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Announce husbands cheating in WhatsApp group (other woman is in it and l will name her)

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TruthorDie · 22/02/2024 08:47

I found out my husband cheated on me before we got married, invited the woman he cheated with to our wedding and she came to our wedding. He’s not especially contrite about it all, is unable (l think it’s unwilling but anyway) why he invited her and why she attended. He claims l suggested he invite her so he did! In reality she’s a friend of his and we invited all of our friends.

To put the boot in she got blind drunk at the wedding, was a total mess, l was pregnant when we got married and then the next day hassled us a lot to return the items she had left at our venue. My husband, the woman he cheated with and myself are all in a WhatsApp group together and lm contemplating announcing we are splitting up and why including naming her. Probably not very dignified but lm guessing quite satisfying. I’m pretty sure some people in the group know about the cheating as they were there when it happened but not everyone does

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TruthorDie · 22/02/2024 15:57

Looks like the OW has turned up 🤣. Funnily enough her name does begin with the next letter of the alphabet than this poster

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wronginalltherightways · 22/02/2024 15:58

ttcat37 · 22/02/2024 14:02

“Just to let you all know, I’m divorcing my husband because he shagged someone else. The someone else was fully aware that he was engaged to me and even had the audacity to come to our wedding”

Leave it a moment or two…

”In fact, the other woman is in this whatsapp group!”

I’d then do a poll called “who slept with my husband?”, and make all options her name.

😂

betterangels · 22/02/2024 15:58

Lampslights · 22/02/2024 15:52

Wow. What a horrible bitchy little comment.

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Nah. She seems to have very low standards based on the "he hadn't made a commitment."

38woman · 22/02/2024 16:00

2Rebecca · 22/02/2024 15:44

This was before you got married though. There must be other things that have made you decide to end the marriage as well as him 2 timing you before you got married. He hadn't made a commitment to you at that point.

They were engaged and expecting a baby - is this serious?

HemlockSoup · 22/02/2024 16:00

Lampslights · 22/02/2024 15:52

Wow. What a horrible bitchy little comment.

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Not bitchy imo.

Mind boggled would be more accurate.

I find it depressing that any woman on MN would tell herself that until she had a wedding ring on her finger that any behaviour on her partner’s part was fair game really. No real commitment had been made until the wedding day.

I can only assume that someone who says such a thing does turn a blind eye to a lot of shit.

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TruthorDie · 22/02/2024 16:02

HemlockSoup · 22/02/2024 16:00

Not bitchy imo.

Mind boggled would be more accurate.

I find it depressing that any woman on MN would tell herself that until she had a wedding ring on her finger that any behaviour on her partner’s part was fair game really. No real commitment had been made until the wedding day.

I can only assume that someone who says such a thing does turn a blind eye to a lot of shit.

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By that logic a blow job half an hour before the wedding, by one of the bridesmaids would be fine as well. That didn’t happen to here -l know that for sure as no bridesmaids!

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Wilkolampshade · 22/02/2024 16:05

Yeah, I would, totally. Name names, make it clear when it happened, short and clear.
Fuck all this 'suffering in silence' BS.

Sugarfish · 22/02/2024 16:06

I’d do it. Throw in a grenade and see what happens. People would maybe feel to awkward to reply but atleast they’d know and they’d hear it from you!

ItsASecret2013 · 22/02/2024 16:06

TruthorDie · 22/02/2024 16:02

By that logic a blow job half an hour before the wedding, by one of the bridesmaids would be fine as well. That didn’t happen to here -l know that for sure as no bridesmaids!

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😂

Have you messaged yet? I'm gripped by this thread

ChangeAgain2 · 22/02/2024 16:07

2Rebecca · 22/02/2024 15:44

This was before you got married though. There must be other things that have made you decide to end the marriage as well as him 2 timing you before you got married. He hadn't made a commitment to you at that point.

