Mother’s Day is a bit out of hand?

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Has Mothers Day always been like this? Some big event with lunches and dramas and threads about who is going where?

I thought Mother’s Day was breakfast in bed with a bunch of flowers, maybe a card.

YABU - it’s an important day for important persons
YANBU - it’s really no biggie at all

No biggie for my family. I have a mum and a sister - we are all mums and tend to just get everyone together, kids etc. This is nothing new for us though, we do it once a month anyway! The only difference is we buy/get flowers and a card. No MIL to worry about but if I did have one we would simply visit at some point in the day, which would be fair and right.

YANBU.

My expectations are a card and a small gift, a kiss and a hug. Then everyone gets on with their day! Now someone will come on to tell my that I shouldn’t expect physical affection from anyone and I’m crossing a boundary!

Everything is out of hand. It's all about ££££.

It is. Mothering Sunday was more about "mothering" or caring. Somewhere along the way it has become a circus. But no-one has to go along with it.

I tell my lad not to worry, but if he wants to do something then a card and a bar of chocolate will be lovely.

Yanbu. I’ve told DH I don’t want a big fuss; no meal out, no big bouquets or massage vouchers.

A couple of bunches of £1 daffodils from the supermarket (as the garden ones haven’t bloomed yet) and a breakfast made will do just fine.

It's just a commercial racket. I'm always just thrilled if my girls come home for a cup of tea and a natter and tell them not to waste their money. I'm their Mum 365 days a year, not just on Mothering Sunday.

Yes. It’s a bit ridiculous that people get so worked up over it when they put up with their useless husbands being shit the rest of the year.

I don’t see people spending thousands and going overboard.
A bunch of flowers and spending a couple of hours with the person who gave you your life is hardly excessive is it?

Home made card here and a bunch of daffs. Cup of tea.

that’s enough for me

It’s traditionally a days for servants to return to their “mother” church. Not actually about mums, so YANBU.

My DP and my SIL are cooking Sunday roast for me , my mum , and my DD ( who is also a mum to my GDs) ….I will get a card from my youngest DS , a card and flowers from my DD …. And a WhatsApp message from my eldest DS ( lives in Canada) …. So no big spends ….. just a family lunch

My 12 year old DD is excitedly planning to make me a cake with fondant icing - she’s never done fondant icing before but she’s seen it on tv 🤣 and I heard her whispering with 14 year old DS about going to B&M together to choose me something. So I feel like I have everything I could possibly want already 🥰 it’s over 7 years since DH died, it’s often rocky, but they’re great kids. And we’ll all go to my mum’s on Sunday and take flowers and bits and pieces for lunch. And she’ll be delighted.

You’re absolutely right.

I don't see any excessive drama about it? People get their mums flowers and a card and maybe take her out for lunch? Or am I missing something? We do very little for it here.

My adult DC and son in law are visiting for the day and cooking me lunch, we moved nearer to them last year and they and I are so pleased to be able to spend time together. It will be very relaxed and no pressure on anyone.

It used to be a card and flowers/chocs and imho it’s def out of hand.
I won’t deny I like a card esp as DCs are at uni - DD’s has already arrived.
However, there’s been a right business w MIL insisting we go out for a dinner but it will be meaningless to me as obv DCs are at uni and my own mum is long dead. A three-line whip has been invoked so I have to go!

My mum usually gets a visit, some flowers and chocolates. Earlier year we trapped her in the car on a long journey and played the Six the musical soundtrack on repeat, she must not have minded as she’s asked for her own copy of the cd.

Normally we’d visit at her house, but she’s staying at mine for a few days for an event, so my brother and his children are coming here on Saturday and we’ll have afternoon tea. I’d have to feed everyone anyway, and a couple of scones and jam tarts won’t break the bank.

My own children spent their DF’s money on items from a trading card game we all play together for me, have made cards at school and have spent ages looking at the Gruffalo cookbook to decide what to make me for breakfast in bed.

My MiL is currently in hospital, so will get a quick visit as she’s not up to much more.

Yeah, it's definitely OTT. I'm perfectly happy with the breakfast, card and wee bunch of flowers. If I can have a relaxing day, it's a bonus.

I like a day out with my family. Maybe a coffee and cake.

Hopefully cards with something really nice written in them!

It's the same as Valentine's, Halloween, and even Christmas and Easter. They're very commercialised but you don't actually have to go in for all the bells and whistles if you don't want to.

My 4 year old has chosen some bath bombs for me as he loves bath bombs and my 1 year old has decorated a flower pot with his childminder. I will receive both of these on Mother's Day morning and be very happy.

Then we're going to church with my mum and the 1 year oldest godmother, where they give out daffodils for all the mothers. Then lunch together back at my house (will stick something in the slow cooker so as not to be cooking all day for my own Mother's Day lunch).

I'm looking forward to it

Everything is out of hand. Due to commercial interests initially and social media. Bunch of daffs, homemade card and perhaps cup of tea in bed is lovely, but enough - all this me me me is ridiculous

A card and a cuddle in bed and then a normal day is good enough for me.

I’m m quite looking forward to it this year as the kids have got me a big bag of mini eggs. Mini eggs are the key to my heart.
It’s just nice showing loved ones you love them. Life is short and complicated, if we can it’s nice just to have some fun. We’re going to pub for tea, saves any of us cooking, I will
get my mum half cut as a thank you.
I don’t really partake in social media very often so I don’t think I have a skewed idea of the day, because I dont see others going daft. I’d just like to make my mum smile.

@StJulian2023

Your kids sound amazing! Definitely that's the spirit of Mother's Day - servant girls who lived in would be allowed to make a cake to take home to their mother, your dd making a cake is very much in keeping with that tradition.

I think it just depends on your family, really.

When we were little we would make a bit more fuss of Mother's Day than most - but my mum's birthday is Christmas Day, so it felt fair that she had another day when we'd get her presents.