If you are overweight now do you think your partner still finds you attractive?

[penelopepinkbott]

So I know this seems an odd question but I've been thinking today. I found some old texts and a few naughty pics between my husband and me and looking at my old body I feel so fat. I am overweight (size 14-16) from a 10/12. I looked so good and now I really don't. Can anyone relate? Do you think you're still attractive/ as attractive? Im nearly 40 and I just think he can't fancy me at all.

I've went from a size 14 (it did suit me, I'm quite tall and it was mostly in my ass). Even being that size took constant walking and very, very restrictive eating.
I'm now a size size 24, lots of reasons including 2 kids and some health issue. DH actually prefers me fat, snuggles my belly, squeezes my rolls and tells me how sexy and fat I am.
I think I'm disgusting, but I'm glad my husband still fancies and wants me.

I'm a 12-14 and I'm overweight.

FGS I get the message!!

I will never ever say that 12-14 isn't overweight ever again

I often think sex drive has more to do with how YOU feel than how the other person feels. When I feel good, I feel sexy, I'm not thinking as much about my DH as I am about my own headspace. Same for DH, when he's been running and working out and feels good, he's more up for it, I don't think he's thinking of me any differently if I'm thinner or bigger.

So, no 1, you need to feel attractive yourself, and if that's thinner then that's fine.

Personally I don't like feeling bigger and I don't think I'd find my dh attractive if he got significantly larger. But my feelings about weight are FUCKED from being a teen in the 2000's so I'm maybe not representative of how many people feel.

I'm a 16 now was 12 when met dh he's always been skinny he's a medium very skinny and tall I always felt fat around him but we have a amazing sex life a amazing relationship been together 8 years and still can't keep our hands off each other he is my bestie in every single way

No. She says it doesn’t matter but the fact she’s dangerously thin and prizes this above much else in life suggests it’s actually an issue.

I met DP at a size 14, I've been a size 20 and I'm back on the way down at the moment. I've never noticed any difference in how attracted he is to me, as others have said I think the biggest factor is my own attitude/enthusiasm

I think it probably varies and as ever is different for different people, plus a dress size or two isn’t such a huge difference.

Well most of us tell a few white lies sometimes so who knows.

I was a size 8 and am now a 10 to 12. DH is exactly the same size, I know because he has jeans that are close to 30 years old.

I am a size 16 and he still finds me attractive. He is 15 stone and I still find him attractive. He has the most amazing come to bed with me eyes and smile.

he loves my big boobs and nice bum.

No probably not. He would never say. But then there are things that as we have grown older we probably both wouldn’t find attractive but attraction isn’t the main factor for us.

I know it's not quite the same, but I'm single and dating and I cannot have sex if I am anything above my optimal size which is UK size 6-8 (I'm petite).

If I've had an indulgent week and my weight is up 1-2kg, which can happen after a work trip (restaurant meals 3x a day and way too much wine...), and I happen to be dating a guy then I will postpone a date until I have lost the excess weight.

Being thin and toned is very, very important to me.