@ForeverDelayedEpiphany
That's a very sweeping statement, and I don't think it's everyone's experience.
Men can bring a lot of benefits to a family, and most children will be better with a father figure (ideally being a loving, caring dad obviously).
Why is it better for children to not have a man in their lives? 😳
Firstly I don't think it's automatically better for children not to grow up with a mother and father. In an optimal situation a good, loving, father and mother is the ideal.
More often than not, though, it's not optimal living with a man. Family dynamics vastly benefit men over women: they force the woman into making unpalatable compromises in terms of finances and men usually innately come to believe themselves to be the "head of the family" (usually based on nothing other than their sex) which leads to them generally throwing their weight around in terms of roles and responsibilities, with the woman picking up far more domestic labour than is beneficial and this sets unfortunate role models for both male and female children. It doesn't always happen but it happens enough for me not to want to bet against it.
Also I didn't say (and I don't believe) that children will be better off without a man in their lives. I just think eight times out of ten its better if they don't live with the man.
Look I know my view isn't mainstream and I'm not saying no one should ever get married. I'm just saying regretting not finding "the one" when you've raised kids perfectly well on your own seems misplaced.