To ask you your biggest regrets in life

[ThefloorisLav]

Just that really, do you have any major regrets from decisions you have made in the past?

Any words of Wisdom?

My financial advisor “advised” me in January 2022 not to do a 5 year fixed mortgage at 1.54%, and to instead to a two year fixed at 1.39%.

Thank goodness I ignored his useless advice.

Not dumping my boyfriend when I found out he had lied to me, getting married to that very same man.

Not saying yes to the guy from the university rugby team. He was exactly my type, tall, dark and atheltic with a brain and from the same background as me but I was with my lying ex. I often wonder where I'd be now if I had gone for that drink.

Not telling someone how I really felt, I left it too long for fear of rejection and he got a girlfriend. I don't blame him the feelings were there on both sides (things happened) but I gave off my usual not interested vibes.

Being an alcoholic which ruined my sons life, I’ll never forgive myself for what I selfishly put him through.

I’m living the exact same life 😪💔

I tend not to regret stuff - especially things I could have done career-wise in my life because otherwise if I had done those things, I would have taken a different path, not met DH and wouldn’t have my kiddos now and obviously I don’t regret having them.

There are one or two things I said when emotional to friends that I wish I hadn’t.
One specific time I wrote something on social media and I don’t even remember what it was I said because I deleted it as soon as I realised it came over wrong….but sadly the friend who read it has not spoken to me since.
That’s probably the biggest regret because they were such a lovely friend.
But her not speaking to me now is a massive punishment and has taught me to think more before typing! 😢

My school careers advisor said that hardly anyone gets in to vet school. I said it might as well be me.

It was, I got in, got a first - and hated the profession. Left immediately. Most of my Uni year are no longer vets either. You didn't miss out.

I am so sorry for your loss. I have read that people very often pass away when their relative nips out or goes home for a change of clothes etc. Try not to blame yourself. Your mum wouldn't want you too 🌺

Getting into debt and living beyond my means at a young age. Its meant that I've spent my whole life in a job I largely havent enjoyed.

I would have had my children at least 5 years earlier.

Having daughters who would hit their teens at the same time.
I didn't think that one through

Not saving or paying into a pension from early 20s.
Not taking better care of my teeth.
Not being better at keeping in touch with people
Not doing regular exercise.
Not dying my hair crazy colours
Not travelling a bit more.
Not getting a dog.
Not drinking more water.

I can understand why you feel that way (we are our own worst critics), but if I worked along side you and knew your backstory, I’d have a deep respect and admiration for how you’ve ended up achieving your goal, having overcome such a huge obstacle to get there.

I was in a very similar situation and feel the same guilt. I don't think I could have done anything but I hate the idea that she died alone.

The daft thing is my mum was lovely and not one to focus on herself. I have no doubts that if I could talk to her about it (wish I could) she would say it doesn't matter at all as she was unconscious so not even aware who was there or not there.

I didn't really think she was just about to die though it also wasn't unexpected so I don't know why I didn't stay with her a bit longer. I think it frightened me to see her so ill in a hospital bed.

When we took out our mortgage 25 years ago the broker suggested that we pay £50 more per month to pay off 5 years early, we said no, we could easily have covered the cost - no idea what we were thinking!

Also regret giving up my hobby when we had our kids, I worked 2 days week and didn’t want to miss anymore time with them. 20years later and I’m back to it, but really regret the lost time. I’m sure they and DH would have coped with me being out 1 evening per week.

I regret letting my parents control me when I was younger, they pushed me into getting a part time job when I was 15, my dad had a good job and my mum chose not to work so there was absolutely no financial reason that I needed to have a job at 15, I subsequently really struggled at 6th form because I didn’t have time to do the homework and I couldn’t spend time with friends outside of 6th form because I was working all weekend, but they wouldn’t let me quit the job because ‘you can’t quit a job without another one lined up’ so I ended up dropping out of sixth form instead, ended up in a series of dead end jobs because any job was better than no job, even if I was coming home in tears every day.

It wasn’t until I moved away from them that I realised just how controlling they were, I feel sorry for them now, their lives seem so joyless because they find fault with everything.

Sorry, that’s really harrowing and a lot to process.

Letting her die I should of done more

Listening to people who I thought were mates trying to steer me to do what they want to benefit them. I don't bother with many people now

This basically.

Not appreciating my parents enough. I was 36 when my mum died, 39 when dad died. I wish I'd had the time and money to have treated them, taken them out, etc.

And telling my mum I didn't think it was a good idea for her to sell up her home, move to my city and buy a house with me and partner. I think that was the point, in her mentally ill perspective, that I betrayed her, and she stopped trusting me, and so she didn't call me the day she killed herself. It wouldn't have been a good idea, I still think that; but I will always always wonder what if I'd tried to make it work.

I should have just got pregnant with the child I wanted. Contraception was my job, so it would have been easy, and accidents happen.

I wish I’d asked DF about his life when I had the chance, and told him I loved him.

Just acknowledging,This is a tough thread to read

Not being more like Edith...

Non, je ne regrette rien