AIBU to throttle my fh? So.....

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Will keep it short as possible. Getting married on a budget, had discussion before Christmas about centrepieces, see image attached for the agreed idea. We would be doing similar to attached in a light pink and possibly white on 4 or 5 tables. Table we are on will have lantern with a wreath. Orderedthe wreath from florist as would only need to order that.

Rest of flowers for submerged flowers to order online. Now have everything else to do centrepieces...only for him to say he thinks it looks tacky and we should buy supermarket flowers the day before the wedding and just put them in a vase on each of the other tables. Doesn't matter that they may not have enough or the correct colours. Open to any ideas. I suggested artificial as that's what I'm using for bouquets but he insisted on real. The submerged idea lowered cost by not needing loads. Now his on about changing it. Surely changing would need a florist to get the correct colours and quantity needed?

YABU His correct it looks shit.
YANBU It looks fine and his being a twit.

Ps good job I bloody love him as this wedding budget is stressing me enough.

I really really like those! and i'm not even a flower fan.

You can get a lantern for about £4 from ikea, I would get 1 of 2 for each table and leave it at that.

You can keep them after the wedding and hang them in the garden or use them around the house so no money is wasted.

Only centrepiece I remember was from my cousin's wedding in 1974. Bowls of Players Silk Cut on the table & books of matches with the happy bride and grooms faces printed on

OP, stick to your guns - if those are the centrepieces you want, you go for it! It’s your wedding - centrepieces set a tone: it’s the overall impression that counts. People might not remember what the centrepieces are, it they will notice if there aren’t any.

Have you made any of these centrepieces up yet, to see what they actually look like? I don't think it's fair saying it's shit without you mocking it up and looking at it properly.

This is a nice idea, especially if you already have the vases - it looks pretty, will be even nicer as it goes dark, and can be easily done in advance, I don't even think you even need the foliage. Try not to stress about it OP, as lots of people have said no-one will remember the centrepieces, it is more important to get the basics right, especially the timing, (no long gaps) and plenty of food and drink.

YABU His correct it looks shit.
YANBU It looks fine and his being a twit.

His!?

@Trez1510 I bet that happens a lot at weddings. Never occurred to me to take one home though!

You don’t need the lanterns. The flowers alone look pretty enough.

Agree with him regarding the original ones.

That's a really nice idea

You know what OP meant

Is this really how people write now though? Just wondering. English is not my first language.

Your choice looks very dated and I have to say - tacky.

Better budget options:
Ikea Pomp vase 18cm £2.50 with Fenomen pillar candle 14cm £1.50 inside a ring of ivy or soft ruscus £2 or £3 (order from your nearest florist wholesaler).

Ikea Tidvatten vase 14cm £1.50 with a bunch of Gypsophila £5 (from local florist wholesaler)

Maybe try potted herbs. Rosemary, lemon thyme and such. They were cheap( my wedding was in summer) and adding some glass rocks over the dirt and wrapping the pots made them look a bit more posh. The place smelled wonderful and everyone was happy to take one home.

My centrepieces were cheap potted flowering cyclamens from Homebase - I wrapped the standard plastic pots in silver hologram wrapping paper and tied with a ribbon. About £3 each plus a couple of rolls of giftwrap and curling ribbon. Looked great.

Afterwards we gave some away, took the rest home and planted them in the garden.

The only centrepieces I remember from any wedding I have been to were gin bottles with wee led lights in them. Each table was named after the gin name on the seating plan. They looked nice and did not get in the way.

Best table centre I can think of is drinks and edibles, because every wedding I’ve ever been too I have been cold, hungry and bored 😂

Pot of tea and whole box couple of border dark choc ginger biscuits would have been preferable to flowers/candles/break-your-fucking-teeth-sugar-coated-almonds

(And maybe a blanket to keep my legs warm)

The centerpieces I remember were gigantic carved pumpkins with lights and sunflowers in at an autumn wedding which were gorgeous and really impressive, and huge martini glasses with loads of hanging flowers and greenery in that completely got in the way and caused issues when passing the wine etc!

OP, I can promise you that when anyone thinks about your wedding in the future they'll remember you and how pretty you looked in your dress, your husband and how handsome he looked in his suit, the food, the atmosphere and how happy you both looked.

Everything else is entirely peripheral and unimportant.

I'd bet my house that no one in the history of the world has ever said 'that was a lovely wedding, the table decorations were so beautiful'

Have them if you want, but don't let them stress you out. It really really doesn't matter.

OP I think you're getting a lot of unhelpful replies here.my idea of hell is this sort of wedding and I couldn't care less about flowers and centre pieces, a waste of money to me. However they clearly ARE important to you and that's fine, and you asked for opinions. The submerged rose does look very dated I think. I like the white lantern with some more natural looking flowers, meadow flowers etc, that don't look really 'arranged'. I also like the idea of the jars with something seasonal, such as daffodils for spring. Or I've seen jars of pretty sweets before as centre pieces which looks nice. I think the key is if you're on a budget you need to choose a flower that's relatively inexpensive.