it makes me think of Beauty and the Beast. And not in a good way.
Simpler the better, leave room for the food and drinks. Just candles and greenery if you must, use what you have, don't go panic buying lanterns.

No-one will know or care whether centre pieces are the correct colours. Your fiancé is quite right.

Really sorry, but the lanterns are even worse.

There are some lovely and really cheap ideas on this thread. Why not go for one of those?

Sorry but that does look quite tacky.

Also unnecessary.

Son’s fiancé did a wine bottle with a single long stem in each. Looked great.

His correct it looks shit.
It looks fine and his being a twit.

Must admit I struggled with this, OP. Is it a typo - "his" for "he is"?

What is fh? I presumed First Husband, but that doesn't seem to fit in to OP or follow up post?

Another one who is with your fiance. Not my taste at all. I would remember them for all the wrong reasons!

We just had bunches of flowers from a florist. She asked me my colours scheme. Told her I didn't have one and to just crack on with small bunches of whatever was in season!

Just don't bother tbh. A simple candle in some sort of holder at a push. I wouldn't get flowers.

As others have said, nobody will remember or care what the centrepieces are like except you and your dp.

I don't like the idea in the photo in your op.

The only centrepieces I remember from a wedding were taxidermy pieces 😬. Memorable for sure, but certainly not to everyone's taste! They were a bit of an alternative/hipster couple.

Agree that simple flower posies or foliage would look better. They're just a bit, I dunno, cheap looking?

Sorry, OP. I do think he's right.

I see this a lot nowadays. Same with 'should of' instead of should have.

Just people spelling as the word sounds to the ear, I think.

Yes they are tacky

Future

YABU for using his instead of he's.

@ellyoctober

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Something like this is far better than the original or the lanterns to be totally honest OP. You can buy fake candles that look really realistic from The Range, if your venue doesn't allow real candles. For the greenery, the range or Dunelm have good faux greenery usually.

Maybe fairy lights in the vases would be pretty, with no flowers or one flower on top.Fairylights in jar

It's very 90s. Bur if you like it. Then do it..its your wedding.

I personally would do some seasonal flowers as a PP suggested in a jam jar with a bit of ribbon/lace/time around it.

Me neither.

I do, however, recall being at a work colleague's wedding and another colleague being stopped by the bride's new MIL as we were leaving.

The colleague had helped herself to a centrepiece because she liked it. The MIL was raging and telling her they were to be given to grandmothers/aunties etc.

I was mortified on behalf of the CF colleague. She just laughed.

Of all the weddings I've been to, I remember the centrepieces for only 1. A pile of charity shop paperbacks in the middle of each table for people to take home. Cost very little, but the bride and groom had spent time selecting ones they thought would appeal to each table - and it gave guests who didn't know each other something to talk about as they decided who would have which.

By the time the tables are full of wine bottles, glasses, plates, namecards etc you really only notice what's in the middle if it gets in the way. If you're on a budget, this is an easy item to cut.

Oh dear. That's dreadful, OP. Listen to your future husband on this. Fresh flowers in a simple vase or nothing at all would be better than this.