He married her under false pretenses. He married her having cheated and lied. He didn't tell her and let her make an informed decision. He tricked her. He did this all in full view of his affair partner. He betrayed her. They were in a relationship and the commitment doesn't begin with marriage.

Evilspiritgin · 22/02/2024 16:08

This reads like the follow on story from the post last week about fwbs and him getting married to his pregnant girlfriend

MrsElijahMikaelson1 · 22/02/2024 16:09

Do it

PrueRamsay · 22/02/2024 16:09

HemlockSoup · 22/02/2024 16:00

Not bitchy imo.

Mind boggled would be more accurate.

I find it depressing that any woman on MN would tell herself that until she had a wedding ring on her finger that any behaviour on her partner’s part was fair game really. No real commitment had been made until the wedding day.

I can only assume that someone who says such a thing does turn a blind eye to a lot of shit.

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Either that or @2Rebecca is the sort of woman who thinks an engaged man with a baby on the way is “fair game” until he says “I do”…

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TruthorDie · 22/02/2024 16:10

Evilspiritgin · 22/02/2024 16:08

This reads like the follow on story from the post last week about fwbs and him getting married to his pregnant girlfriend

I must have missed that one. Was the FWB annoyed about him marrying the pregnant girlfriend?

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Moveoverdarlin · 22/02/2024 16:11

Oh OP, just do it. They both deserve to squirm. Keep it short and sweet, don’t swear, don’t be reduced to insults. But I would definitely name her.

Suchagroovyguy · 22/02/2024 16:12

I think the fact that he was fucking this woman while his partner was enduring fertility treatment makes this all worse somehow.

Evilspiritgin · 22/02/2024 16:14

she was more annoyed because he’d not told her, she’d found out by snooping

most posters were worried by potential std in pregnant lady as fwb had also had a ons

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TruthorDie · 22/02/2024 16:16

Evilspiritgin · 22/02/2024 16:14

she was more annoyed because he’d not told her, she’d found out by snooping

most posters were worried by potential std in pregnant lady as fwb had also had a ons

Another classy story!

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ArchetypalBusyMum · 22/02/2024 16:16

ttcat37 · 22/02/2024 14:02

“Just to let you all know, I’m divorcing my husband because he shagged someone else. The someone else was fully aware that he was engaged to me and even had the audacity to come to our wedding”

Leave it a moment or two…

”In fact, the other woman is in this whatsapp group!”

I’d then do a poll called “who slept with my husband?”, and make all options her name.

This is perfect. Genius. 👌

Caerulea · 22/02/2024 16:17

Why do women always have to be dignified when they've been shit on? But dignified always means..

Don't rock the boat
They won't believe you
You brought this on yourself
Don't ring the police
Don't tell...

Bullshit, we need to stop covering up other people's mistakes cos all the above does is allow the narrative to be turned against you, cos for some reason we aren't to speak our truth. Dignified, to me, would be calmly stating who are the twats in this situation & walking away with head high.

TheGoogleMum · 22/02/2024 16:19

Name and shame!

ArchetypalBusyMum · 22/02/2024 16:20

Well said @Caerulea shine a bright light on them so all can see them in all their 'glory' and then walk away.
You can keep your dignity by refusing to go into the gutter about it, don't have to keep silent though.

TheAlertCrow · 22/02/2024 16:21

YANBU But….. I wouldn’t announce it on the WhatsApp group. Leave him and leave the WhatsApp group as well. Keep your head up high.

NeedToChangeName · 22/02/2024 16:24

I'd probably send the same short / factual message to each person in the group, rather than messaging them all in one go

Remember though, whatever you say / do, can't be undone. I'd take time to think carefully how you want to play this

Sorry this has happened to you. It's shitty

Witchbitch20 · 22/02/2024 16:26

I’m going against the grain but do it!

Bollocks to them. It will be out in the open and none of the gossiping amongst a cast of thousands.

Everyone always says “turn the other cheek” or be the bigger person. He sounds like a class dick. They deserve each other, so why pussy foot around.