AIBU to throttle my fh? So.....

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Will keep it short as possible. Getting married on a budget, had discussion before Christmas about centrepieces, see image attached for the agreed idea. We would be doing similar to attached in a light pink and possibly white on 4 or 5 tables. Table we are on will have lantern with a wreath. Orderedthe wreath from florist as would only need to order that.

Rest of flowers for submerged flowers to order online. Now have everything else to do centrepieces...only for him to say he thinks it looks tacky and we should buy supermarket flowers the day before the wedding and just put them in a vase on each of the other tables. Doesn't matter that they may not have enough or the correct colours. Open to any ideas. I suggested artificial as that's what I'm using for bouquets but he insisted on real. The submerged idea lowered cost by not needing loads. Now his on about changing it. Surely changing would need a florist to get the correct colours and quantity needed?

YABU His correct it looks shit.
YANBU It looks fine and his being a twit.

Ps good job I bloody love him as this wedding budget is stressing me enough.

Very tacky. Especially the 'submerged'
Sorry but you did ask for opinions

Summer wedding. May just sell all the bits I've got and do something else if we decide to. Similar to this but with the white lantern. The annoying thing is that he was the one that said to go for the other idea originally.

I'm not keen, sorry OP.

What about scattering petals over the table and a glass fishbowl vase (cheap from hobby craft) with white pebbles and a candle in?

I've seen this done and it looked effective but simple.

I don't remember a single table piece from any of the weddings I've been to come to think of it!

I can’t even remember the centre pieces from my own wedding.

It’s really not important OP.

It's far too much. Why are you drowning flowers. They look awful

They look tacky. I bought random white and glass vases from charity shops and used supermarket flowers. Cost next to nothing. Afterwards I donated the vases back to the shops as well.

Honestly if you are this emotionally invested in the table decorations you may not be mature enough to get married.

I'm with your DH2B. You know it doesn't really matter whether the flowers on the table are a specific colour. Any flowers will look lovely amd you aren't required to have a wedding which would win prizes fron a bridal magazine stylist.

If you are getting married on a budget you have to learn to say "that's not important enough to spend money on" about a lot of the things that the wedding industry want you to care about. Table decorations is an easy one to do cheaply.

Actually maybe we had little pots with lavender in.

Can’t be sure though.

I wouldn’t bother going out to buy more/different items like lanterns that won’t get used.

do you have the long thin vases already?

If you already have the tall vases, would you do something like this maybe?

I've never seen anything like this before in my life. I echo what everyone else is saying, I think it's a faff and a total waste of money. They are so overly complicated it's just added time and stress and something that will go wrong. When I think of wedding on a budget, this is not it.

Crisp white or cream table cloths and something simple is enough. The suggestions here from PPs are lovely. I personally like the idea of something green and fresh like sprigs of gypsophila and a few candles dotted around in those miniature mason jars with the little wire handles.

Less is absolutely more and rose petals and a few candles would even do the job.

Love this 😊

Don't waste more money buying things OP. Use what you have.

They’re really tacky and they honestly never look good, the staged insta style photos are carefully lit to make them look OK but they look pretty awful.

The tall glasses with some pebbles or candles and just some greenery around the bases would look much more classy.

And I don’t mean to be rude, but if the budget is very tight then going for something opulent/extravagant can always steer into the naff or tacky realm.

Keep it simple.

Love the @BranchGold idea.

I voted YANBU as it’s your day and your choice. But I don’t like the single flower thing sorry- but that’s just my opinion.

Did he say ‘oh yes, I like that. We could do….etc’ or did he say ‘yeah go for it’. Because if it was the second he probably wasn’t taking any notice. Sort of thing my DH would do 🤣

Try not to stress. I don't remember any centrepieces from any of the dozens of weddings I've been to! I don't think anyone does. Honestly, I know it's stressful trying to prep a wedding but nothing really matters apart from you, friends and family having a nice time - thoughtful seating plan/nice food and drink/music...

Supermarket flowers would save you money. We did this for tables . we got married at Easter and the flowers were gorgeous. No regrets.

And I think we got ikea lanterns for evening and let people take them home

Total waste of money that will get in the way of people talking/passing wine bottles.

Do away with them and have nothing.

What about going for elegant, understated gypsophila? It's super cheap.
You can buy the log slices from the range along with the white ribbon and small white bud vases/jars for a few quid each.
You could maybe put a spring of gypsophila on each place setting to pull the whole look together!

I also think just petals would be lovely

You can find artificial flowers cheap off Vinted and FB marketplace second-hand from someone else's wedding often already made into centrepieces etc. Most are 'standard colours' burgundy/white/yellow/orange.

I chose burgundy/pink and white for my budget wedding (last autumn) and because these were so common I was able to get everything second-hand. Even pew ends which cost £6 EACH I got a job lot of pink flowers for a tenner, bought cheap ribbon. Husband and his best man made them. All my bouquets (me + 3 BM's) £60 on total off FB marketplace.

Your caterer might do something as well, if you just ask.

Save the cash, they are not needed. I have no opinion on what they look like though.