To not want to share my inheritance equaly

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My half brother who I love dearly wants me to share my inheritance with him, he says my mum told him she would share it half half. That's not what she told me. Mum had passed away so we can't clarify now.
He received an inheritance from his mum that he didn't share.

I'm happy to give him a share but I feel half is too much. I don't want yo fall out with him but I feel it's unfair. AIBU?

You are being unreasonable if you want to give him anything. This came from your grandmother to you. He is not entitled to anything.

Your half brother has reappeared at an opportune time it would seem. 20 years gone but rocks up in time to try and claim an inheritance.

As much as you don’t want to lose him, kindly, you already have. He will (guilt you into giving) take this money and you won’t see him for dust. Or until he sees fit as to want more money.

You say you feel bad for how your mother treated him - well that’s not your fault, but it is his fathers. You’re already paying for your fathers care so I’d gently suggest that is how you’re already compensating for something that was never your doing.

Please don’t give him a penny of your inheritance from your grandparents. Think of your children and set them up. That’s what your GP would have wanted.

I would probably divide the money to six equal portions, one for each of your children (put in a trust), one for you and one for your brother.

This is an excellent suggestion. Take the net amount and set aside a portion for each person who meant something to your gran.. Give him his portion and keep the portion for your dad until you need to use it on his care.. Invest the portions for your children and enjoy your portion knowing you have used your grandma's money for all the people she loved x

This is a great list to work through.

I think he is just trying it on. If your mum wanted to do that surely she would have told you too.

So he did not share his inheritance with you because his mum did not raise you. Your gran did not raise him, so why is he entitled to anything from her estate? Would she want any to go to him? And if not giving him half would result in a fractured relationship anyway, you may as well keep all.

Do you know what he spent his inheritance from his own mum on?

If your mum had trouble with alcohol or drug abuse, then she's probably told tons of people they'd get money from her when she inherited.

Keep the inheritance for you and your children. He won't be satisfied even with 50%. Like others have said, it's a moot point as the money was never your mom's. His is his and yours is ours? Open your eyes to the level of selfishness he's exhibited. Your clue should be how much he's contributed to your Dad's care. I'm sorry you don't have much family left.

No way!! Not a chance in hell! Chancer.

Is there a will?

To be honest that's a pretty big piece of vital information! Whatever your gran left is yours and yours alone, don't even contemplate the CFs request in regards to that money.
Your post is v unclear though, has your mum and the dad you both share both passed leaving absolutely nothing, they had no money, no house, nothing? If there was anything small I'd maybe share that to keep him quiet

No please don't fall for it. Your mum had a will professionally drawn up! She'd be annoyed that you had split it! Don't feel bad, enjoy the money. Like he did when he inherited from his father, and didn't share it either!

This has been suggested several times. I don’t agree at all. Op intends to pay for her dad’s care. This could run into hundreds of thousands and leave her with nothing.

Edit - I wouldn’t give him anything right now. See how he reacts. Get some therapy.

I wouldn't give him a penny. Your mother left it to you, if she'd wanted him to have half she'd have arranged it.

He's got a bloody cheek. Do you really believe your mother said that to him?

I’m so sorry if I sound callous, however, whether or not your mum promised him an inheritance- the moon- the sun- the stars etc, non of these were hers to give.

There was no guarantee she would ever inherit. She did not inherit but you did. Don not give that CF anything.

Tell him straight that he is getting a f all big fat 0 and then its done with and take a holiday you going to need it if he keeps doing your head in&jog on half brother 🖕

I think your HB is being a dick tbh.
I would just refuse if I was you 😒

No don't share any. It's not his and he can back off.

Also, bear in mind your grandparents didn't want him to have any of their money, or your gran would have changed the will when your mum passed.
This would be like me and a friend saying if we ever won the Lotto we d split it, my sisters wins a large amount and kindly gives me a share and my friend thinks she's entitled to half!
Eve iif your mam did say it one day, by the sounds of things it could have been a manipulation or holding something over him, justifying her behaviour, doesn't mean she ever had any intention of doing it

Having a policy on no giving money to family is important. Dint give money to someone just because you don't want to lose their love. Tell them that.

Just politely say, please don't jeopardise our wonderful relationship over money.
It is not something I am going to discuss or give you money from. A little like when you had your inheritance. The answer is no and hopefully you haven't squandered yiur own inheritance.
I don't want to fall out and equally do not want to discuss it again. So please respect that boundary.
I would however like to treat us to a weekend away, is there a particular area that is in your heart.

Why on earth would you do this? He is absolutely no relation to Grandma - why should her Granddaughter and her Great Grandchildren get equal shares with some bloke who is half brother to Granddaughter on the father's side...did she even know him?

That's utterly ridiculous. Why should OP treat a dodgy half brother as though he is equally important to her children, and equally her responsibility to share money with. He's not. And he's demonstrated by keeping his own DMs money that he feels nothing for OP.

He's an adult who's looking to exploit her.

Why would you want to do that...?

Your half brother received an inheritance from his mum that he didn't share with you. Fools and their money are easily parted. Don't be that fool.