To ask you your biggest regrets in life

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Just that really, do you have any major regrets from decisions you have made in the past?

Any words of Wisdom?

That I went abroad for work.
That I married my husband.

I am trying to act on I can't change the past and learn for the future.

Not going to university and procrastinating far too much when younger. It's left me in a difficult position.

It’s tough going but feels quite common when you get talking to other women. Glad you got there in the end!

So many similar posts here, I echo most of them but also to add :
wish I’d trusted my intuition more from a much younger age rather than always doubting myself and my decisions and believing everyone else was better than me and automatically knew better than me.

Regrets, Ive had a few ...

Selling my house in the late 80s and not buying another until the late 90s. Lost hundreds of thousands of pounds.

Not being true to my natural introversion and instead, faking extroversion.

Not ditching leach/loser boyfriends sooner.

I didn’t tell Tony Wells that I loved him, and then he died. He was so wonderful.

Me too. It feels like a massive task now, I wish I hadn't let it get so bad.

I knew there was something "different" about me when I was 18 and used to spend time Googling about ADHD. I am diagnosed now as being autistic and ADHD but only got diagnosed at 34. I wish I had just sought it out back then. I could have got meds, my life might have been easier, and I might have a career now instead of being behind everyone else. I thought I was just making excuses for being a piece of shit.

I wish I’d had kids earlier. It makes me sad that I’ll be an old grandparent by the time they get around to having those own kids. My neighbour is in her late 70s and often has her great grandchildren round. I won’t meet mine.

When i invested in Bitcoin in 2012, everyone said I was mad and I'd lose it all. Glad i didn't listen!

Not picking up the phone.
My Mum had called me so many times that day, and I was watching a film so figured it was something and nothing and I'd call her back later.
She didn't pick up, so I thought she'd gone to bed.
The next day I found out she'd had a sudden heart attack and died. Really wish I could go back, answer the phone and ask her what she was going to say, even if it was just to talk to me about everything that happened in Emmerdale.

Not studying for a degree, instead working an average job from age 17 so I could enjoy myself.

Having said that, I might not have ended up on the path I am. But if I had a degree, it would open up the pathway for me to teach now in the career I became expert at.

Not going home Easter 2012, which it turns out, was my last chance to see DM alive and aware.

Giving up music! I've forgotten everything I ever learned - what a waste!

Exactly this.

I which I'd been mature enough in my 30's to recognise my partners PTSD and emotional issues and properly help him before he spiralled into alcoholism and died young. He has a beautiful young teen son that misses him endlessly.

Choosing nursing as a career.

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I understand wishing to have had kids younger but then they’d be different children so it’s hard to imagine that. I always thought I’d have two children but I find myself wanting more and being younger would make that possible. I could try for more as I’m under 40 but my partner isn’t for it as he feels he’s too old.

Not doing Uni, not having any self worth which meant I prioritised relationships instead of careers, I would always put them first to my detriment.

I've lived abroad twice. Travelled the world. Married abroad. We did 16 countries the two years before we started ttc to get it out of our systems and it didn't work.
So my biggest regret is moving back to the UK with new husband and getting trapped in the marriage/kids/mortgage cycle. I dream ever day of moving back somewhere where the sunny weather is a given. I hate the weather here/keeping up with the Joneses but we are stuck due to finances/family etc, in a rut looking forwards to our one week abroad every year due to the crazy cost of term time hols (we are both teachers) and my soul bloody dies a bit. I also suffer from SAD despite a shit ton of vitamin d supplements.

I wish I hadn't gone home the night my mum died. I knew she was dying, I just thought she would maybe die the next day,. I had spent the night before sleeping in a camp bed next to her and I so wanted to decompress, so I went home about 1am and she died at 3 am. It seems like madness to me now - what on earth was I thinking?! I can only think I just didn't believe/ couldn't compute that she would actually die and it was such a shock when she did. I think I thought i had let her down, I could have stopped it somehow.
I have come to terms with it a bit now, as a mum, I wouldn't want my kids to see me die at all, and my mum definitely wouldn't have wanted me to see her die. But I wish I wish I could have been there.

StoneTheCrone

2012 well done you, we eventually bought in 2018 , but when I think we wanted to buy in 2008 and were but off by financial advisor I still think it was our biggest mistake.

Exactly the same here.

Not standing up for myself when bullied at school.
Going out with very abusive ex...has led to lifelong MH issues and was a result of poor self esteem.

Spending more time being single in my 20s

Not rushing to get a ‘proper job’ and buy a house so early. Should’ve spent more time working, travelling around and working or something like that.

Fonding something a bit more wholesome in my 2Os than going out and drinking…. So many days and ££s lost to it. Could’ve been on far better adventures.