You've completely missed the boat in anger. I never said that trans women are female. I said they are women.
Female = Mammalian/Sex
Woman = Human/Gender identity.
You can be a female and feel like a woman, or you can be male and feel like a woman. Being a woman is related to ones internal sense-of-self. It's how we feel about ourselves and unique to all of us. Having ovaries doesn't make you judge and jury over anyones sense-of-self.
And of course you talk of paraphilia's...we're back here again are we? Back to autogynephilia? When trans women go on HRT, their sex drive usually plummets and they tend to become impotent. It makes no sense. If it's sexual, then why we not de-transition when the so called "paraphilic disorder" element disappears?
And don't you like feeling sexy? When women wear lingerie and red lipstick so their lips resemble a vagina, is that not sexual? You don't like feeling desirable? Of course most women do...but if a trans woman does these things, suddenly it's a paraphilia? Maybe it's just us feeling in-tune with our femininity and sense-of-self, the same as it is with most women.
Plus, even when it is sexual and comes up later in life (which it does for some trans women) it's usually merely an outlet because it's the only way they feel able to express their femininity and experience euphoria. Hence when they go on HRT, the so called "paraphilias" disappear.
For most of us, it's not sexual. I hated being a boy from as young as 5 years old. I asked for a dolls house for my 6th birthday and was refused and reprimanded. I knew I wanted to be a girl before I knew anything about sex. I couldn't bear the idea of living as a boy or growing old as a man. I would have rather taken my own live 100 times over. Just as most people would if their gender identity doesn't match their gender expression. Imagine waking up and seeing a man in the mirror. In that scenario would it be realistic for me to just tell you to "get on with your life, that's your body now"? Or would you try to do something about it?
Ironic that you say we have mental illnesses, yet when we transition, the mental illnesses rates among us seem to plummet. Seems we're not fixing the "illness" in "the right way" in your view? Even the pseudo-scientist Ray Blanchard who peddled the same paraphilia argument last century (and was humbled some decades ago) came to the conclusion that transitioning was the best solution. But "I've got a degree in molecular biology" over here knows what's best for us apparently!
The thing is, we do just want to get on with our lives. We don't ask for much. Mostly just basic HRT and gender identity clinic access so we can transition and become productive members of society with decent well-being, for people to treat us with dignity as human beings like everyone else, and for people to not thrust being trans front and centre when anything bad happens.
Case in point - here we have a psychopath and a murderer, but the priority on mumsnet is that the criminal is trans? That's what angers people about this person? Seriously? Maybe reflect on that a bit. It's insane.