To ask you your biggest regrets in life

[ThefloorisLav]

Just that really, do you have any major regrets from decisions you have made in the past?

Any words of Wisdom?

I could have typed this - you’re not alone - I’m sure there are many of us in the same situation

My only other major regret is not seeing the signs earlier regarding ex husband.

He would stop talking to me and not return calls for 2 weeks and I like an idiot didn’t think anything of it. I was young and dumb.

when we got married it still carried on and he would ignore me for weeks sometimes months

I am very blessed and pleased with my lot, but I do regret not accepting a job abroad a number of years ago. However I am pretty sure I wouldn’t be where I am now if I had accepted it.

Not travelling before settling down! 61 now and stuck in the middle of the grandkid, elderly sandwich. No life!

Not caring what people think of me

Not saying out loud what I think (incl. MIL)

not staying in USA for a bit longer (year or two) when longer
But
Still have plenty of life left so must enjoy it as much as possible 🙂

It’s not too late for you my mother had me at 41 her first and only child. She was a wonderful mother as she had done and seen everything she had wanted to do and so was completely devoted to me.

When I was younger there was a guy who I really liked and I knew he felt the same because he openly told me he wanted to be with me. I was too scared to be with him because at the time I had low self esteem and I thought he was way ‘out of my league’.
there was one moment we almost kissed and I turned it into a hug 😅

That was almost 15 years ago, we’re both happily married now but sometimes if I think about that time in my life, I wish I had of just kissed him

I have a number of regrets.
The first one is not doing shorthand and typing at school because my mum didn't want me to do it. I am not sure why not.
Attending a polytechnic to do my 'A' levels instead of a grammar school. Again this was my mum's choice.
Giving up my Saturday job at Woolworths to concentrate on doing my 'A' levels.
Writing to my boyfriend of over 16 years, telling him that I didn't want to see him again. This is my biggest regret and I wish now we had remained friends.

Same age I wanted to be an archaeologist but my dad laughed at me and sent to the cemetery to dig up graves 😳

I have loads. Settling for someone in my mid thirties because I was scared. Having kids late. Working full time in a job I hate. The list goes on….

Not being bothered about Pensions until my 40s. Not getting on the property ladder until my late 30s. Spending loads of money on weekends abroad, designer clothes /furniture etc, spas, shoes, bags, going out out 4 nights a week. Had well paid jobs but didn't really save at all.

All money related.

I hope you can find some comfort (as I have from your post) in knowing you’re not alone in having this regret. I so desperately wish I’d stayed the night with my mum before she died, just so I could have been there in case she’d woken up, but like you, I left at 1am because I was so tired. The nurse even offered me a camp bed but I didn’t understand that they were trying to tell me they didn’t think she’d make it through the night. I wish they’d been more explicit about it as I would have stayed. I’m sorry for us both 💐

I wasn't there when my mum died either. She was diagnosed with leukaemia and started chemo straight away. They said she'd be in hospital for a month after the first round. I didn't live close and arranged to go and stay for a week for her second week in hospital. My siblings all lived close. She died suddenly after 5 days. I should have gone immediately.

This.

I wish I hadn’t gone to sixth form to do A levels. When I was at school I worked in a clothes shop at the weekends and in the holidays and I absolutely loved it. It made me so happy. When I left school I’d intended to go straight to work as I enjoyed it so much. My Mum had always worked in retail and loved it so was supportive. I did very well at school so was (strongly) encouraged by teachers,etc to go further. I really didn’t want to but by the time they’d finished with me and my parents I ended up going. It was hell. I only lasted a year and I was then on a path which lead to many years of desperate unhappiness and ill health. Of course it wasn’t the only reason but was a major factor.

Divorcing my 1st husband and still being with my 2nd husband

I’m really sorry this happened to you, that must have been extremely difficult

@ThefloorisLav
Not cmg out earlier. Gtg married because it's what everyone did in my environment. I do have a wonderful daughter from that relationship.
Perhaps we only do things when we are ready to do them.

meeting my soulmate to late.

To those who have posted about not being with their mothers when they died: I went home too. The sister suggested it and promised to ring if there was any change. They only rang after she had died. But I have heard this often happens, as if, by leaving, we give our loved one permission to die. I don’t know if this is superstition or why but I find it comforting.

Also letting silly jealous women do me down when I was young I was attractive and some of the venom was unbelievably

Smoking.
Not moving house 10 years ago.

I don’t believe in regrets. They are a waste of energy. You do what you think is right at the time and you live with it. ‘If only……..’ is a waste of time.

Spending my late teens and most of my 20’s in long relationships with a succession of awful, abusive deadbeat boyfriends. I just had no idea of what a decent man should be like.

If the children and their mother don’t live with their father, won’t their mother be picking up even more domestic labour? I don’t think most women who live with men are doing every single bit of domestic labour themselves, even if some of them do too much.

Putting my career as a priority after my DS turned 1 and I went back to work from mat leave . Should have focused on baby no 2 instead of career and now it's too late 😥. It haunts me nearly every day