To not want to share my inheritance equaly

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My half brother who I love dearly wants me to share my inheritance with him, he says my mum told him she would share it half half. That's not what she told me. Mum had passed away so we can't clarify now.
He received an inheritance from his mum that he didn't share.

I'm happy to give him a share but I feel half is too much. I don't want yo fall out with him but I feel it's unfair. AIBU?

By the sounds of it your brother will blow the money so would your relationship survive that anyway if you gave him what he's asking and he wasted it all?

The inheritance is from the grandmother, who died after the mother. The father, who was only a son-in-law of the deceased, won't inherit anything. The OP is the only heir.

If you have 4 kids then you shouldn't give anything to your brother. Its your grans money with whom your brother had no relationship. Your brother sounds manipulative and you've said hes materialistic, he will spend away and have nothing to show for it. Keep it for your kids future education and house deposits.

Your mum died leaving nothing, so that’s what the half brother gets surely.

Your inheritance is from your grandparents so in what way exactly does he have even the remotest claim to it?

Whatever “guilt” you feel belongs to your late mother, NOT you.

Are you stupid!! No!
Honestly, why would you?

You mentioned that your stepbrother says your mother said everything would be split in half.....ofcourse he is going to say that, you have no way of proving otherwise. Your mother told you, everything is yours, they were her wishes, so l think you should not give him half. If you feel a little uncomfotable, give him a very small gesture of money, otherwise he can sod off. Me & my brother lost my dad not to long ago, he left a will saying everything to be split in half between us. My brother wasn't happy with this, he said l was to half three quaters & he would take the other quarter. He said l was the one that did everything for him, getting up at 3.30am daily to help him wash & dress, give him his breakfast, & prepare his lunch. He was always a very early riser, so l would do that before going back home to get ready for work, returning for dinner in the evening, then putting him to bed. I am a nurse so used to everything ldid. This went on for nearly 5 years, my brother lives abroad , so l never expected to recieve any help from him. I did it also for my peace of mind, no-one would care for him better than me....Thats why l ended up taking the lions share....l do feel guilty but my brother says he would feel a whole lot worse if he took half....Did you look after your mum, visiting on a regular basis?....did he?....just something to think about, but the right thing to do is follow your mums wishes & have it all. Good luck .

Short and sweet! Couldn't have said it better 🌸

let him have a half, no, be generous and make that a pint! thats plenty lol x

Your gran wanted you to have the money for yourself and your children.

He has received the inheritance from his side of his family and you both will receive nothing from parents.
If he had received inheritance from his mother and your gran had nothing then you’d have had nothing so I don’t think he deserved your grandparent’s money.

Set your children up and prioritise them. It sounds like he won’t be happy whatever and I can’t believe he feels entitled to money that is nothing to do with him! From someone who never brought him up or was a huge part of his life (your gran!).

My parents were not married and there was no will

Op your parents choose not to have a legal tie between them.
There is absolutely no legal tie between your DGP and your half brother.
Nor is their a legal tie between your half brother and your children.

Whatever your Dad leaves will be divided equally between you.

He set the president not to share his inheritance from his mother. Do not share your inheritance from your Dear Gran.

You must be worn out loosing both your mum and dear gran in such a short space of time. Take care or yourself.

What were his feelings about the family unit when he had no contact with your mum for 20 years?

Whatever your mum may or may not have promised him is irrelevant. Ultimately it wasn't her inheritance to then pass on.

If your gran had intended for him to have a share, she would have made provision for this.

Give him 1/6. Tell him the other 5/6 are to be shared equally between you and your children.

O, I’ve read all of your posts. I’m might be wrong but you haven’t inherited anything from your mother. Therefore whatever DM might have said to DB, it’s a moot point.

You inherited it from your DGM.

You have four children. Tell your half brother you're going to share it fairly between all the important people in your mum's life. Give him one sixth.

OP, you need to put yourself and your children first. None of us know what the future will bring, but if you are in a position to make your children’s lives better, then think of them - don’t let your half brother guilt you into giving away what is now YOUR money. If your half brother is going to make you feel guilty for not giving him half, then don’t give him anything, or just a token amount. He’s not worth a bean, if his good opinion and family feeling towards you depends on your giving to him money to which he is not entitled. If I were your deceased grandparent, I would want the money to go to you and your children.

Her brother will resent OP if he receives less than half of the inheritance. He won't be happy with a 1/6. OP inherited from her grandma (who isn't related to the half brother) so she should prioritise her four children and not her grabby brother.

So do you think his relationship with you would be any better if you did give him a share? From you have said, I suspect once he’d got what he wanted, you’d never see him again.

100% perfect

Your 1/2 brother is not entitled to a red cent & if you decide to give him anything, it'll be out of the kindness of your heart. Even if your mum & brother had some sort of relationship, she would've included him in her will if she wanted to leave him something. It sounds to me like he might be trying to pull wool over your eyes. With that being said, I can't say either way what I think you should do b/c as a complete stranger, I'm unaware of the dynamics of the situation as a whole. I find his suggestion of half to be off-putting, especially considering his lack of thoughtfulness when receiving his inheritance from his mum. If you decide not to give him any money & there's a fall-out as a result, you'll learn what kind of person he truly is. I'm sorry about the loss of your mum ❤️.

No. The mother died before the grandmother. So when grandmother died it went straight to OP as the closest relative. There was no will

You live your brother but you live your dc more right?
Divide into 1/6s for each of you and your dc and db as someone else said.

How can he possibly argue that he deserves more than your dc. If he dies then you know he's an arsehole and in that case why give him any.

Your dc have more 'right' if there is such a thing to the money from their ggm than does as someone unrelated to her and for whom she felt no family bond.

Your mum inherited money from her own parents and it's come down to you. And his mum's did to him. In my opinion you obvs don't owe your brother any of it. But it sounds as though he's upsetting you emotionally as you love him. So in your shoes I wouldn't feel pressured into giving him any of it - for all the reasons others have given - but I would want to talk to him about why his view has upset you so much?

Half of what your mum left is nothing.

He’s seems to want your grans money which isn’t his and she didn’t want him to have or she would have left it to him.

This, just this. Nothing else.

No she didn’t. Her mum inherited nothing and had nothing to leave to either of them. This is Gran’s money as she outlived mum.