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To think my hairdresser behaved unprofessionally?

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JasmineJewels · 06/03/2024 20:43

I went to the hairdresser for a half head of highlights this week. I am naturally dark blonde but like to brighten my hair up. For years I box dyed my hair with the baby blonde nice & easy kit and it looked fine but now I go to the salon a few times a year and do it myself in between.

This hairdresser has done my highlights a few times over the last year and half. It had been several months since I’d been to her and I’d been away on holiday so I’d used a box dye in the meantime because I wanted to blend the regrowth.

On the day of the appointment, I sat in the chair and she started looking through my hair and asked if I’d used something on it since the last time. I told her I’d used box dye but only on the hairline and roots and her whole manner changed. She became very irritable with me and started basically telling me off. She started saying things like ‘I wish you wouldn’t put box dye on it because it’s so hard to lift for me! You should always wait and have it done professionally.’

I was taken aback because the box dye wasn’t that apparent. It had faded a lot and to be honest, I don’t have the money to go to the salon every time I have some regrowth. She made me feel like a scolded child and I was upset because I get a bit anxious anyway when I go to the hairdressers and she made me feel like I did something wrong. I pay a lot of money to have my hair done and I expect to feel relaxed, not uncomfortable.

Do you think she was tone deaf to say this in the middle of a cost of living crisis? Not everyone has the money to pay £70+ for their hair every 6 weeks. I understand it can be frustrating when clients use box dye but I didn’t find her reaction very professional.

OP posts:
BeLemonFish · 09/03/2024 07:12

If you were that uncomfortable you had the right to leave.

68User · 09/03/2024 08:19

I root touch up between visits as I try to go every 8-12 weeks and otherwise would be every 6. Simply can’t afford and don’t have the time. My hairdresser knows and is fine with it. I have naturally brown (greying) hair with blonde highlights so just do brown in the roots when they come through. I wouldn’t go to him if he told me off and would find another hairdresser.

TheMaddHugger · 09/03/2024 10:21

JasmineJewels · 07/03/2024 08:15

Thanks for your replies. To the person who said maybe I was over sensitive because I was anxious, I don’t think I was. I can tell when someone’s being rude/ abrupt with me and she definitely was.

The weird thing is that I’ve been to her before after box dyeing and she seemed ok. My hair is basically bullet proof and lifts well whatever has happened 😂 especially once toner has been used. So I don’t know why she was moody suddenly. She knows I wouldn’t give her a bad review online, I’m not like that and I’m never picky about what I want with exact colours etc. I just wanted it to blend.

It has made me reconsider using box dyes because of the unknown ingredients. I know a bit about colour from reading online so I might order a professional colour with developer myself in the meantime (not bleach).

an honest video by a hairdresser

Is "BOX DYE" hair color as terrible as hairstylists make out?! (hairstylist shop up)

#hair #haircolor #boxdye #hairstylist Do YOU use "box dye" to color your hair at home?Are you a hair stylist that hates the idea of clients using DIY hair co...

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lFYMfzlzQx4

DisabledDemon · 09/03/2024 12:16

My hairdresser always compliments me on my (box) colour. Besides which, my hair grows so quickly, I'd be living in the salon.

poorbuthappy · 09/03/2024 13:56

I message my hairdresser with photos of the box dye I'm going to use and she advises me on colour! She's fab 😀

JasmineJewels · 10/03/2024 12:42

BeLemonFish · 09/03/2024 07:12

If you were that uncomfortable you had the right to leave.

And equally, she had the right to refuse the job if the use of home colour was so inconvenient and I would have gone elsewhere. But she wanted the £100+ I was paying her.

Thanks for all of your replies. Some of you sound like you have lovely hairdressers and I think I need to find one!

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Barney60 · 10/03/2024 15:33

I think she was rude to say this to you, i use home dyes at the moment , the grey is starting to coming through , i asked my hairdresser about him doing it, he told me to carry on using them until it gets worse, before going to him every 5-6 weeks or so.

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