To ask you your biggest regrets in life

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Just that really, do you have any major regrets from decisions you have made in the past?

Any words of Wisdom?

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Same age as you Thomasina. I think we all ate far too many sweets back in the 60's. Don't forget they put flouride in the tap water these days which prevents a lot of tooth decay. My teeth aren't great either.

Doing a PhD. It was a pointless waste of a lot of my 20s. Hardly anyone goes on to become an academic, and all it did was delay me getting on the career ladder.

It's had a lifetime effect on my earnings, as I am substantially behind people of an equivalent age who started in my field straight after their undergraduate degrees.

I don't have many regrets as most of the choices I made were either right in the long run (even if they didn't seem so at the time) or they were the only options available to me, or as far as I knew at the time.

The one thing I do regret, is that I wish I'd valued myself more when I was young. I was brought up to believe I was ugly. Being also bullied at school didnt help.

I'm not a raving beauty, but I'm not ugly. But because I believed it, I let men treat me like absolute shit because I was grateful that they were willing to even look at me. Men used me for sex and again I was pathetically grateful for it. But I would also break down at times at how no one really cared about me. My bar was so low it was buried beneath the floor!

Honestly it was going into menopause that changed me. I got the "I don't give a shit" element of it and realised how many years I wasted stressing and crying over my looks. I look back on old photos of me that I used to hate and would say I even look pretty in some. I so wish I could have seen that at the time.

I do like my life now so I can't say it would have been "better" had things gone differently. But it would have been less stressful and damaging.

Having a relationship with a married man
Not starting anti depressants earlier
Not doing a year abroad in uni
Not dating more when I was younger

Oh, and shaving so much of my body hair when I was younger. Now I have a hairy bellybutton 🤦🏼‍♀️

I dont have any regrets ive had life lessons but know regrets.
I once got told i would regret having my son when i did because i was young.
Best thing i ever did he`s a adult now and said person as 3 around her feet.
No point in regrets anyway its like holding on to a grudge you wont move on until you let go.

Date more now you're older there more experienced with age.

Not coming out earlier in life.
Not learning to drive sooner.

Being so men/family focused that I lost who I was and what I enjoyed doing all through late teens and 20's. I moved for them, gave up jobs for them, I didn't pursue goals for them. Even my dad was telling me I shouldn't do the A'levels and Uni course I wanted to do, so I ended up going against myself and being bored and underachieving. All very preventable if I had had more self confidence or other support from an earlier age, but I've grown to be aware it and can at least avoid doing that to DC.

I wish I'd had therapy in my early 20s to help me process things that happened in my childhood, because those things have had a life-long impact and I think if I'd dealt with them sooner I'd have got over them sooner and been much more successful in life.

I also wish I'd sought out decent careers advice, because the advice I got from the schools and uni I went to was utterly useless. As a result, instead of planning a career and working towards a clearly defined goal, I just got whatever job paid me most at the time and ultimately I ended up without a career - just a series of jobs - none of which I wanted or played to my strengths or meant anything. Such a waste, because despite my low self esteem regarding my intelligence or capability (see point 1), I look back now and see how capable I was. I'm middle-aged now and a lifelong chronic underachiever.

It is a scam. Paper or online returns tell you want you want to hear. Try realising them and you'll discover this. People have lost their life savings. Probably because they had had enough of experts , just like you🙄

Many FA are very, very rich.

I second this.

Getting married.

Not taking out that 100% mortgage and getting on the property ladder in 2001. Friends that did are now in lovely houses and mortgage free (or close to it) and it took me another 15 years to get on the ladder

Spending most of my 20s physically unfit. I was never hugely overweight, but I spent most of the time from 20-28 not doing any exercise at all.

I’m early 30s now and in the best shape of my life. I feel like I’ve achieved some great things since I started doing more exercise and eating better - I’ve gained so much confidence.

I regret spending so much of my 20s sitting around watching TV. I could’ve done even more incredible things if I’d had this mindset switch sooner.

Binge drinking every weekend from age 13 to about 33

• should have had access to therapy way sooner

Not following my early career dreams.

I had the potential (and exam grades) to do something really interesting but a lot of negativity from family and a lack of self-confidence led to a dead-end job for too many years.

I have a reasonable career now but not in something that I’m passionate about.

I wish I hadn’t been so hard on myself when I was younger. I couldn’t understand why I found things more difficult than other children and used to tell myself that I must be stupid and lazy and everyone else was better than me. This ruined my confidence and self esteem which really affects me to this day. It turns out I had undiagnosed dyspraxia which is why things were more challenging for me. So it wasn’t my fault.

Settling down far too young. Bought first house at 19 and married at 21. It didn’t last and I moved back in with my parents aged 22. Around 5 years ago I made some spectacular mistakes which I will regret forever but we learn from our mistakes and I’m a better person because of it

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Bitcon was less then a dollar about 85 cent when we wanted to buy it , today it 62,500.00 dollars a bitcoin. The USA government has about 12 billion in bitcoin , if it’s good enough for Blackrock and the USA government then I’m sorry it good enough for me.

so sorry it’s still the biggest regret of my life.

Staying in a career I hated because my parents would have been disappointed if I had done something else. They liked telling their friends at the Rotary Club about their clever daughter and her amazing, elite career. My mother would cry if I suggested doing something else and say “Don’t do that to us. What would people think/say?” At least I’vegot a good pension…

I would have stayed put when my relationship broke down, instead I was so sad I left them everything. I learned my lesson though, when another relationship broke down - I was the one to stay put.

Me too! Definitely this.

That our adoption of a young boy broke down after a couple of months. I didn't see it coming.