To HATE my dog

[Blossomo]

We have a 7 year old pug who literally drives me nuts, he comes upstairs whilst we are out pisses on the banister. I am so sick of cleaning/re-painting. We have quite a big garden and all he does is chase passers by barking constantly. I know a dog is for life and everything but since having kids I really do not have the time and every time I look at him he just annoys me. It is really unfair to him as he could be with a family who love him, dont get me wrong, the kids LOVE him so I could not get rid but he just really gets on my nerves. I used to love dogs, we got a cat a year or so ago and he is amazing!

The cat isn't pissing in the house tho is it? 🙄

I have an old pug and when she was younger was quite demanding and bossy so you do need a firmer approach with them! I would say they are high maintenance. (Like me 😂)

one thing though is they are easy to train if you are CONSISTENT. Otherwise they will take the piss. I was always training her it's good for you and them - no one wants an annoying barking dog. (Nickname Barkso) plus the dog likes boundaries and consistency. They don't have to make their own rules which is stressful. You can turn this around. If not I will have him 😂
photo for the pug lovers

I don't share your opinion but it is absolutely fair enough if you never intend to own a dog. This woman has got one which she deliberately purchased. Nobody held a gun to her head and (I presume) she gave it some adult thought processes before the decision.

You're annoying...

Get him castrated. My MIL dog used to do this until she finally relented and got him done and then it stopped.

ah come on @PurpleChrayn i bet you also have your moments

When did it start? Can you pin point something that changed? Getting the cat maybe?

1. get him neutered
2. get stairgates on the bottom of the stairs, or leave the dog in the kitchen when you're out.

@Blossomo, if he has only just started weeing in the house there might be a health problem .Eg diabetes can contribute to this I think?

Not sure why you are getting so much stick for not neutering him. My dog isn't neutered and doesn't wee in the house, and it sounds like yours didn't until recently.

I would get him looked at by a vet just to rule out physical problems. Good luck.

Why aren't you managing him sensibly?

If he goes and pisses upstairs when you're out theres a good chance he is unhappy being left (scent marking when alone suggests a degree of anxiety, he's scent marking to make himself feel more secure).

I actually would not neuter immediately, if he is scent marking due to anxiety/stress then removing testosterone is likely to cause a sudden drop in confidence which could increase the scent marking.

I would confine to a pen when you're out - check he is actually ok being left via camera and test absences where you're not really gone, you are watching the camera from the garden or just down the street. If he IS ok, he will relax, sprawl out, play with toys, work on a filled kong or chew. If he is not then he's not going to do those things he's more likely to scrabble, dig, climb out, bark, howl, wee/poo.

Asides from pissing when you're out, what else is he doing that you hate - what does he do all day?

You say he has a walk and he's fed - wheres the training, enrichment, games, activities. Training isn't something you do for a bit when they're young then stop... it's something you do throughout the day, every day, for life!

To say you hate your dog is a bit harsh just because he urinates in the house.

I’ve had 4 dogs and 4 cats and currently have a very challenging rescue.

They have all shat, pissed, thrown up and brought in all kind of disgusting things into the house. I have stairgates all over my house, not a pretty sight but it saves a lot of cleaning up.

Did you not give any consideration into what dog ownership is actually like before you got him?

And why did you not get him neutered? It’s one of the first things we as dog owners should do? If you had no idea doing this would help with behaviour then you have very little knowledge of dog ownership.

It’s really not fair that you “HATE” your dog, none of this is his fault poor thing.

The fact that I have a challenging rescue dog (and revue centres are full of damaged dogs) is because of people continually purchasing cute puppies yet having zero idea how keep a dog.

As someone has just said above - is this perhaps a reaction to the cat? Do male dogs wee on things in a territorial way? Male cats certainly do, neutered or not.

@MadamVastra

I said someone would happily adopt him :)
( not suggesting you are a little old lady tho )

I now have 3 puggies as a result of people like the OP
ok No 1 & 2 are pug x shih tzu No 3 is the Daddy pug whom I adopted about a year later.

I'll have him lol I love pugs
My terrier x was a leg cocker but after he was neutered he stopped
It only happens the odd time now if he smells something really strong on my coat when I've been out , say if I've fussed a cat / other dog ( before I wash it of course )
It worked great for him
I'd say get a stair gate too
Lots of luck he sounds lovely just a bit cheeky

I had a few friends who got dogs as baby substitutes and then hated them when finally got a baby (let’s face it, they’re hard work!) I’m not saying the op did this but it’s not unusual.

At the moment you hate your dog because his behaviour is problematic and you don’t have the bandwidth to sort it out due to kids and cat.

Stop. Remember the dog you loved and still have. Take some steps to sort it- a baby gate; vet visit and neutering if recommended, and if not a big crate for being left unattended.

Then, and only then, have a rethink.

What message do you want to give your kids about relationships, love and pet responsibilities?

I know it’s not, but they’re not usually do open about it. I think this is a wind up to get attention and to get people frothing.

I hated my dog (she's 3) between the puppy to adult years. I wanted to give her away. I remember being in forest and walking away to drop her poop in a bin and thought about leaving her in the forest. I didn't. She is good as gold now, I invested time in her, training and now she is my best friend I just adore her

This sounds like a training issue, also giving him the snip could also help. I get that you feel bad but he's a sentient being that it sounds like has been pushed out and replaced now you have kids. Toileting changes with no health concerns sounds like a behavioural problem so I'd engage a dog behaviourist to support you will reduce your stress and also help perhaps with bonding as imagine cleaning his wee multiple times a day isn't conducive to repairing it. Also get a stair gate, find zoning dogs to just the downstairs is much easier for everyone.

Your dog should be neutered too! Totally irresponsible!

Really amazed you didn't neuter? This is a pretty standard part of pet ownership. How come you didn't? It would be really weird that your vet didn't immediately suggest it when asked their view of the peeing indoors....given that that's odd behaviour in a toilet trained dog, I assime of course you did actually ask your dog's vet before posting on a random web forum?

You kept his bollocks and didn't train him.

Wtf did you expect?

The problem is YOU.

It sounds like he has a stress-related behaviour and maybe separation anxiety. Instead of hating your dog when he's struggling, you need to invest some time and energy into learning why he's doing what he's doing, see if there is a medical issue behind it or if it is stress-related, and figure out a solution to keep him happy and healthy. He can't TELL you that you're making him miserable and letting him down, so he has to show you. Listen to your dog and show him you care by working out what the issue is and attending to his needs. He's not a machine, if his behaviour has changed there is a reason behind it and you need to be a responsible dog owner and figure out what's going on.

She did train him. He didn't used to do this. This is a new development. How many times does this need repeating 🙄
OP behaviourist and a stair gate.

I'm not sure why the stair gate concerns you so much

FFS. So many people love to jump on the “bad owner” bandwagon without engaging their brain cells 🙄. You don’t hate your dog- you hate the behaviour.

@Blossomo I read your posts as not a lack of early training but the indoor peeing being a more recent thing.

Does it pee in the same place every time?
Is it only when you are out?
Is the dog contained when you are out?
Has the dog been to the vet?
Would you consider neutering him?

There are loads of places to
start. Talk to a behaviourist