Was I BU to leave the pub after being told off by the manager?

[EmptyTheFrickingBins]

I had booked a table for a group of seven people to celebrate a Ruby wedding anniversary. On arrival to the pub we found the table with our reservation and sat down to wait for the rest of party - this was at 4:30 which was our booked time.

Three other guests were already seated at the table and there was no indication that any other table had been reserved for us.

My parents - who are both elderly and disabled - arrived and I returned to the table with them where we asked the other guests if they'd be happy to share-- there would have been room and we couldn't move because the only free tables were for four or under. This was at 4:45 and we had been waiting for them to finish.

They reacted in a very angry way and stormed off from the table and must have informed the staff on the way out.

I just want to be clear - at no point where we rude or demanding.

We were viewing the menu when a manager in a pink top came over to the table and told us rudely that we shouldn't have asked the other guests to move (again - at no point did we do this), that another table had been reserved for us and we should have spoken to the staff - again none of this was indicated, and only the one table had our name on it!

I felt extremely embarrassed by the interaction - we sat at the table in good faith as it had the reserved sign on with our name.

The woman's attitude was awful and spoiled the night - we ended up leaving because we no longer felt welcome - everyone was looking at us as she told us off!

That doesn't matter. No one elected you the "Guardians of Reserved Tables", have they?
You should have spoken to the staff and let THEM deal with THEIR business.

You were rude and acted very entitled. How utterly embarrassing!

My Dad did that at a cinema once @Grammarnut - insisted people move from his seats - Mum was embarrassed insisting they'd sit in empty seats, but Dad made them move. When the film came on they realised they were in the wrong screening room but were too mortified to move and stayed until the end - it was a horror (which they hate) and it was in 3D and they were the only ones not wearing glasses. We stlll rib them about it.

Oh my god you can't just plonk yourself down at a table other people are at we had this once. Sat down waiting for our food and a random man sat down with us with his pint. Assumed he had some kind of learning difficulty and left him to it- it happens! Found another free table.

In your case I'd have simply asked the staff to sort the reserved table or find another suitable one. Really not the done thing to do otherwise. You don't share tables with others unless it's wagamamas and even then it's the staff who seat you there 😂

You know what, I done with this site. Never in my life have I read such snotty, condescending, snobby comments from a bunch of bitches. It was a fucking Hungry Horse not the fucking Savoy.

@GoldEagle It's not an airport, you don't need to announce your departure.

Unnecessary.

You can disagree with someone's actions but is there any need to have a skitty dig at their name too?

ooh I get it with my name all the time. Usually it’s Mrs er er , can I call you (first name )? I don’t go round giving the evils and flouncing out

That's hilariously endearing.

OP, if you're still reading, I think you had good intentions and cared about your parents' needs. I have a disabled mum, I know the feeling of wanting her to sit down asap for her own safety.

@EmptyTheFrickingBins arent you the OP?

This thread is bonkers

Did you mean to use another log in or do a name change so it looked like you had more support than you actually have?

What do you mean it wasn't the OP as far as you can tell? Aren't you the OP??

The thing that was wrong with it is that the table was already taken!!! Truly bizarre behaviour OP. Of course they complained to the manager on the way out - how would you have reacted if you were enjoying your meal and some weirdo stranger took it upon herself to plonk her kids down next to you at your table?? I'm just baffled why you joined a group of strangers at a table rather than tell a staff member that you've reserved a table for x time so that they could take you to the actual table you were meant to be at. Why was your first thought "oh yeah we'll sit down and make them uncomfortable so they'll leave quicker"? You chose to leave after you were told that you should have told a member of staff you'd arrived instead of just sitting down at an already occupied table. That's not the manager's fault, it's yours

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Speaking in third person or whatever it is called?

Your disabled parents wouldn't have had a problem sitting if, 15 minutes earlier when you arrived, you had done the normal thing and simply told a staff member you had arrived for your reservation. Because then you would have been sitting at your actual table and your parents would have joined you there. Rather than you slowly taking up seats at a stranger's table in the hopes they'd bugger off out of sheer awkwardness

Awww I wish I could see what had been deleted 🤣

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Maybe somebody didn't know mn have made it difficult to sockpuppet on threads you start.

Except @EmptyTheFrickingBins said they were a party of 7 (5 adults, 2 children) and the other party were 3, but somehow op was going to be able to "leave a big gap" between both parties at a table for 10

That is brilliant

I explained that in a previous post?

Yabu & rude

Doesn't matter if it's a hungry horse or a Michelin starred restaurant I always wait to be seated especially if I've reserved a table.

If your name is as common as your actions there could well be more than one table reserved under the same name

I meant in general a 4 some could join a 3 some if the 3 some are taking a table meant for 10.

That's fairly normal in busy pubs.

So the rule that people would never join another groups table doesn't apply when the first group has a table far too big for their needs.