AIBU to throttle my fh? So.....

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Will keep it short as possible. Getting married on a budget, had discussion before Christmas about centrepieces, see image attached for the agreed idea. We would be doing similar to attached in a light pink and possibly white on 4 or 5 tables. Table we are on will have lantern with a wreath. Orderedthe wreath from florist as would only need to order that.

Rest of flowers for submerged flowers to order online. Now have everything else to do centrepieces...only for him to say he thinks it looks tacky and we should buy supermarket flowers the day before the wedding and just put them in a vase on each of the other tables. Doesn't matter that they may not have enough or the correct colours. Open to any ideas. I suggested artificial as that's what I'm using for bouquets but he insisted on real. The submerged idea lowered cost by not needing loads. Now his on about changing it. Surely changing would need a florist to get the correct colours and quantity needed?

YABU His correct it looks shit.
YANBU It looks fine and his being a twit.

Ps good job I bloody love him as this wedding budget is stressing me enough.

I'm not a fan either, I'm sorry. Nor do I like @Snoozymoozy's suggestion - because the gypsophila is too long. Would be not too bad in very short vases with a small sprig, but anything tall will get in the way when trying to talk to people

They are an expense you can easily do without if you're on a budget. Some greenery ( like Ivy) in the middle of the table with a glass jar with a tea-light in it would be more than enough - and very cheap, really?

Less is more and if you are thinking about finances surely centrepieces should be low on the list.

Honestly no one takes notice and will think any less on the day.
At the end of the day, will it make a difference to your wedding day? No.
I had fake flowers in jars with no pebbles or water effect, just floating. Did it look weird? Maybe if I looked and thought about it too long. Saved a fortune as did it myself and overall looked half decent. No one cared and didn't spoil the day.

@YireosDodeAver Honestly if you are this emotionally invested in the table decorations you may not be mature enough to get married.

Oh come off it, don't be so dismissive. It's OP's wedding, of course it's important to her.

I agree that less is more when you're on a budget. Trying to do something OTT without spending much tends to look tacky (i.e. step away from B&M and the Range...). I'd also advise you just to make a decision and not ask anyone's opinion, it makes life much easier.

Other ideas - photos of you and DH, or empty wine bottles with paper to write messages on (in lieu of a guestbook).

I am not a dan of overly dressed tables at weddings. I think just a nice clear glass jar with some seasonal wild flowers and perhaps a white pillar candle is enough.

I'm not a fan tbh they look like they belong in an undertakers

It looks very, very dated. Sorry.

I love this idea. Just greenery is very pretty.

We ordered around 100 white roses and some gypsophila from an online florist. Very cheap, I think it cost £150-200 in total. We put them in nice jars on the table, made bouquets of them and each groomsman had a white rose as a button hole flower.

Why not do something similar? If you don't have a florist the key is to keep it very neutral I think, just greenery and white flowers/petals

This. Or something green like eucalyptus in mason jars.

"Throttle" is a awful word to use in any scenario let alone something as trivial as this.

Minimising violence is never acceptable.

Yes OP. It looks trashy and cheap.

In your shoes, I’d honestly put 3 tall candles on the table and not do flowers at all.

Sorry OP, it looks like it belongs in a1970's hairdressers. People are leaning more towards natural/rustic things these days, like wild flowers in jam jars.

Greenery all the way. Super simple with white linen will look far prettier than floating flowers. OR as some PPs have suggested, potted jasmine, herbs or similar are lovely too. We had rows of succulents with small tealight candles in between at ours and then people took them home.

I don't think that the ptoblem is about the flowers, but the fact he's decided to change something at the last minute. That is why I'd consider throttling him.

Whether you keep to plan A or do something different is up to you. What I think you need to do is ask him why he's left it up to now to pipe up. Although, leaving it to the day of the wedding to pop into the supermarket is absolute madness. Nip this in tne bud. If he's got previous for meddling, then don't go.

My advice is to look at him through a fork to work out if it's worth doing jail time for because one little unexpected thing can turn love to hate. If he's messing at the last minute with the wedding, he'll keep messing.

No one will remember the tables or the colour scheme, but they will remember the bride stuffing tbe bouquet into the groom's face. Or the serene couple happily uniting their lives.

Succulents were a thing 5 years ago so may already be dated.

It depends what you want OP. An on trend insta wedding?

😂

Golden Rule of Wedding Planning:

People will not remember or care about your centre pieces, your colour scheme, your bridesmaids dresses, your car, your chair coverings, your wall decorations, your favours, your invitations, your orders-of-service, or your photography.

They WILL remember:
If they got hungry while waiting around during the event.
If there was not enough food.
If the food was crap
If there was not enough drink.

So FEED them well , provide nice drinks, and then get everyone dancing.

That all that matters.

It looks really naff. I would just for a vase with cream roses and greenery in, or even just a load of greenery. It’s a complete waste of money anyway. No one really cares what you have in the middle of your tables. It must be difficult because there’s so much social media pressure to have everything perfect. Try not to overthink it all and remember what the day is really about.

This is so true. A perfect description of a wedding.

Much much nicer.

It's true, I can't even remember what we had.

That said I do like your idea OP. It's your wedding, do what you want to do.

If you're buying lanterns and wreaths etc just to decorate a table, your budget is not that tight.

Speaking for myself, the main thing I want to see in the middle of the table is wine and a basket of bread.

Ooh no, and I renowned for my lack of taste!

🤣 To posters being reminded of death. I wouldn't go that far but the roses look half dead. Definitely not.

Plain and simple. I.e nothing is preferable!

Give the people what they want! A bottle of red and a bottle of white tied up in a ribbon, if you want to get really fancy put some greenery round the. Make a humorous feature of it.

We had no flowers in our centrepieces, we used decent sized candle lanterns (they were like a glass vase with a metal frame, black frame for guests tables, white frame for top tables) with florists stones in the bridal party colours in the base surrounding the candles, the candles were the most expensive part because we knew the aircon would be on and wanted the candles to last all night so they were thick pillar slow burning candles recommended by a friend who did the flowers. The next morning the hotel had cleared the room, reboxed the centrepieces and we gave them to guests who had stayed over, kept a few for ourselves and 16 years later the candles still haven't burnt out but are only lit in powercuts. It's lovely to visit a friend and see one of our centrepieces in their house.