To ask you your biggest regrets in life

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Just that really, do you have any major regrets from decisions you have made in the past?

Any words of Wisdom?

Not buying bitcoin in 2008 , my dh wanted to the financial advisor told us us he might as well go out and burn his 5k he wanted to invest as it was a scam.

moral of the story don’t trust financial advisors if they were that good why are they still working they would all be rich!!

Eating too much when pregnant with DS1. Won’t get into boring details but it had long term consequences that I regret so much. Also having him in the NHS.

had a much healthier pregnancy with DS2. If I could turn back time!

Lots of regrets, but one important one is to look after your teeth. I’ve had several extractions, excruciating toothache and expensive implants. I am in my mid 60s. I wish I had eaten less sweets as a child and paid more attention to dental hygiene. Had my last top molar out recently.

Not going to university, marrying a total prat.

Vacillating on careers.

Not having sex with some of the great looking guys I met when I was younger.

And for having sex with some of the losers.

Buying a house at the onset of the financial crisis in 2007.
Gormless me hadn't a clue.
Have just sold it at a loss but glad to be rid of it.
Has made me very cautious about ever buying again.

Not travelling more when I was young, childfree and independent. Although I have been to some amazing countries, I regret not exploring Australia and NZ and many African countries. I will go to Machu Picchu when I retire.

This. So much time wasted on people pleasing, resentment, treating myself poorly and allowing others to do the same. Because I didn't think I was worth more.

Getting married.
Staying in teaching until retirement age.

Classic case of regretting what I didn't do rather than what I did do here. I feel like I wasted my 20s. I had a career but I didn't push myself further in it, I could have bought a house but I didn't, I had all the time in the world to learn to drive but I didnt. I didn't even do much fun stuff. I worked and I partied with my friends but I didn't travel, I didnt do anything sporty and I didn't have enough adventures. It was all down to a lack of confidence and it makes me sad. I have a happy family life now but I wish I had done more with my youth. I will try and push my kids to be more adventurous

Buying a house near a busy road, the day I moved from it was one of the best days of my life and literally every day now is a blessing.

I really regret some disastrous early boyfriends and situationships in my teens and twenties (pretty much all of them actually) - but I tell myself I had to go through it all to end up with wonderful DH.

Staying in a career I didn't like, because I was too scared to change direction. Took the plunge eventually and love my current role

I regret a few of my sexual experiences when I was younger. I slept with more than one man who didn't love me or even particularly care about me.

I regret not doing theatre studies A Level or English at university. I should have followed my heart.

But the things I am grateful for - my husband and kids mainly - outweigh all the regrets.

Spending so many years overweight; I really let it dictate my life. My job, my friends, my hobbies, how I felt about myself.

I've lost the weight and it doesn't define me now or impact my thinking; I've taken job and hobby opportunities I never would have otherwise. Just wish I'd done it ten years ago.
Or even 20.

Getting a credit card, years of struggling with debt followed.
Choosing my ex as my children's father, he's worse than useless and has caused ongoing issues for them

Going to Cambridge University instead of a friendlier, non-misogynistic place where a passion for learning was encouraged; not getting a first, so my dream of an academic career wasn't attainable; not calling my sibling in time to prevent suicide; listening to all the people who told me I was pathetic and a scrounger for being on sickness benefits for life as a result of the ensuing trauma; drinking and smoking; attempting voluntary work where I faced bullying, instead of having the confidence to apply for PhDs; remaining 11 years with an ex I was passionately in love with but wouldn't commit to a future together; spending years nursing ex's father until his death; spending years as a carer; putting up with what I now realise is unacceptable behaviour from friends and family; not realising how beautiful I was when I was young!

Staying with my exh after I stopped loving him. I stayed for the sake of the kids. The kids actually did better after I left him. I wish I'd known that earlier. I wasted 4 whole years.

Oh. I've had a few; But then again; Too few to mention 😊

Not going low contact with my parents in my twenties. I tried too hard to make them value me, but I would have done that far better by withdrawing and not putting up with their clear favouring of other family members, whilst I was scapegoated or ignored, which was terrible for my self esteem and had made no difference to their treatment of me.

I don’t regret as such, but wish I’d listened to 2 things:

• my mom when she said go to uni straight from after secondary school, then fuck around later. *My ex when he said - let’s buy that flat as an investment. Nope, I was young and living my best life - no one could tell me shit!

Well, I did get the degree, though it was so much harder with a full-time job🤦🏾‍♀️.
My ex now owns 4 properties and I own zero.
I had a bloody good time though, and I’m still enjoying a reasonably good life 🤷🏽‍♀️.

I wish I had started proper budgeting earlier. That’s the only one. I think we would be in a much better financial position now if I had started 20 years ago instead of constantly living hand to mouth.

You live and learn!

No, because while there's been a 'serise of unfortunate events' many down to my choices, theres been a lot of highs too, and that's the life I've lived and the paths I chose. I have no real way of knowing things would have been better had I done things differently, because I didn't. They may just have led to a different sort of bad and good than what I've had.

Not studying harder and school, feeling that I wasn’t worthwhile.

Not punching my bullies

Not studying archeology.